# Saying "you do you" in unique or disturbing ways **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 4, 2024, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/saying-you-do-you-in-unique-or-disturbing-ways/999830 "2024-04-04T19:08:58Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![thorny\_locust](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thorny_locust/32/431_2.png) [@thorny\_locust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thorny_locust)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2024, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/saying-you-do-you-in-unique-or-disturbing-ways/999830/21 "2024-04-04T23:51:09Z")
> [@Roderick\_Femm](#): > > Please don’t change your behavior on account of my remarks. I cannot recall reading this expression from you, but if you used it sincerely I feel sure that sincerity came across. On a message board? Maybe not. And people may read it who don’t know me at all. But thanks! ---
**Author:** ![Chronos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chronos/32/134_2.png) [@Chronos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chronos)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2024, 12:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/saying-you-do-you-in-unique-or-disturbing-ways/999830/22 "2024-04-05T00:07:52Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Would you like a piece of pie?😊 OK, I take back my previous statement. “Would you like a piece of pie?” comes across as positive anywhere, and especially in the South. Whatever other criticisms I may have of the region, Southern cuisine is the best on the continent. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2024, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/saying-you-do-you-in-unique-or-disturbing-ways/999830/23 "2024-04-05T21:42:08Z")
I have not experienced that phrase in a negative way. I have a girlhood memory of a sleepover with some friends in junior high. The hostess, who was a very sweet girl, was presenting us with a range of decorative items for our hair (or something like that) and she said, “Whatever sparks your plug!” We all laughed so hard at that. I think she made it up. Also one of my favorite uses of this is, “Okay!” in a slightly dubious but grudgingly respectful tone, I see this as more common among Black women. It clearly conveys that this is not something to be expected, but, you know, you do you. I was at a hip-let performance, which is hip-hop and ballet fusion, and during the performance a man came out in a tutu. From behind me a woman exclaimed, “Okay!” And it just felt so real and funny and affirming. ---
**Author:** ![Hampshire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hampshire/32/4887_2.png) [@Hampshire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hampshire)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2024, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/saying-you-do-you-in-unique-or-disturbing-ways/999830/24 "2024-04-06T00:27:17Z")
A long time ago I (white male) was with my fiancé having lunch along with her co-worker who had her adopted black daughter with her who was about 6. Since I had several nieces and nephews at the time I was trying to entertain/amuse her like I did with them by doing dumb magic tricks with straws and forks at the table. She looked at me like I was from Mars shook her head and said “you go girl”. ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2024, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/saying-you-do-you-in-unique-or-disturbing-ways/999830/25 "2024-04-06T02:08:55Z")
That’s adorable. ---
**Author:** ![Zyada](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zyada/32/3028_2.png) [@Zyada](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zyada)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2024, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/saying-you-do-you-in-unique-or-disturbing-ways/999830/26 "2024-04-06T03:37:28Z")
Whatever rolls your socks up and down! ---
**Author:** ![FlikTheBlue](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fliktheblue/32/10972_2.png) [@FlikTheBlue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FlikTheBlue)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2024, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/saying-you-do-you-in-unique-or-disturbing-ways/999830/27 "2024-04-06T04:04:40Z")
> [@gnoitall](#): > > One essence of that little phrase is that at its most kind, it’s still quite dismissive. There’s a hint of "you could easily be better, but I guess if you want to continue to be inferior or misguided or defective, by all means go ahead " This comes close to how I interpret the phrase. I think of it as having two parts. 1). What you’re\* about to do is stupid and likely to have a bad outcome 2). But I don’t care enough about you to argue with you\* or try to get you to not do it, so go right ahead and do it anyway. - Generic you ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2024, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/saying-you-do-you-in-unique-or-disturbing-ways/999830/28 "2024-04-06T04:16:17Z")
_I appreciate your unique perspective. Let me know how that works for you going forward._ ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2024, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/saying-you-do-you-in-unique-or-disturbing-ways/999830/29 "2024-04-06T04:50:59Z")
IOW > That’s a bold strategy, Cotton. Let’s see how it works out for you. So a cliché about a cliché. ---
**Author:** ![Yllaria](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yllaria/32/3452_2.png) [@Yllaria](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yllaria)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2024, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/saying-you-do-you-in-unique-or-disturbing-ways/999830/30 "2024-04-07T03:22:24Z")
I think I’ve only seen in books: “How very brave of you.” ---
**Author:** ![WOOKINPANUBv.2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wookinpanubv.2/32/3260_2.png) [@WOOKINPANUBv.2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WOOKINPANUBv.2)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2024, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/saying-you-do-you-in-unique-or-disturbing-ways/999830/31 "2024-04-07T17:12:45Z")
I thought the OP was looking for phrases like “whatever floats your boat” or the completely inappropriate “whatever twirls your turban” . So, maybe something like " whatever scratches your itch" or “whatever oils your chain” ? ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2024, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/saying-you-do-you-in-unique-or-disturbing-ways/999830/32 "2024-04-07T17:23:00Z")
There’s always the Midwest “Whatever. . .”, a response that says “I’m too stupid to come up with an argument.” ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2024, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/saying-you-do-you-in-unique-or-disturbing-ways/999830/33 "2024-04-07T18:06:20Z")
Of course “Whatever” can also be used to say “Your position is too stupid / irrational for me to argue against.” Whole lotta stupid on both sides out there. ---
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2024, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/saying-you-do-you-in-unique-or-disturbing-ways/999830/34 "2024-04-07T20:23:28Z")
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