# Say.. I got a new talent. NOT for the ladies. Well... maybe ONLY for the ladies.

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**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [June 18, 2000, 7:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/say-i-got-a-new-talent-not-for-the-ladies-well-maybe-only-for-the-ladies/22766 "2000-06-18T07:50:16Z")\
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**Author:** ![xenophon41](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/xenophon41/32/253_2.png) [@xenophon41](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xenophon41)\
**Post date:** [June 19, 2000, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/say-i-got-a-new-talent-not-for-the-ladies-well-maybe-only-for-the-ladies/22766/21 "2000-06-19T01:50:30Z")

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> _P.S. There are things a woman can do to make a man reach orgasm whenever she’s ready (had enough, etc.). You just have to know the techniques (and no, I will not share them here - sorry)._

\<hijack!\>  
Hmmmmm. And where _will_ you share them, **Shayna**?  
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> _A mans staying power depends on how long his first few sexual experiences were. Those who started with hookers, or with the folks in the next room were pressured to get it done quickly, they are patterned to come soon. Those who could take a nice leisurely stab at it have patterned themselves to last long._

Nice theory, **handy** , but it’s not really accurate. (I grew up in a large family “open doors” kind of house, but I’ve never been able to pull —so to speak— any really quick orgasms.) I’ve found that, if I go a long time between relationships, it takes me longer to reach orgasm during actual sex, simply because of the newness, and the concern for her satisfaction. After awhile, this becomes less of a problem. (My G.F. seems to share some of **Shayna** ’s special knowledge. \<g\> )

As far as staying erect after sex goes, well, I’m 41 and I still have 5 or 10 minutes of “grace” after the act. Don’t know if this is typical, but it can’t be that unusual. (And my ability to gain an erection has not been degraded, so you probably have no reason for worry, **iampunha**.)

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**Author:** ![Homer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/df788c/32.png) [@Homer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homer)\
**Post date:** [June 19, 2000, 4:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/say-i-got-a-new-talent-not-for-the-ladies-well-maybe-only-for-the-ladies/22766/22 "2000-06-19T04:28:17Z")

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> We don’t all spend every waking hour either masturbating or thinking about sex.

Hey, speak for yourself! 😉

Oh, and I was just posting to find out if I should hide in shame in the closet, or run to the nearest street corner to sell my body.

Nah. Just wanted to know exactly how abnormal I am.

–Tim

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**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\
**Post date:** [June 19, 2000, 3:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/say-i-got-a-new-talent-not-for-the-ladies-well-maybe-only-for-the-ladies/22766/23 "2000-06-19T15:41:32Z")

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xenophon41, a mans staying power is not a theory, its written up in Masters & Johnsons extensively, from extensive interviews with men.

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