# Sad news about my husband, RickQ **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 13, 2009, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331 "2009-03-13T15:09:41Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Scribble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scribble/32/3317_2.png) [@Scribble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scribble)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2009, 10:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/121 "2009-03-16T22:43:33Z")
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss, **Brynda**. I feel for you. I hope you can somehow find solace. ---
**Author:** ![MoodIndigo1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e8c25b/32.png) [@MoodIndigo1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MoodIndigo1)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2009, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/122 "2009-03-17T01:08:19Z")
I’m sorry for your loss, Brynda. There are no words, the loss of such a good and young man leaves one speechless. It’s so unfair. You’ll be in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![kittenblue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ba8739/32.png) [@kittenblue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kittenblue)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2009, 1:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/123 "2009-03-17T01:55:59Z")
I wish there was something more profound to say, but I am so sorry for your loss. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. ---
**Author:** ![Poysyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Poysyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poysyn)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2009, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/124 "2009-03-17T17:54:23Z")
I am so sorry. My thoughts are prayers are with you. I take comfort in the fact that you and he loved each other so strongly, and that you were together when he passed. ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 5:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/125 "2009-03-18T05:45:10Z")
☹ Wow… It’s a tragedy to die so young, but it’s beautiful to see how loved he was, and that he won’t be forgotten. ---
**Author:** ![leander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/bcef8e/32.png) [@leander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/leander)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 5:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/126 "2009-03-18T05:54:56Z")
I’m so sorry to hear that. You have my condolences. ---
**Author:** ![Snowboarder\_Bo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowboarder_bo/32/229_2.png) [@Snowboarder\_Bo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snowboarder_Bo)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 8:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/127 "2009-03-18T08:22:28Z")
**Brynda** , I am very sorry to hear about your loss. My condolences to you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/128 "2009-03-18T14:38:03Z")
> [@Brynda](#): > > Rick died this morning. He was heavily medicated and it was peaceful. May whatever gods there be, be with you and his family. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/129 "2009-03-18T18:45:55Z")
Not much more I can say other than I’m so sorry for your loss. I know that you had a wonderful loving relationship, and it showed in how you treated others. My thoughts are with you. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/130 "2009-03-18T20:16:30Z")
{{{ **Brynda** and all of **Rick** ’s loved ones}}} I’m so very, very sorry. Please know that I’m another one who has you in my thoughts and hopes you can be as well as possible under the circumstances. May **Rick** rest in peace. ---
**Author:** ![Quasimodem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/e274bd/32.png) [@Quasimodem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodem)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/131 "2009-03-18T22:36:53Z")
Sincere condolences from me as well, **Brynda**. Your family here grieves with you, and if there is anything you need, you know where we are. Bill ---
**Author:** ![Brynda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e79b87/32.png) [@Brynda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brynda)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 10:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/132 "2009-03-18T22:47:22Z")
Thank you, everyone. The only thing that brings me solace is knowing how much I loved Rick, and how much others cared as well. I have an edge, but Rick was just pure sweetness. He was the kindest man I have ever known, and will ever know. ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/133 "2009-03-18T23:40:58Z")
**Brynda** I am so sorry for your loss. **RickQ** , you and the entire family are in my thoughts and prayers. ---
**Author:** ![Sailboat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sailboat/32/461_2.png) [@Sailboat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sailboat)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2009, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/134 "2009-03-19T01:40:44Z")
Bye, RickQ. So sorry, Brynda. ---
**Author:** ![Le\_Ministre\_de\_l\_au-dela](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/le_ministre_de_l_au-dela/32/12181_2.png) [@Le\_Ministre\_de\_l\_au-dela](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Le_Ministre_de_l_au-dela)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2009, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/135 "2009-03-19T15:39:19Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. We will all miss him. {{{ **Brynda** }}} ---
**Author:** ![Jodi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/7feea3/32.png) [@Jodi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jodi)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2009, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/136 "2009-03-19T18:59:54Z")
I think the service is today. **Brynda** , we will all be thinking of you. ---
**Author:** ![InterestedObserver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@InterestedObserver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InterestedObserver)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2009, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/137 "2009-03-19T19:23:11Z")
> [@Brynda](#): > > Rick died this morning. He was heavily medicated and it was peaceful. I lost my husband of 23 yrs a year ago this coming Saturday (March 21st). Also from a rather protracted illness. Mine was on morphine, and I hope it was peaceful for him overall. I am still struggling at times with it, but it is beginning to get better. This grief thing sucks, I tell you! And it comes up and sucker-punches you like the biggest bully on the playground, when you least expect it. Nothing I can say, I know. Nothing you can do except take care of yourself (though you may not want to or care to…in those early weeks/mths, I often forgot to eat and had to force myself to), accept the care of others around you (it may all be a blur, but let them feed you, help you in whatever ways they offer…TAKE IT, you need it and they want to give it), and seek out support if you feel the need for it. I found a wonderful bulletin board for “young widows and widowers” (not sure about posting the link here, but if you do a search, it should come up…“chapter two”) that has helped with on-line support. You might want to find somewhere like this and just read and maybe post. Also lots of in-person support out there. (I’m attending a dinner tonight of young widows/widowers in my area. Found the group on Meetup.) I am wishing you well..I know how hard it is but I also know that there IS a light at the end of this tunnel. It makes me cry everytime I hear of someone else in this position. So sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Quasimodem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/e274bd/32.png) [@Quasimodem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodem)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2009, 10:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/138 "2009-03-19T22:18:04Z")
Right **here** for you, Brynda. All of us. Farewell, **RickQ**! You **will** be missed! Bill ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2009, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/139 "2009-03-19T23:17:26Z")
I’m sorry for your troubles, **Brynda**. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![StGermain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stgermain/32/2868_2.png) [@StGermain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StGermain)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2009, 11:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331/140 "2009-03-19T23:54:20Z")
**Brynda** - I went to Woodfin in Smyrna. I’m so sorry I blew it. StG [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331.md?page=6) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad-news-about-my-husband-rickq/489331.md?page=8)