# Scratch or Rub? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 2, 2005, 3:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/scratch-or-rub/324452 "2005-10-02T15:13:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2005, 3:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/scratch-or-rub/324452/1 "2005-10-02T15:13:05Z")
Mig and I are very affectionate, I guess. Every night one of us will offer the other this choice. He prefers a good rub-down with oil. I really enjoy giving him this attention every chance I get and it makes him ever so happy. But when it’s my turn for this attention I’d rather have a good rough back scratching. Don’t get me wrong; he’s excellent with massage, and will work me head to toe, then allow me to fade off to sleep if I’m so inclined. Oh but the back scratch! The joy! There’s a spot right in the middle, I call it my sweet spot, that he hits and it drives me absolutely mad with pleasure. It’s practically orgasmic if he stays there longer than ten seconds. Rarely do I end up drifting away after a good scratching. 😉 Which do you prefer from your partner, a back massage or a good ol’ back scratching? ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2005, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/scratch-or-rub/324452/2 "2005-10-02T15:33:56Z")
Given a skilled partner, I prefer a massage, but love scratchin’s. I think I know that spot you mean - right under the band of your bra, right? _shudder in delight_ My hubby prefers scratchin’s, but also loves massage. But I think I hit Nirvana when I was dating a gymnast. Not because of any kinky positions, but because he had such calloused hands. It was like a getting a massage with light sandpaper gloves. MrrrrrWWrrrrrr… ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2005, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/scratch-or-rub/324452/3 "2005-10-02T15:48:30Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > I think I know that spot you mean - right under the band of your bra, right? _shudder in delight_ That’s the place! :shivers: ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2005, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/scratch-or-rub/324452/4 "2005-10-02T15:51:11Z")
I like a nice back scratch. Not a fan of rubs or massages. I actually get weirded out by them. First, I don’t like it professionally done because I don’t like strangers touching me. Second, if an s.o. offers me a massage I can’t relax because I feel a smaller/weaker pair of hands on me and it feels incongruous with my larger frame and muscle mass. Plus, I can feel the cartiledge in the massagers fingers popping and straining against my body and it bugs me. Just can’t relax with a massage. Oddly enough, I’m really good at giving them because I’m really sensitive to other peoples muscles and knots and pressure points. ---
**Author:** ![aruvqan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aruvqan/32/2891_2.png) [@aruvqan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aruvqan)\ **Post date:** [October 3, 2005, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/scratch-or-rub/324452/5 "2005-10-03T06:07:28Z")
> [@Rushgeekgirl](#): > > That’s the place! :shivers: showering with mrAru - we have the scrubby gloves so I can get a combination back scritch, massage and get clean at the same time =) _ **aaaahhhhhhhhh** _\*\* Nothing quite as fantastic as freshly washed bed linens, a great shower and anevening snuggling in bed and relaxing with some tv watching, or a movie, and some nighttime playing=)