Such discrepancies are inevitable in these tables because there really isn’t any way to condense the “strength of the forces” down to single numbers like that. These are effective numbers in “typical” scenarios, for arbitrary choices of “typical”.
For instance, the electromagnetic force and the weak force are actually the same force. They only appear different because an aspect of the unified “electroweak” force is frozen out at today’s typical energies due to the Higgs mechanism giving substantial mass to two of the three physical force-carrying bosons. If you heated up some material to, say, 10[sup]16[/sup] K, what we call the “electomagnetic” and “weak” forces would be about the same strength.
The strong force is also very situation dependent, exhibiting of note asymptotic freedom. The strong force gets very weak for two closely confined strongly charged (“colored”) particles like quarks. For instance, the quarks inside a proton behave nearly as if they are free quarks. However, if you try to remove one, perhaps by smashing into it with another particle, the strong force holding the quarks together gets very strong very quickly as separation begins.
In practice, then, one picks “typical” particles interacting with “typical” energies and puts some order-of-magnitude numbers together. Since the Coulomb and gravitational forces have a familiar functional form for everyday scenarios, one can just pick protons or electrons or whatever and take the ratio of the forces. For EM vs. weak, one might compare the interaction probabilities for electron-electron collisions versus electron-neutrino collisions at some arbitrary collision energy. More likely for such tables, though, one might just note that the ratio of the forces at low energy will be approximately the square of the ratio of the energy scale of the interaction to the mass of the relevant gauge boson (e.g., the Z boson). At 1 GeV (high for “everyday”, but not too high for some relevant behaviors like particle decay), one gets (1 GeV / ~90 GeV)[sup]2[/sup] ~= 0.0001. So, if you choose to set the EM force at 1/137 in a table, then the weak force would end up at ~10[sup]-6[/sup] in this approach. The strong force might be introduced by looking at the ratio of lifetimes for a prototypical strongly decaying particle to a similar weakly decaying particle.
Anyway, yes, these tables are somewhat arbitrary, though not without pedagogical value. However, even with current theory, any two of the three Standard Model forces can be made to have the same strength by choosing your situation appropriately. It is an active area of theoretical research to determine if there is a more generalized theory – a “grand unified” theory – for which all three of these forces end up being the same underlying force, just with three different low-energy manifestations. (Getting gravity to join such a theory is another task entirely.)