# Romance 101, I need to learn....

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/romance-101-i-need-to-learn/604522>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [November 30, 2011, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/romance-101-i-need-to-learn/604522 "2011-11-30T01:27:33Z")\
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**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\
**Post date:** [December 1, 2011, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/romance-101-i-need-to-learn/604522/21 "2011-12-01T18:23:31Z")

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> [@FallFast](#):
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> … A number of times I have missed my wifes subtle hints about sex. A couple days later is one of those “doh” moments when it hits me…

If it’s not too personal, do you mind if I ask what kinds of “subtle hints” your wife is employing that you miss until later? (I think it’s better that you notice, eventually, than if you never noticed at all! :))

One suggestion is to initiate straight-up foreplay _without actually initating sex._ In other words, come up to her when she’s busy with something, give her a kiss on the back of the neck, etc. and then … let it go. Walk away. Gets her _thinking_ about having sex with you.

Then, pay attention when she goes from thinking about it to initiating it with you! 🙂

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