# Remind me again, what do women want? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 27, 2002, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remind-me-again-what-do-women-want/100390 "2002-03-27T16:08:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2002, 6:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remind-me-again-what-do-women-want/100390/41 "2002-03-28T06:12:57Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Scylla \* > \*\*Oh, and they also like it when you take them on shopping esprix. \*\* My sense of balance has been a tad off lately. Would it have to be right on top? ---
**Author:** ![Fluffy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Fluffy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fluffy)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2002, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remind-me-again-what-do-women-want/100390/42 "2002-03-28T17:57:43Z")
I want a guy who has dark hair, brown eyes, meium build, Mid 30s or 40s who is a plumber!šŸ˜ƒ ---
**Author:** ![inertia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/d07c76/32.png) [@inertia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/inertia)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2002, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remind-me-again-what-do-women-want/100390/43 "2002-03-28T19:08:52Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Francesca \* > \*\*So youā€™re saying that a lot of women _say_ that they want to be treated as individuals, but act as if they wonā€™t settle for less than the moon on a stick. > > You missed my point. I would advise that you stop asking what ā€œwomenā€ want. Ask what each individual woman you would like to date would like. Generic tips help in getting a first date. Beyond that youā€™re dating a person, not ā€œwomenā€. If you find that person happens to desire the moon on a stick and you canā€™t provide it, youā€™re not suited. Just as if you were the one that desired the moon on a stick and she couldnā€™t provide it. > > There are plenty of women who are not nearly as demanding as you think. Plenty who donā€™t have a set list of demands. And for those who do, those demands are usually flexible. **Monty** , for example, has only two things she considers _very_ important. The rest is flexible. šŸ™‚ \*\* I hope youā€™re not under the impression that Iā€™m frustrated with looking for an SO. I donā€™t want a date., Iā€™m just asking 1) to get some dialogue going, 2) Iā€™m seriously tired of the Existence of God threads in GD and 3) out of morbid curiosity to see if anyone can say anything original about the topic. ---
**Author:** ![inertia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/d07c76/32.png) [@inertia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/inertia)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2002, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remind-me-again-what-do-women-want/100390/44 "2002-03-28T19:27:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by kittenblue \* > \*\*As for bugs and pickle jarsā€¦youā€™re missing the point, Inertia. I live alone. I kill bugs, and open jarsā€¦I may need a special tool, but I do it. But I donā€™t enjoy bug-squishing, and I would love to have someone here who would do it for me, just because they care about me, and because they know that those little considerations are sometimes the sexiest thing a man can do. \*\* Iā€™m not missing the point. My counterpoint is that a non-debatable quality of the single most sexiest woman on the planet is that she can squish her own bugs, metaphorically speaking. The way I figure it is that when two people get married, this union should add up to more than the sum of its parts. 1 + 1 \> 2 (thatā€™s a pre-child number.) My concern is that this union of two people, one of which now can no longer squish her/his own bugs, equals some quantity less than 2. ---
**Author:** ![mrblue92](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5daacb/32.png) [@mrblue92](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mrblue92)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2002, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remind-me-again-what-do-women-want/100390/45 "2002-03-28T19:30:16Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by inertia \* > ā€¦Iā€™m seriously tired of the Existence of God threads in GDā€¦_\* Have you tried the Creation/Evolution threads instead?šŸ˜› How much more originality are you looking for? Should we start suggesting that ā€œgirls just wanna have lunchā€? (Weird Al) ---
**Author:** ![kittenblue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ba8739/32.png) [@kittenblue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kittenblue)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2002, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remind-me-again-what-do-women-want/100390/46 "2002-03-28T21:48:44Z")
Gee, I really have to learn how to use the quote featureā€¦ However, dear Inertia, when I was married, I retained my ability to squish bugs. And open jars. And get estimates on car repairs. And haul those 400-lb trash cans to the curb, and mow the huge sloping lawn even when pregnant, and empty litter boxes, and use power tools (that B in woodworking class at Kent State came in handy.) But when my husband was around, he did those things, because 1.) he knew they werenā€™t my favorite activities, 2.) doing them made him feel productive and yes, masculine, and 3.) he preferred doing those things to sewing, cooking, cleaning, changing diapers, removing slivers, grocery shopping and rubbing feet. Maybe there are some women who use a relationship as an excuse to become helpless and dependent, but most of us are able to copeā€¦we would just prefer not to do it alone. Or with a lazy, self-centered boy. What women really want is men. Grown-up, responsible men. ---
**Author:** ![Wisest\_Novel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wisest_novel/32/13329_2.png) [@Wisest\_Novel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wisest_Novel)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2002, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remind-me-again-what-do-women-want/100390/47 "2002-03-28T22:34:22Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by kittenblue \* > **Maybe there are some women who use a relationship as an excuse to become helpless and dependent, but most of us are able to copeā€¦we would just prefer not to do it alone.** And thatā€™s not an attitude exclusive to females. I miss the ā€œdivision of laborā€ thing, too. Sure, it was along pretty ā€œsexistā€ lines when I was married, but we both preferred it that way, and there were exceptions (I was the primary baby-tender). Now Iā€™ve grown accustomed to handling everything myself, and I still get my ā€œWhite Knightā€ fix from opening jars and killing bugs for my daughter, but it isnā€™t exactly the same. Plus, it often seems it would be nice to have someone else braid my daughterā€™s hair, or rub my shoulders, orā€¦did you say Cleveland, **kittenblue**? šŸ˜‰ ---
**Author:** ![Krab\_King](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Krab\_King](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Krab_King)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2002, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remind-me-again-what-do-women-want/100390/48 "2002-03-28T22:41:29Z")
[QUOTE] \*Originally posted by chula \* HOW TO PLEASE A MAN Show up naked. Bring beer. Forget the beer!!! ---
**Author:** ![brainychick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b38774/32.png) [@brainychick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brainychick)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2002, 11:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remind-me-again-what-do-women-want/100390/49 "2002-03-28T23:19:54Z")
I want a guy who is emotionally healthy, or working on it. Once you have that, all those other things ā€“ kindness, financial responsibility, etc. ā€“ kinda fall into place. Think about it ā€“ all the worst male and female traits (abusiveness, materialism, laziness, overspending, overeating, infidelity) come from some kind of unmet emotional need. Resolve that crap, and youā€™re free to give your best to a relationship. šŸ˜ƒ ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2002, 2:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remind-me-again-what-do-women-want/100390/50 "2002-03-29T02:46:33Z")
FTR this guy **will** squish on behalf of a woman verminous bugs such as roaches and venomous arthropods such as Black Widows; however, innocuous spiders and millipedes I will just toss out over the other side of the hedge. My sparing the spiders annoyed a very dearly beloved lady to no end. Which only steeled my resolve šŸ˜› ---
**Author:** ![Marley](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Marley](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2002, 6:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remind-me-again-what-do-women-want/100390/51 "2002-03-29T06:26:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by inertia \* > **My counterpoint is that a non-debatable quality of the single most sexiest woman on the planet is that she can squish her own bugs, metaphorically speaking.** Ooh, then I must be astonishingly sexy. Iā€™ve squished a few bugs which were bigger than me (metaphorically speaking) and next week I take on a bug which is loaded for bear and waiting for me. Iā€™m looking forward to it. What Iā€™m looking for, though, is pretty easy. There are two items which are not negotiable: 1. honesty 2. a sense of humor Anything else can be overlooked (or enjoyed!), if those two traits are present. Otherwise, Iā€™m looking for someone who is a whole person all by himself, who has a life and is looking to enrich it, not someone who has no life and is trying to find one. By the same token, he should understand that I have a life as well, and while I will appreciate the time I spend with him, I will not sit at home and waste away when he is not there. Some things in common would be nice, since I do some things now that Iā€™d like to share with someone who knows the value of these things. Differences will also be appreciated, since I donā€™t know everything and would be delighted to be introduced to new ideas, foods, things to do, whatever. I also enjoy being the first to introduce someone else to things I like. Iā€™d prefer that he be communicable disease-free (as I am); however, see item 1 in my list. This is not an insurmountable problem when he is honest with me. As for the rest of the list, hmmā€¦ money, looks, ageā€¦ ah, I donā€™t seem to see them on my list. Perhaps Iā€™ve misplaced themā€¦ \ā€¦ nope. So it looks like if you make me laugh, youā€™re halfway there. šŸ˜ƒ [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/remind-me-again-what-do-women-want/100390.md?page=2)