# Sad **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 19, 2000, 2:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad/12893 "2000-01-19T14:04:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Lucretia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/13edae/32.png) [@Lucretia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucretia)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2000, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad/12893/21 "2000-01-19T19:53:00Z")
I’m so very sorry, Guy. I’ve had 6 pregnancies, 3 miscarriages, and have 3 children. I know how angry you feel, after my third miscarriage was confirmed, I had to be physically restrained after I started throwing things. Don’t try to rush the grieving process…talk about it and allow your wife to talk about it as much as you both need to. And be aware you have every right to grieve. Our society often doesn’t acknowledge miscarriage as a “real” loss. One thing, try not to hold it against people when they make hurtful and ignorant statements. They just don’t know what to say. You have my best wishes for good news in the future. ---
**Author:** ![thirdwarning](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecccb3/32.png) [@thirdwarning](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thirdwarning)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2000, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad/12893/22 "2000-01-19T19:56:00Z")
So sorry to hear your sad news. Hold each other close, and we’ll hold you in our thoughts and prayers. We lost our second to miscarriage, but we have two born after that. There is hope. Oh, and this may be unwanted advice, but be aware that some of these feelings may come back around what would have been the due date. At least they did for me. Kind of took me by surprise. Anyway, hugs and prayers to you both. ---
**Author:** ![BoBettie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4af34b/32.png) [@BoBettie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BoBettie)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2000, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad/12893/23 "2000-01-20T03:25:00Z")
Guy, My husband and I are trying to get pregnant, and my heart just breaks for you. I am so very, very sorry for your loss. Zette * * * Love is like popsicles…you get too much you get too high. Not enough and you’re gonna die… [Click here for some GOOD news for a change](http://www.binghamtonpress.com/binghamtonnews/local/Sanews5.html)[Zettecity](http://www.angelfire.com/ny3/zettecity/index.html) ---
**Author:** ![TVeblen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/4bbf92/32.png) [@TVeblen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TVeblen)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2000, 3:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad/12893/24 "2000-01-20T03:48:00Z")
I’m so sorry, Guy. My sincere sympathies to you and your wife. Your loss is even harder by being one of newness and hope. Though it may not seem like it now, joy and a child (and probably children) will come. I echo the sentiments already said. My cousin was told, flat out after several miscarriages, that she could never have children. She’s now expecting her third. Nobody knows why this happens, so all you can do is get through it. Give yourselves time, both of you emotionally and your wife physically. It will happen in its own time. {{a soft hug and a wish for peace}} Veb ---
**Author:** ![Persephone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecc23a/32.png) [@Persephone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Persephone)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2000, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad/12893/25 "2000-01-20T04:01:00Z")
Guy, I know how it feels. I’ve miscarried too, three days after finding out I was pregnant. I know the anger and the helpless feeling. I know about wanting to beat somebody up, but you can’t, because it’s no one’s fault. Your feelings are totally valid. Be sure to talk about them with your wife, and be sure to start trying again as soon as you’re ready, and the doctor says okay. I’m thinking of you! * * * “The quickest way to a man’s heart is through his ribcage.” --anonymous redhead ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2000, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad/12893/26 "2000-01-20T04:09:00Z")
THat is really too bad. My sister gave us our awesome niece just over 2 years ago. Recently, we learned that our niece was going to be a big sister… Unfortunately, my sister suffered a miscarriage. That sucked, we have a very close family and everyone was distraught. The fact that there was no one to blame made hard on my brother-in-law and I, who are very close and have a lot in common. All I can say is that time heals all, and I hope you can feel better soon. Take care and God Bless. * * * “And on the eighth day, God Created beer to prevent the Irish from taking over the Earth.” _~SNOOGANS~_ ---
**Author:** ![Demo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/demo/32/8472_2.png) [@Demo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Demo)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2000, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad/12893/27 "2000-01-20T04:13:00Z")
I’m sorry to hear about your loss, Guy. You and your wife are in my prayers. I know you will make a wondeful parents someday. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sad/12893.md?page=1)