# RO: When your child is "too nice to people..." **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 6, 2015, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997 "2015-02-06T19:58:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/1 "2015-02-06T19:58:19Z")
There’s a right way and a wrong way to teach your child about Stranger Danger. [Hiring](http://lcsomo.com/four-arrested-for-conspiring-to-kidnap-a-six-year-old-boy/) a stranger to kidnap your child at gunpoint is the wrong way. Read the whole thing; it boggles the mind. ---
**Author:** ![DCnDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dcndc/32/2842_2.png) [@DCnDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DCnDC)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/2 "2015-02-06T20:02:36Z")
Bunch of fucktards if there ever were any. I don’t have children but I do know this: you can’t make your kids be good, but you _can_ turn them into monsters, and these morons, even if the intention of their little ploy was good, seem to be well on their way to turning what sounds like a good kid into a monster. I hope they never get to see him again, even through prison bars. ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/3 "2015-02-06T20:11:20Z")
As I said to someone elsewhere on this topic, it’s difficult to imagine that four so-called adults got together and all agreed that this was a good idea. Doesn’t _someone_ in that group say, “Hey, wait a minute. What might go wrong with this?” ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/4 "2015-02-06T20:49:40Z")
Amazing what Firoved was able to do to that boy while he, Firoved, was “unable to stop crying” and “still unable to see”. Whoever wrote that article sucks. The four adults who were arrested also suck, of course. I could easily vote for the death penalty for these obviously defective “people”. Damn, that kid will never be right after this. ---
**Author:** ![buddha\_david](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ee7513/32.png) [@buddha\_david](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/buddha_david)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/5 "2015-02-06T20:50:06Z")
"And that’s why you [always leave a note!"](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TsrxMrTQLJM&t=284) ---
**Author:** ![Rhythmdvl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/85f322/32.png) [@Rhythmdvl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhythmdvl)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 8:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/6 "2015-02-06T20:57:07Z")
> [@buddha\_david](#): > > "And that’s why you [always leave a note!"](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TsrxMrTQLJM&t=284) My first thought! ---
**Author:** ![CinnamonBabka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bbce88/32.png) [@CinnamonBabka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CinnamonBabka)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/7 "2015-02-06T21:00:03Z")
Nothing like scarring your child for life in an attempt to prevent him from being scarred for life. ---
**Author:** ![Aquadementia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aquadementia/32/555_2.png) [@Aquadementia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aquadementia)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/8 "2015-02-06T21:01:15Z")
> [@Asimovian](#): > > As I said to someone elsewhere on this topic, it’s difficult to imagine that four so-called adults got together and all agreed that this was a good idea. Doesn’t _someone_ in that group say, “Hey, wait a minute. What might go wrong with this?” “That sounds like talk from someone who hasn’t had enough meth.” ---
**Author:** ![CinnamonBabka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bbce88/32.png) [@CinnamonBabka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CinnamonBabka)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/9 "2015-02-06T21:03:21Z")
I wonder if they planned to take his pants off or if Firoved just really got into the role. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/10 "2015-02-06T21:05:13Z")
> [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > Amazing what Firoved was able to do to that boy while he, Firoved, was “unable to stop crying” and “still unable to see”. Whoever wrote that article sucks. Firoved is legion. He also looks like one of the kids on “Head of the Class.” I am ashamed that I thought of “Head of the Class.” ---
**Author:** ![Folacin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/folacin/32/3195_2.png) [@Folacin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Folacin)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/11 "2015-02-06T21:24:54Z")
So, they’re charging the mom with kidnapping. She presumably has sole custody (there is no father mentioned), so is that actually a legit charge? I mean, throw her ass in jail for 20 years for child endangerment, but can you kidnap your minor child? And, if she were in on the scheme (which is a little hard to tell from the write-up - seems like the idiot aunt was the ringleader), is kidnapping going to hold for the others? She basically gave them permission to pick up her child, right? ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/12 "2015-02-06T21:48:46Z")
> [@](#): > > Firoved told the victim he would never “see his mommy again,” and he would be “nailed to the wall of a shed.” So, do you think he was ad-libbing, or was it scripted? That’s some hard-core imagery there. My parents only threatened me with Baba Yaga coming and taking me away if I _wasn’t_ nice. ---
**Author:** ![hotflungwok](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/edb3f5/32.png) [@hotflungwok](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hotflungwok)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/13 "2015-02-06T21:53:33Z")
It’s like the movie Fargo, with less people being put through woodchippers. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/14 "2015-02-06T21:56:20Z")
Unfortunately. ---
**Author:** ![Machine\_Elf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/82dd89/32.png) [@Machine\_Elf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Machine_Elf)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/15 "2015-02-06T21:56:41Z")
> [@Asimovian](#): > > As I said to someone elsewhere on this topic, it’s difficult to imagine that four so-called adults got together and all agreed that this was a good idea. Doesn’t _someone_ in that group say, “Hey, wait a minute. What might go wrong with this?” See [Groupthink.](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Groupthink) ---
**Author:** ![friedo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/8edcca/32.png) [@friedo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/friedo)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/16 "2015-02-06T22:25:14Z")
Say, does anyone know which county Troy (Lincoln County) is in? ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/17 "2015-02-06T22:46:38Z")
> [@jsgoddess](#): > > He also looks like one of the kids on “Head of the Class.” I am ashamed that I thought of “Head of the Class.” This reminded me of that show and I was just looking it up on Wikipedia. I am appalled to discover that most of the “kids” on that show are now in their fifties. ---
**Author:** ![Lemur866](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lemur866/32/434_2.png) [@Lemur866](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lemur866)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/18 "2015-02-06T23:04:52Z")
I’m shocked, shocked to see that this didn’t happen in Florida, as I originally assumed it must have. ---
**Author:** ![RetroVertigo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b38774/32.png) [@RetroVertigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RetroVertigo)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2015, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/19 "2015-02-06T23:49:21Z")
I live in the St. Louis area (about an hour away from Lincoln County), but have friends who moved up that way. I wish I could say that these people were the exception and not the rule. Fun factoid: there is a gas station/movie theater up in Troy, MO. ---
**Author:** ![G0sp3l](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c68b51/32.png) [@G0sp3l](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/G0sp3l)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2015, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997/20 "2015-02-07T00:04:14Z")
on the plus side, I’m fairly certain the kid will never trust another stranger. Or relative. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ro-when-your-child-is-too-nice-to-people/711997.md?page=2)