# Say your SO has to make out on screen **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 6, 2003, 6:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/say-your-so-has-to-make-out-on-screen/159442 "2003-03-06T06:24:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Stratocaster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stratocaster/32/16393_2.png) [@Stratocaster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stratocaster)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2003, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/say-your-so-has-to-make-out-on-screen/159442/21 "2003-03-06T19:08:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Kalhoun \* > **My husband doesn’t know how male actors can do those scenes without totin’ heavy wood. He says he wouldn’t be able to pull it off.** I read a story once (I think it was attributed to Denzel Washington) about how an actor would have a chat with his leading lady before the steamy love scene, and he’d say (as best I can recall): “Look, during our love scene you may notice that I have a particular unmistakable…um…reaction. Then again, maybe I won’t. Please don’t be offended in either case.” ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2003, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/say-your-so-has-to-make-out-on-screen/159442/22 "2003-03-06T19:28:59Z")
I wouldn’t care. I’d want my man to enjoy his work. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2003, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/say-your-so-has-to-make-out-on-screen/159442/23 "2003-03-06T19:30:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Kalhoun \* > My husband doesn’t know how male actors can do those scenes without totin’ heavy wood. He says he wouldn’t be able to pull it off. Well, they don’t _pull it off_. I mean, that would be rather painful;) I can’t speak for any of the rest of them, but if I have to do a scene like that … well, back when I was acting I’d just turn off the part of my emotion that deals with lust. It was incredibly annoying (and sometimes rather painful if I wasn’t “acting in a theater”, so to speak…), but it worked every time. Now I’ve gone and broken the button that I used to turn it off, so I’m helpless if I get turned on at an inopportune time. But a I don’t act anymore, this isn’t really all that bad. ---
**Author:** ![bouv](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bc8723/32.png) [@bouv](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bouv)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2003, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/say-your-so-has-to-make-out-on-screen/159442/24 "2003-03-06T19:51:07Z")
Well, I date an actress already (stage, not screen) and she has kissed a few other people, and I’m ok with it. Of course, about half of those people were women, so I actually enjoyed watching it (she goes to an all women’s college, kissing girls on stage comes with the territory.) ---
**Author:** ![hyperjes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/df705f/32.png) [@hyperjes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hyperjes)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2003, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/say-your-so-has-to-make-out-on-screen/159442/25 "2003-03-06T21:25:29Z")
Well, **d\_redguy** has the same basic attitude as **Ender\_Will** , so that is something that I don’t do anymore. Although I am inclined to agree with **Narrad**. I have seen these guys in various states of undress since early childhood, and some I’ve taken baths with when we were little. I would no more have sex with them than I would my brothers or cousins. I am sure they feel the same. It is simply a matter of convenience and comfort, to prevent someone having to sleep on the cold floor. I think that if, like my husband, you have very few close friends of the opposite gender, it may be difficult to understand the extremely platonic nature of the relationships involved. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/say-your-so-has-to-make-out-on-screen/159442.md?page=1)