# Sad news about my husband, RickQ **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 13, 2009, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331 "2009-03-13T15:09:41Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/21 "2009-03-13T15:53:53Z")
> [@Brynda](#): > > I am so aftraid. I don’t want him to have to suffer in any way. If you haven’t contacted a hospice yet please do so - they not only have support services for the terminally ill, they can also help the family as well. They will help you keep him as comfortable as possible. I have had good experiences with hospices both for my father-in-law (who was also in Tennessee) and with my mother (in Michigan), ---
**Author:** ![The\_Weird\_One](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@The\_Weird\_One](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Weird_One)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 3:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/22 "2009-03-13T15:56:04Z")
I’m so, so sorry. I know there’s nothing I can say to make this any easier for either of you, but I’ll be thinking of you and **RickQ**. ---
**Author:** ![Uncommon\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Uncommon\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uncommon_Sense)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/23 "2009-03-13T16:00:15Z")
Don’t even know what to say…but I hope he’s the kind of man who would want you to celebrate his life when he passes. He’ll be in a better place, not for you, but for him. His pain will be over. You have my deepest sympathies. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/24 "2009-03-13T16:06:33Z")
{{ **RickQ** and **Brynda** }} I’m so sorry. If I can be of any comfort… ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 4:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/25 "2009-03-13T16:09:02Z")
Can’t add much more except to suggest you try and concentrate on the good times. ---
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/26 "2009-03-13T16:26:39Z")
I’m so sorry to hear the news. ---
**Author:** ![KSO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f07891/32.png) [@KSO](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KSO)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/27 "2009-03-13T16:36:43Z")
I’m so sorry. Both of you are in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 4:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/28 "2009-03-13T16:48:06Z")
Sweetie, I’m so sorry. Know that we are here for you. Yell, scream, cry, whatever…we won’t budge. ---
**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/29 "2009-03-13T16:53:27Z")
very sad to hear your news, **Brynda** - I’m thinking of you and **RickQ**. Would also second **Broomstick’s** recommendation of a hospice - my mother was in a hospice for her last days, and they provided very good care, plus follow-up support for my father. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/30 "2009-03-13T16:56:48Z")
So very sorry. ---
**Author:** ![FallenAngel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@FallenAngel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FallenAngel)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/31 "2009-03-13T16:59:24Z")
There is nothing I can say or do other than wish you both all the peace you can find and to admire your exceptional grace. I’m so, incredibly sorry. ---
**Author:** ![AuntiePam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f19dbf/32.png) [@AuntiePam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AuntiePam)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/32 "2009-03-13T17:04:41Z")
There are no words. I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/33 "2009-03-13T17:05:46Z")
How awful. I am so sorry for you and yours. One feels so helpless at times like this. Reading those past threads was a joy. In them, I saw a glimmer of what you two had… ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/34 "2009-03-13T17:06:51Z")
My thoughts are with you both. ---
**Author:** ![freckafree](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/freckafree/32/3050_2.png) [@freckafree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freckafree)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/35 "2009-03-13T17:12:27Z")
I read the thread title and my stomach plummeted through the floor. I am so very sorry to hear this news. Hugs, good thoughts, and comfort to you both. I’m going to go back and read the “how you met” threads some other time when I don’t have to worry about who sees me crying at the computer. ---
**Author:** ![Chanteuse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9de053/32.png) [@Chanteuse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chanteuse)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/36 "2009-03-13T17:17:29Z")
I’m so sorry for the pain you are both going through. None of us can take that pain away, but whenever you feel you can’t bear it anymore, reach out to us and someone will be there to take your hand. The miles that separate us all physically aren’t a barrier that our hearts can’t cross. It seems a small thing to offer, but you have my support and all the hugs the internet can send. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Composer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/898d66/32.png) [@The\_Composer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Composer)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/37 "2009-03-13T17:28:21Z")
\*\*Brynda \*\*and **RickQ** , both of you are in my thoughts and prayers. May you find comfort and strength during this most difficult time. ---
**Author:** ![pravnik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8edcca/32.png) [@pravnik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pravnik)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 5:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/38 "2009-03-13T17:35:38Z")
Peace be with both of you. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/39 "2009-03-13T17:43:50Z")
**Brynda** : Please let me repeat here what I’ve posted elsewhere: [QUOTE=taters] I know there’s nothing I can say that’ll make you feel better, but I’ve been following along. You two are in my thoughts. I just have no other words, other than “I’m sorry”, and they just seem so…inadequate. [/quote] **Brynda** : I want to repeat what **taters** said. I try not to post ‘I know how you feel’ posts in these types of threads. For one thing, I’ve never lost a Significant Other nor do I have one now. But I did lose both of my parents to long illnesses. In my father’s case, he’d suffered a severe head injury that left him confused for the last years of his life. I won’t go into his final illness but to say it was the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. It still hurts, ten years on. We all experience these losses in our own, private, ways. It’s little comfort to say ‘I know how you feel’, because the pain is private. I don’t know if there’s anything that I can do or say that will help you; but I wanted you to know that I remember you both from SDMB, and that I’m thinking of you both every day. ---
**Author:** ![Defensive\_Indifference](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/defensive_indifference/32/6502_2.png) [@Defensive\_Indifference](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Defensive_Indifference)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2009, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/40 "2009-03-13T17:52:46Z")
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