# Resources to help a woman who is being stalked?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/resources-to-help-a-woman-who-is-being-stalked/487067>\
**Category:** Factual Questions\
**Created:** [February 23, 2009, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/resources-to-help-a-woman-who-is-being-stalked/487067 "2009-02-23T17:23:28Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 5\
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**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\
**Post date:** [February 23, 2009, 11:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/resources-to-help-a-woman-who-is-being-stalked/487067/21 "2009-02-23T23:59:19Z")

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FTR, there’s no reason he can’t be charged and/or imprisoned simply because he isn’t a US resident or citizen. If he’s here, he’s within the jurisdiction of the applicable law enforcement agencies.

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**Author:** ![palacheck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a88e57/32.png) [@palacheck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/palacheck)\
**Post date:** [February 24, 2009, 12:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/resources-to-help-a-woman-who-is-being-stalked/487067/22 "2009-02-24T00:49:10Z")

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> [@Jettboy](#):
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> She could always take the step of hiring a couple of guys to beat the piss out of him. Mess him up a little, give him a warning of what’ll happen if complaints are heard about his conduct towards “an anonymous ex-girlfriend” again.
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> It’s not entirely legal, but it IS effective.

Totally worked for Nick Nolte.

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**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\
**Post date:** [February 24, 2009, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/resources-to-help-a-woman-who-is-being-stalked/487067/23 "2009-02-24T01:23:09Z")

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Does she know any effective self defense moves? A heel to the guy’s foot; a knee to the crotch, a fingernail to the eye; that sort of thing. Can she buy a spray can of mace? Pepper spray?

Concerning the PI, hire a very large, very menacing type, even if he is a pussycat in real life. Appearance can be very important.

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**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\
**Post date:** [February 24, 2009, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/resources-to-help-a-woman-who-is-being-stalked/487067/24 "2009-02-24T01:35:21Z")

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> [@Guinastasia](#):
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> But then, how is anyone allowed to have a gun at all? 😕

You can have guns in your home, and transport them (following proper methods) in a vehicle to ranges/hunting places/etc. The person I responded to was asking about a permit to **carry** , not to own them.

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**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\
**Post date:** [February 24, 2009, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/resources-to-help-a-woman-who-is-being-stalked/487067/25 "2009-02-24T03:50:27Z")

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> [@Ferret\_Herder](#):
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> You can have guns in your home, and transport them (following proper methods) in a vehicle to ranges/hunting places/etc. The person I responded to was asking about a permit to **carry** , not to own them.

I see. That sucks. Oh well.

Did he act like this when they were dating? Just for some background information, and not meaning to pry, why did they break up, if that’s not too nosy?

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