Are you complaining that particle physics is hard to understand? And that this is somehow the fault of physicists?
Yes, it would be awesome if physicists could come up with theories about the fundamental forces of the universe that were easy to understand and matched our intuitions about how the universe should work.
Unfortunately the universe works the way it works. Physicists try to understand how it works, and explain what they’ve figured out to the rest of us. If you insist that a photon can’t act like both a particle and a wave because that doesn’t make sense, then welcome to the club. There are lots of people who insisted the same thing. The only problem with this is that every experiment we’ve been able to do shows that photons really do act both like particles and waves.
And there’s never going to be an experiment that reveals once and for all that all the particle talk was nonsense, or all the wave talk was nonsense, because that would throw out all the experiments we’ve actually done over the last 100 years that show the fundamental particleness and fundamental waviness of photons.
If you can come up with an explanation for the two slit experiment that shows that a single photon creates an interference pattern, and your explanation doesn’t require that a photon be both a particle and a wave at the same time, then I hear Stockholm is nice this time of year.
The experimental evidence is that “particle” and “wave” are ways that our human minds try to understand photons, but those explanations are just analogies, and photons are not actually particles or waves. They act the way they act. “Photon” is just a word that humans use to describe certain types of interactions.
Now, we know quite a bit about those interactions. Those interactions are kind of weird, but they are consistent. It’s not like one guy running an experiment finds out that photons are particles, and another guy running the exact same experiment finds out that photons are waves, and then those two guys have to fight a duel to see who’s right. No, different guys running the same experiments see the same results, it’s just that the same guy running different experiments might see different results.
Run one experiment, and see results that confirm that photons act like particles. Run a different experiment and see results that confirm that photons act like waves. So which one is right? Both are right, because photons act like particles and they act like waves. If you don’t like that, the only defense I can offer is that this has been confirmed by thousands of different experiments. And so if your explanation is that all the experiments are wrong, you’ll have to explain in detail exactly how they went wrong, and then sit home and wait for your invitation to Stockholm.