# Return of the Relationship Fairy **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 17, 2010, 3:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/return-of-the-relationship-fairy/539719 "2010-05-17T03:15:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2010, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/return-of-the-relationship-fairy/539719/41 "2010-05-18T02:12:46Z")
Why let the fairy set the rules. Why not just go be with the new person now? Speaking of the relationship fairy – is she worth a shag herself? ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2010, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/return-of-the-relationship-fairy/539719/42 "2010-05-18T02:17:05Z")
Been there, done that, tore up the t-shirt. It’s more pain than gain, and there’s no long-term payoff. I have better things to do with my time - but do call me if you’re ever in town, Hon. cya ---
**Author:** ![interface2x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c0e974/32.png) [@interface2x](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/interface2x)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2010, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/return-of-the-relationship-fairy/539719/43 "2010-05-18T03:05:48Z")
> [@Asimovian](#): > > How far apart are you, and how often do you see one another? I’m near Chicago and she is in NYC. It varies how often we see each other but it’s usually 4-5 days together every 6 weeks or so on average. ---
**Author:** ![Perciful](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b38774/32.png) [@Perciful](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Perciful)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2010, 4:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/return-of-the-relationship-fairy/539719/44 "2010-05-18T04:29:01Z")
I’d have to pass on a 2000 mile relationship. I have had great love in my life and if I get it again that is fine and if I don’t no regrets. ---
**Author:** ![Rala](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/8797f3/32.png) [@Rala](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rala)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2010, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/return-of-the-relationship-fairy/539719/45 "2010-05-18T05:27:37Z")
Two years isn’t long, and I’m only eighteen - waiting would be good for me. Sure, I’d do it. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2010, 9:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/return-of-the-relationship-fairy/539719/46 "2010-05-18T09:43:48Z")
I’d do it. 18-24 months to a close relationship is better than no relationship at all… ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2010, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/return-of-the-relationship-fairy/539719/47 "2010-05-18T15:28:11Z")
> [@interface2x](#): > > I’m near Chicago and she is in NYC. It varies how often we see each other but it’s usually 4-5 days together every 6 weeks or so on average. Pardon my continued nosiness, but since I’m in an LD relationship myself, I’m curious. Do you guys have plans to end up living in the same place at some point? > [@panache45](#): > > The OP has pretty much describe my feelings toward my partner . . . and he IS the Relationship Fairy. Wait…are you saying your partner is the Relationship Fairy, or _I_ am? Because based on what some of the people in this thread would like to _do_ to the Relationship Fairy, I’m not exactly volunteering. ---
**Author:** ![Creole\_Tomato](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a4c791/32.png) [@Creole\_Tomato](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Creole_Tomato)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2010, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/return-of-the-relationship-fairy/539719/48 "2010-05-18T23:27:14Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > The problem is that this could be a self-fulfilling prophecy. If the other person knows this is how you feel, don’t assume they’re still available in 18-24 months. Yeah, that would be ok. I might not be available at the end of that time either. I wouldn’t expect LDR guy to wait around. But, if at the end of the 2 years, neither of us was in a relationship, the path would be clear. ---
**Author:** ![Algher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Algher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Algher)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2010, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/return-of-the-relationship-fairy/539719/49 "2010-05-18T23:44:36Z")
Every other month for short visits? Hell - MUCH better than what I had when dating the now Mrs. Algher! We had 3-6 month breaks between visits, phone calls were too expensive to make in those days, email did not exist for the masses, so that left these things called letters. Wuv, Twue Wuv is worth it. ---
**Author:** ![interface2x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c0e974/32.png) [@interface2x](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/interface2x)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2010, 1:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/return-of-the-relationship-fairy/539719/50 "2010-05-19T13:32:52Z")
> [@Asimovian](#): > > Pardon my continued nosiness, but since I’m in an LD relationship myself, I’m curious. Do you guys have plans to end up living in the same place at some point? No worries. Let’s say that there is just a little bit of contentiousness on that point. Basically, she has made it clear that she’s not going anywhere since she has close family ties and grew up in that area. So that leaves it all up to me and, frankly, the decision has been much harder than I ever expected it to be. At this point, the future is very uncertain but what it comes down to is that within the next few months, I either have to come up with plans to move or I’ll be single again. ---
**Author:** ![lindsaybluth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/90db22/32.png) [@lindsaybluth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lindsaybluth)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2010, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/return-of-the-relationship-fairy/539719/51 "2010-05-19T15:47:01Z")
This is basically where two of my friends are at. They met while on an exchange program (in college) in China. She’s German, he’s an American but was raised all over the world, and speaks fluent German. They’re a lovely couple, but I don’t think they’ll make it because she’s dead set on not moving here and he’s not too crazy about moving and finding a job and adjusting to the lifestyle there. I wish you two luck. ---
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2010, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/return-of-the-relationship-fairy/539719/52 "2010-05-19T16:18:33Z")
Done it before, wouldn’t do it again. You miss too much of life waiting around. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/return-of-the-relationship-fairy/539719.md?page=2)