# \[RIP\] This afternoon my beloved wife of 40 years entered hospice care. Don't want to talk about it.

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**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [May 31, 2017, 11:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803 "2017-05-31T23:09:18Z")\
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**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\
**Post date:** [June 3, 2017, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/61 "2017-06-03T05:11:04Z")

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I’m sorry this is happening, **dropzone**.

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**Author:** ![Bumbershoot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bumbershoot/32/3428_2.png) [@Bumbershoot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bumbershoot)\
**Post date:** [June 3, 2017, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/62 "2017-06-03T14:53:57Z")

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Very sorry to hear about your wife, dropzone.

> [@Cub\_Mistress](#):
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> oral morphine is a real thing. That’s what we used for my mom.

Yeah, we used it for my dad as well.

> [@stillownedbysetters](#):
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> Hospice does a wonderful job with a terrible assignment.

So true. I have nothing but admiration for people who devote their lives to helping others. They did so much for my dad (and the family).

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**Author:** ![Two\_Many\_Cats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8dc957/32.png) [@Two\_Many\_Cats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Two_Many_Cats)\
**Post date:** [June 3, 2017, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/63 "2017-06-03T17:17:29Z")

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I’m sorry, **dropzone**. I wish you strength.

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**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\
**Post date:** [June 4, 2017, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/64 "2017-06-04T01:36:35Z")

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Really sorry. I know from other posts you’ve made in recent times that you’ve been under terrible stress for several reasons. Wishing you both strength and peace.

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**Author:** ![stolatt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b5e925/32.png) [@stolatt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stolatt)\
**Post date:** [June 4, 2017, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/65 "2017-06-04T01:46:55Z")

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Wishing the two of you peace. May the time you have together be without pain and as much love as possible.

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**Author:** ![brachyrhynchos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/brachyrhynchos/32/376_2.png) [@brachyrhynchos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brachyrhynchos)\
**Post date:** [June 4, 2017, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/66 "2017-06-04T02:22:14Z")

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I am so sorry you and your wife are going through this. I agree with stolatt - I wish you and your wife the time you have to be as painfree as possible and with much love.

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**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\
**Post date:** [June 4, 2017, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/67 "2017-06-04T03:37:31Z")

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I’m so sorry. :hugs for you both:

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**Author:** ![steatopygia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/steatopygia/32/3132_2.png) [@steatopygia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/steatopygia)\
**Post date:** [June 4, 2017, 8:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/68 "2017-06-04T08:32:02Z")

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Good luck dropzone. I hope things go as you both would like.

I’m sorry, but I have to add, rectal morphine is even a thing.

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**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\
**Post date:** [June 4, 2017, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/69 "2017-06-04T15:26:49Z")

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So sorry to hear this, **Dropzone**. Best wishes for you and Mrs Dropzone for the time you have together.

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**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\
**Post date:** [June 4, 2017, 11:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/70 "2017-06-04T23:46:28Z")

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I’m so sorry to see this Dropzone. I adore you, dear, and despise your morally reprobate tablet.

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**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\
**Post date:** [June 7, 2017, 12:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/71 "2017-06-07T00:29:37Z")

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Been at her side since Friday. Hasn’t really been conscious, but responded occasionally, if limited, thru yesterday. Also, would lift up her hands and sometimes look like she was conducting, but that ended yesterday, too. Sores on her foot that are coming from “nowhere.” Still snores; it’s like a canary singing in a coalmine. Maybe another day.

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**Author:** ![Missy2U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)\
**Post date:** [June 7, 2017, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/72 "2017-06-07T01:11:46Z")

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Dropzone - my deepest sympathy. I wish there was something I could do for you both. You’ll be in my thoughts!

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**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\
**Post date:** [June 7, 2017, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/73 "2017-06-07T01:24:51Z")

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Oh my. So, so sorry.

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**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\
**Post date:** [June 7, 2017, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/74 "2017-06-07T02:14:19Z")

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Hugs and best wishes.

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**Author:** ![Helena330](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/helena330/32/531_2.png) [@Helena330](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena330)\
**Post date:** [June 7, 2017, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/75 "2017-06-07T02:52:16Z")

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Well, shit. ☹

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**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\
**Post date:** [June 7, 2017, 3:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/76 "2017-06-07T03:02:14Z")

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Hello Dropzone,

Just a note to say I’m thinking of you, and[holding you in the light.](http://www.dailykos.com/story/2013/6/23/1218253/-Brothers-and-Sisters-Holding-Someone-in-the-Light)  
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But not your tablet. :mad:

{{{{{dropzone}}}}}

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**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\
**Post date:** [June 7, 2017, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/77 "2017-06-07T12:44:57Z")

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Thinking of you today and wishing you strength.

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**Author:** ![kiz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/7feea3/32.png) [@kiz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kiz)\
**Post date:** [June 7, 2017, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/78 "2017-06-07T13:10:45Z")

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I’m so, so sorry.

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**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\
**Post date:** [June 7, 2017, 2:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/79 "2017-06-07T14:15:19Z")

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Damn. That’s tough.

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**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\
**Post date:** [June 7, 2017, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/80 "2017-06-07T19:20:34Z")

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Continued good wishes and strength to you. {{{hugs}}}

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