Well I’m only twenty, and I don’t have any children.
When I was a kid my dad told me to always stickup for myself, but try to settle arguements without fighting. Now my dad’s line of work had us moving at least once a year. Every new school I went to I ended up having to prove to someone they weren’t going to push me around so I’d flatin them. I suggest all parents teach their kids the same thing.
Although I moved to a new school when I was in 8th grade, being a new student again, I was sitting in band class as everyone was talking to me getting to know me when the teacher walked in and made some smart*ss coment, of coarse the new student who had to prove himself respond right back and an arguement ensued, which I got taken to the principals office.
Well two or three days later, the teacher started picking on me and cracking jokes about me not being able to play my instrument as well as the others. I again rebuttled him and made some comments about how I thought he was straight from the seventies the way he was dressed, which got a huge response from the class which just urged me further.
Finally he decided he had enough and took my instrument and threw it onto a shelf where we kept our instrument cases. I went over picked it back up and I said “watch what your doing dork” in the most hateful tone I could muster up. He then told me to step outside that he wanted to talk to me. I was like fine whatever. So we get out there and he starts yelling and cursing at me. He does give me the oportunity to go back in and sit at my seat until class is over. I glad said okay.
I go back in and before I make it to my seat I have to mock the teacher about how he walked behind his back, okay so I was a brat but still, anyway the teacher hears the class laughing and without seeing what I was doing turns around grabs my ear and starts to pull me to the office. He gets me just out of sight of the class so they couldn’t see the rest. Well I get loose then he starts grabing my arm and tightly squezes so of coarse I’m going to pull loose. I blurt out “bastard” because my arm hurt (i had a bruise on both arms and my ear was really swollen and red) at this point he pulls his hand back like he’s going to smack me, and still having my trombone in my hand so I whack him across the face, and run.
Well the teacher tells the principal a totally different story, and of coarse the principal believes the teacher and the school is going to press charges. So my dad is now thourghly P O’ed at this point after he hears their “story” argues with them for a couple days and they were still going to expell me, seeing no one else saw what happened. It was my word against his. Well my dad finally gives his lawyer buddy a call, we didn’t ever get him involved but my dad got the firms paper with their letter head across the top. Fun thing is after my dad sent them that letter, I was able to go right back to school the next day like nothing happened, and the band teacher was so nice to me even though I did have to quit band.
The reason for this lengthy story was basically to show you that maybe the school won’t listen to one or two angry parents but when you bring someone/something (layer/firm) into the picture things will happen for you fast.
People act more strongly on FEAR than any other feeling. That is why the little kid gives up his lunch money every day. That is why the school will listen to you and solve the problem if you make them afraid of you. Become the bully. Don’t make any idiol threat or try to bluff them unless you think you can pull it off.
I’d just go down there schedule a meeting with the principal and demand the kid be transferred to another class or whatever if your demands aren’t met, use the phone and call a lawyers office right there in front of the principal and schedule a time to meet with a lawyer. Of coarse the principal in “FEAR” of having the school sued is going to transfer the kid probably to another school district before you even get off the phone. (-:
hope all goes well though, keep us informed