# Remarried an ex-spouse? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 11, 2013, 12:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remarried-an-ex-spouse/649921 "2013-02-11T00:07:22Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![4311](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/4/d26b3c/32.png) [@4311](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/4311)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2013, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remarried-an-ex-spouse/649921/41 "2013-02-12T01:32:29Z")
> [@FoieGrasIsEvil](#): > > Lulz… > > Same here. Not just no way, but no _fu\*\*ing_ way. How old are you? You can’t be old enough to have been married, or even in a relationship. Are you even familiar with words other than profanity to express your feelings? Ugh… ---
**Author:** ![4311](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/4/d26b3c/32.png) [@4311](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/4311)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2013, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remarried-an-ex-spouse/649921/42 "2013-02-12T01:50:07Z")
I want to thank those who have stayed on track. I want to hear about people reconciling. I do not want to hear the same old “an ex is an ex for a reason” or “never ever in my life” or any of the many other 3 year old remarks. Please, I know I can’t determine what how you will reply but I ask all, with respect, please just reply based on my original post. Just be kind, I know you can…Thank you. ---
**Author:** ![Gleena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b3f665/32.png) [@Gleena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gleena)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2013, 4:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remarried-an-ex-spouse/649921/43 "2013-02-12T04:34:07Z")
> [@4311](#): > > How old are you? You can’t be old enough to have been married, or even in a relationship. Are you even familiar with words other than profanity to express your feelings? Ugh… No fucking way for me either, and I’m probably older than you, dude. Absolutely no way, no how would I ever re-marry that goat-felching son-of-bitch. Make of that profanity what you will. He’s an asshole. There isn’t enough profanity to get that point across. But to answer your OP, sort of. My mom’s third marriage. She was married for 15 years to the guy (my stepdad, obviously). She left, moved across country. Was surely having an emotional affair and probably a physical one at the time, which my stepdad didn’t and probably doesn’t know about, but the other dude’s wife did. She stayed gone for 10 years or so? Don’t remember how long exactly, but a good long time (and the emotional affair died - literally, sadly, the guy did die) in the meantime. She was picking up dudes off Yahoo! chat. It was disgusting. Anyway, my stepdad never gave up hope, kept in touch all that. She retired, did her sums, worked out she’d be financially better off if she moved back in with him, so she did. They haven’t remarried but it’s been five or six years now. They haven’t because something something I stopped paying attention but it has to do with their benefits packages they get from being veterans and ex-government employees. She swears he’s ‘changed’ or something, but the truth of it is he’s pretty smitten with her and she’s a mercenary bitch. So it worked out for her in the end. Maybe him, too, depending. I try to stay away from that crazy mess, but she’s my mom, so we talk four times a year. (Christmas, her birthday, mother’s day and my birthday) and she seems to have now finally twigged I’ve shortened up contact. All’s well that ends well, hey? ---
**Author:** ![bldysabba](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecccb3/32.png) [@bldysabba](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bldysabba)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2013, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remarried-an-ex-spouse/649921/44 "2013-02-12T05:12:12Z")
> [@Nava](#): > > Didn’t we just…? > > [Yes we did.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=676922) > [@Loach](#): > > Good to see my opinion has not changed. Or my eloquence. Hahah. Loach’s first response in both threads is fantastic. As for the OP, a friend’s parents have gotten divorced and remarried, then divorced again, and have recently been kinda sorta together again. Me, I don’t even understand why people get married in the first place, so I’m mystified. ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2013, 1:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remarried-an-ex-spouse/649921/45 "2013-02-12T13:08:01Z")
> [@Loach](#): > > Fuck that shit. **THIS** So very much, this. ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2013, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remarried-an-ex-spouse/649921/46 "2013-02-12T13:20:58Z")
More: my ex, to most of the rest of the world, is a kind and decent person. If you were to meet her today you’d think she’s very nice, very kind. But to me and our three kids (at that time aged 10, 8 and 6), she walked away with no notice, utterly and surprisingly one day, on Memorial Day Monday in 1995. No explanation, no nothing. She pulled the rug out from underneath us, completely and quickly. Back then, and for a few years after that day, she never explained why. She might be able to articulate a reason now, but it doesn’t matter. Her family called me to ask What Is She Thinking? She refused counseling of any kind. So as **Loach** said, Fuck That Shit. ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2013, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remarried-an-ex-spouse/649921/47 "2013-02-12T16:14:11Z")
> [@hajario](#): > > Not only non-responsive but the exact opposite of what the OP asked. > > Seriously, no one gives a shit. Start a new thread. I want everyone to stop junior-modding. I’ve gotten the thread reports regarding what Loach said, and despite what you opine here, hajario, I think his response was on-topic, albeit abrupt and nasty-sounding. He answered that based on his personal experience, it’s a really bad idea. Besides, he came back and explained his answer. It’s a fine line, I know, but he wasn’t blasting him for even broaching the topic, which I consider a threadshit. It is a debate-ish forum, after all. Anyway, everyone stop wagging your fingers at each other. Talk about the topic without insulting and junior-modding each other, and we’re good. ---
**Author:** ![4311](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/4/d26b3c/32.png) [@4311](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/4311)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2013, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remarried-an-ex-spouse/649921/48 "2013-02-13T00:53:20Z")
So back on topic. Anyone else know of other couples reconciling? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remarried-an-ex-spouse/649921.md?page=2)