So I can skip it? I really, truly don’t want to go thru an endless round of “thank you”'s. I’d prefer to go on as if nothing happened.
You can absolutely do as you wish. Anyone bordering on disapproving will surely understand this is a difficult time for you.
Wishing you peace.
“Keep an eye on him. He’s fragile.” Among her last words to my kids.
Yes absolutely you can skip church!
I am so very sorry for your pain and loss.
I am very sorry to learn this, dropzone. Be well.
I will, and I will continue to be a flirtations SOB. Except with more permission.
Life is not going to make that easy to do. Just do your best.
No, you do not have to go to church.
People deal with shock and grief in different ways and at different times.
Have I mentioned that I love you people, my invisible friends, as she called you?
Don’t let it go to your heads. 
We’re glad to help.
Try to sleep and eat. It’s easy to forget to do those things.
One of my best friends died a couple years ago after a long slow descent into disability and misery.
Later after his wife had more or less regained her life she told me that it was utterly disorienting in the week or so immediately after he died. 100% of her daily routine for years had been wrapped up in working on his problem. Suddenly it wasn’t there. It just wasn’t there. Instead there was a vast emptiness. Hour after hour of emptiness with no idea what to do to fill it or how to do it.
You’ll probably feel something similar. Don’t fret; it’s normal. We’re good here at filling hours. Just ask.
I just want to die. Even more than normal. Or I want ice cream.
What I want is to go back to work and be a robot. What I don’t want is to crawl back in a bottle.
My vote is that you go for the ice cream. Hugs.
Ice cream, work good. Work gives you a way to numb yourself. I expect you’ll be needing a bit of that.
It’s gonna be rough. You’re in my thoughts and prayers.
Ice cream. Or walking. Whatever.
But not the bottle. It only delays the reckoning. With interest.
I’m sorry you’re feeling so awful. I hope you have some peeps to lean on. I lost someone I had been looking after and I had no idea what to do with myself. It helped me greatly to spend time with loved ones. After a while, I felt like I should cobble together some kind of life and it takes time. May I recommend the mint chocolate chip?
I’m so very sorry to hear of your loss. Keep your chin up; remember the good times.
How are things today, dropzone? Thinking of you.
didn’t make it to work, printed out the cremation docs I didn’t know I needed, couldn’t get them notarized because I lost my photo id, willgo back tomorrow with a daughter, made it to VBS, ate a hot dog.
For day 5, that counts as success. Good on ya’.
It’s good to see the update. More hugs. {{{Dropzone}}}