# Restarting an old thread \[long distance relationships\] **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 16, 2013, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/restarting-an-old-thread-long-distance-relationships/655802 "2013-04-16T00:39:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![overthinking](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/858c86/32.png) [@overthinking](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overthinking)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2013, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/restarting-an-old-thread-long-distance-relationships/655802/1 "2013-04-16T00:39:35Z")
Basically trying to ask the same questions that folks raised years ago…I didn’t see any responses in the old one, so I figured I’d start a new thread. (It might be worth following the old thread here) > **[Girlfriend is moving away. How do we end it?](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=299239)** > > She got an incredible job promotion which regrettably involves a transfer out of state. She made the decision to accept it about a month ago. Neither of us has any interest in a long-distance relationship. We are making the most of our time for the... Me and my GF have been together for almost a year now. Both of us are clearly into each other, but we also know that long-distance might not fare well…so it’s starting to look like we will have to separate…plus, even if I decided to put in the effort, I don’t think she would, and that’s a recipe for disaster for myself then. It’s been 8 years since the last post here…any updates you can provide on what you ended up doing, and how it turned out? ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2013, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/restarting-an-old-thread-long-distance-relationships/655802/2 "2013-04-16T15:29:08Z")
I edited your title so that people would know what you’re talking about. _—Ellen_ ---
**Author:** ![Gleena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b3f665/32.png) [@Gleena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gleena)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2013, 6:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/restarting-an-old-thread-long-distance-relationships/655802/4 "2013-05-02T06:57:06Z")
My LDR of two or so years ended up in marriage, and our 10th anniversary is this month. So it can work out. Bit daunting, of course. ---
**Author:** ![MandaJo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@MandaJo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MandaJo)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2013, 11:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/restarting-an-old-thread-long-distance-relationships/655802/5 "2013-05-02T11:43:50Z")
“Long Distance relationship” is so broad as to be meaningless: developing a relationship long-distance is very different from sustaining an established relationship long-distance. Tolerating a defined separation–even a long one of a years–is very different from an open-ended separation where there is no plan or timeline for ending it. Available resources also make a tremendous difference: if the cost of a plane ticket represents a month’s income for someone, it’s really different than if occasional visits are simply an expense–even a steep one–but not an impossible dream. ---
**Author:** ![JerrySTL](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e274bd/32.png) [@JerrySTL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JerrySTL)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2013, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/restarting-an-old-thread-long-distance-relationships/655802/6 "2013-05-02T17:22:46Z")
I was in a long distance relationship (1,250 miles) back in the 1970’s for a couple of years. This was before cheap phone calls, texting, and emails. We saw each other about 3 times a year. I’m happy to reports that we will be married 36 years on May 21st.