# Roommate Wants Apt for 2 Nights for Affair Sex **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 16, 2011, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638 "2011-04-16T19:11:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![drastic\_quench](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e36b37/32.png) [@drastic\_quench](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drastic_quench)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2011, 8:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/61 "2011-04-17T20:31:05Z")
Avoid any confrontation and disagreement with a Seinfeldian dodge. > [@](#): > > JERRY: You know, I don’t know the exact pronunciation but I believe its Manage a Trois. ---
**Author:** ![lehkz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6de8d8/32.png) [@lehkz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lehkz)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2011, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/62 "2011-04-17T23:04:23Z")
**Final Decision:** Refused to vacate the apt for 2 days & nights. **Reasoning:** - She’s in the affair, not I. She clears her schedule for him, I should not have to. - I knew that if I accepted this one time, it would only be the first of many. I did not want to guy think I was his to boss around. - Guy quickly booked hotel room for their rendezvous. Was that so hard? ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/63 "2011-04-18T00:58:20Z")
I’m still wondering where one can live for $110/month… and if your half is $55, what about the other roommate(s)? Were he/she/they going to have to disappear too? ---
**Author:** ![drastic\_quench](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e36b37/32.png) [@drastic\_quench](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drastic_quench)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/64 "2011-04-18T01:02:01Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > I’m still wondering where one can live for $110/month… and if your half is $55, what about the other roommate(s)? Were he/she/they going to have to disappear too? One assumes that’s utilities and not the rent. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 11:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/65 "2011-04-18T11:03:33Z")
> [@Otara](#): > > If you do it once, they’ll keep on asking you to do it. > > So make sure whatever you agree to you’re willing to do again. > > Otara Dittoing shikinn - This 1: $ 55 is an ridiculous amount for vacating 2 days. it’s an insult, don’t be a chump. 2: This will be asked again and again if you grant it once. This is YOUR personal living space, it’s not a college dorm. Vacating your space for a few hours is one thing but two DAYS? She and stud man are living in an alternative universe. 3: Your roommate is thinking with her pussy and not her head. She will beg you and beg you to do this, and when you don’t she will bitterly resent you. She is in love with him and you are getting in the way of her access to his penis. You need to start thinking seriously about alternative roommate arrangements. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 12:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/66 "2011-04-18T12:22:04Z")
> [@Onomatopoeia](#): > > Something about this story doesn’t sound right to me. They can have sex anywhere. Why the OP’s apartment? They’d have more freedom in a hotel. If they want to play house, what’s wrong with a Residence Inn? I have a feeling the room mate is not telling the OP something. I suspect that roommate is not well heeled (or she would have offered more than the $55) and lover does not want a hotel bill showing up on his credit card statement - or the expense of a hotel room (and the accompanying and inevitable meals out) to explain to his wife. What started for this guy as a weekend of free nookie has turned into a $500 weekend - and that is going to result in 1) less nookie long term (because few people can have too many $500 weekends) and 2) a suspicious wife. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 1:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/67 "2011-04-18T13:57:12Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > what about the other roommate(s)? Were he/she/they going to have to disappear too? Please disregard this question, the idiocy of which has only dawned on me in the harsh light of morning. ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 2:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/68 "2011-04-18T14:16:33Z")
> [@lehkz](#): > > **Final Decision:** Refused to vacate the apt for 2 days & nights. > > (snip) > > - Guy quickly booked hotel room for their rendezvous. Was that so hard? All’s well that ends well. And now you get 2 days with no roommate. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/69 "2011-04-18T14:19:56Z")
> [@PunditLisa](#): > > All’s well that ends well. And now you get 2 days with no roommate. 🙂 Yes! Time to start booking your own 48 hour sex-a-thon!! Or perhaps just a nice weekend with a good book. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![shiftless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9c0ed/32.png) [@shiftless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shiftless)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/70 "2011-04-18T14:21:40Z")
> [@Tom\_Tildrum](#): > > It seems to me that the easiest thing to do is for the OP to go stay with the man’s wife for those two days. That’s what I was thinking! As the OP calls all her friends, looking for a place to stay for the two days, she should be very upfront that she needs a place because her roommate’s married boyfriend can’t afford to get a motel for their two day sexfest. I mean, people are going to ask and the OP shouldn’t have to lie, right? Then they are going to ask the guys name , right? ---
**Author:** ![you\_with\_the\_face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ecccb3/32.png) [@you\_with\_the\_face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/you_with_the_face)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/71 "2011-04-18T15:32:34Z")
> [@lehkz](#): > > **Final Decision:** Refused to vacate the apt for 2 days & nights. > > **Reasoning:** > > - She’s in the affair, not I. She clears her schedule for him, I should not have to. > - I knew that if I accepted this one time, it would only be the first of many. I did not want to guy think I was his to boss around. > - Guy quickly booked hotel room for their rendezvous. Was that so hard? Good on you. IMO, asking someone to vacate their own home for 2 days is ridiculous; a paltry offer of $55 only adds an extra layer of absurdity to the request. Your roomate should be ashamed of herself for being so selfish, and not just because she’s sleeping with such a cheapskate (and a married one at that). If a roomate is planning activites that require that much privacy and intimacy, then it’s obvious to me that the onus is on them to find alternate accomodations. You did the right thing by saying no to this. ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/72 "2011-04-18T17:57:45Z")
> [@Lynn\_Bodoni](#): > > If they want the OP to make herself scarce for the weekend, then they need to make it worth the OP’s while. Fifty five bucks isn’t going to get a couple of nights at a hotel, unless it’s a pretty sleazy hotel. And I don’t get why the OP has to leave the apartment, unless it’s one of those efficiency studios without any walls except around the bathroom. > > The couple should either go to a hotel room, or pay enough for the OP to go to a hotel room AND have some spending money. I don’t see an upside for the OP in the original scenario. > > Yeah, I think that the married man is wrong to cheat, and roomie is also wrong to cheat, but that’s not really any of the OP’s business. I’ll second everything **Lynn** said. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/73 "2011-04-18T18:12:33Z")
Thanks for the update, **lehkz.** I agree with your reasoning. Are you working on getting an agreement on overnight guests in place? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Maiira](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f04885/32.png) [@Maiira](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maiira)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/74 "2011-04-18T19:12:53Z")
> [@DigitalC](#): > > For me it would take at least enough money for two nights at a NICE hotel and enough spending money to keep me entertained. This. Or tell them “no fucking way, get your own hotel room.” ---
**Author:** ![Maiira](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f04885/32.png) [@Maiira](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maiira)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/75 "2011-04-18T19:13:57Z")
Whoops, posted before I saw the whole thread. Whatevs, my opinion still stands. ---
**Author:** ![RedBloom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/dbc845/32.png) [@RedBloom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RedBloom)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/76 "2011-04-18T19:16:35Z")
GROSS. Do you really want to walk back into your home after 2 full days of affair sex lingering in the air? Really? That’s far too disturbing for a pricetag. If they want to screw bad enough let them figure it out on their own. For pete’s sake don’t make this easy on them. Both are scumbags for doing that in the first place. ---
**Author:** ![NetTrekker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nettrekker/32/2909_2.png) [@NetTrekker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NetTrekker)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/77 "2011-04-18T20:12:42Z")
> [@lehkz](#): > > **Final Decision:** Refused to vacate the apt for 2 days & nights. > > **Reasoning:** > > - She’s in the affair, not I. She clears her schedule for him, I should not have to. > - I knew that if I accepted this one time, it would only be the first of many. I did not want to guy think I was his to boss around. > - Guy quickly booked hotel room for their rendezvous. Was that so hard? Good choice. This way you’re not complicit in their sleazy and unethical behavior. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/78 "2011-04-18T20:21:54Z")
If you have a convenient place to crash–e.g., someplace where you DO crash often–then it’s no big deal. The whole thing leaves a sour taste in my mouth, though, and I think you’d be better off finding a more decent roommate. ETA: Sorry I missed the second page. Sounds like you handled it well. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 10:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638/79 "2011-04-18T22:14:43Z")
> [@lehkz](#): > > I knew that if I accepted this one time, it would only be the first of many. I did not want to guy think I was his to boss around. But if you had convinced this guy to pay for your hotel room and meals, that’s could have been a good deal. Two or three hundred bucks to spend a couple nights on a mini-vacation - it wouldn’t be so bad for that to happen on a regular basis. Plus you’d essentially have been getting paid by the guy that your roommate was having sex with. Which would sort of make you a pimp. Lots of street cred there. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/roommate-wants-apt-for-2-nights-for-affair-sex/578638.md?page=3)