# \[RIP\] This afternoon my beloved wife of 40 years entered hospice care. Don't want to talk about it. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 31, 2017, 11:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803 "2017-05-31T23:09:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 8
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 4:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/141 "2017-06-08T04:48:01Z")
That’s the annoying thing about life. It ends. My thoughts are with you and yours. ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 4:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/142 "2017-06-08T04:51:33Z")
Friday night was full of horrifying screams of pain, but the nurses put off responding until 5:15, as that was her scheduled time for more morphine. After that she quieted so much I thought they had plugged in an OD. Justifiable concern since she stayed quiet til the end. Way too much reality/brit tv. Grew quiet last night. Grew very quiet around noon. Mary glanced over abd said “ahem.” Pam was gone. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 5:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/143 "2017-06-08T05:50:53Z")
I am so sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 5:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/144 "2017-06-08T05:59:07Z")
I am so sorry. May her memory be a blessing forever. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 6:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/145 "2017-06-08T06:38:23Z")
So sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 7:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/146 "2017-06-08T07:16:29Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > She died at 1:15pm. My condolences. ---
**Author:** ![scareyfaerie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scareyfaerie/32/3135_2.png) [@scareyfaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scareyfaerie)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 11:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/147 "2017-06-08T11:09:15Z")
I am so sorry for your loss, I hope her memory keeps you strong ☹ ---
**Author:** ![asahi](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asahi/32/8693_2.png) [@asahi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/asahi)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 11:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/148 "2017-06-08T11:14:33Z")
I’m sorry, man. There are certain experiences for which words are simply inadequate and this is one of them. The older I get, the more I believe that we all continue to live on in some way through each other. So even though your wife is gone physically, she lives on spiritually through you and others. We share and pass along our thoughts, feelings, emotions, values and so much more. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 11:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/149 "2017-06-08T11:44:31Z")
My condolences ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 11:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/150 "2017-06-08T11:47:38Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Cub\_Mistress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ea666f/32.png) [@Cub\_Mistress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cub_Mistress)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 11:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/151 "2017-06-08T11:52:17Z")
I’m so very sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/152 "2017-06-08T13:23:15Z")
Very sorry for you loss. ---
**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 1:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/153 "2017-06-08T13:32:04Z")
Very sorry to hear this **Dropzone**. I hope you can find peace in remembering all the good times from those 40 years. ---
**Author:** ![cmkeller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmkeller/32/118_2.png) [@cmkeller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmkeller)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 3:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/154 "2017-06-08T15:10:23Z")
My most sincere condolences. ---
**Author:** ![you\_with\_the\_face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ecccb3/32.png) [@you\_with\_the\_face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/you_with_the_face)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/155 "2017-06-08T15:19:44Z")
Very sorry this has happened. ---
**Author:** ![Periwinkle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Periwinkle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Periwinkle)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/156 "2017-06-08T17:12:08Z")
I’m very sorry to hear this, I hope you are finding comfort in the care of people around you. ---
**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/157 "2017-06-08T19:02:56Z")
I am so sorry. She sounds like quite the lady. I’d love to hear more stories about her when you’re ready. ---
**Author:** ![Encinitas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@Encinitas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Encinitas)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/158 "2017-06-08T20:16:52Z")
So sorry for you loss. There seems to be something in my eye… ---
**Author:** ![Infovore](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/infovore/32/420_2.png) [@Infovore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Infovore)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/159 "2017-06-08T20:20:17Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss, **dropzone**. ---
**Author:** ![Amateur\_Barbarian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/59ef9b/32.png) [@Amateur\_Barbarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amateur_Barbarian)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2017, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803/160 "2017-06-08T20:35:11Z")
One more small voice wishing you comfort and solace - not much, I know. I’ve had a lot of losses in my life, and I’ve found that small positives can add up to take away their sting. Hoping this long chain of small good wishes helps you find some relief. Take care of _yourself_, now. That’s important. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803.md?page=7) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/rip-this-afternoon-my-beloved-wife-of-40-years-entered-hospice-care-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/787803.md?page=9)