# SDMB Buddy List?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-buddy-list/210148>\
**Category:** About This Message Board\
**Created:** [October 29, 2003, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-buddy-list/210148 "2003-10-29T01:32:13Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 7\
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**Author:** ![Bear\_Nenno](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bear_nenno/32/3358_2.png) [@Bear\_Nenno](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bear_Nenno)\
**Post date:** [October 29, 2003, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-buddy-list/210148/1 "2003-10-29T01:32:13Z")

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What’s it do? What’s it for? I accidentally added **Hail Ants** to mine… nothing seemed to happen. I didn’t get notified of his posts or invited to any parties or anything…  
😕

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**Author:** ![Ice\_Wolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/dfb087/32.png) [@Ice\_Wolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ice_Wolf)\
**Post date:** [October 29, 2003, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-buddy-list/210148/2 "2003-10-29T02:43:38Z")

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I don’t use it myself, but if you go to your User CP, you see which of your “buddies” is online and which are not. I think. 🙂

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**Author:** ![Berkut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a88e57/32.png) [@Berkut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Berkut)\
**Post date:** [October 29, 2003, 3:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-buddy-list/210148/3 "2003-10-29T03:12:27Z")

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[http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/misc.php?action=faq&page=1#buddy](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/misc.php?action=faq&page=1#buddy)

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**Author:** ![Ringo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/779978/32.png) [@Ringo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ringo)\
**Post date:** [October 29, 2003, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-buddy-list/210148/4 "2003-10-29T03:18:58Z")

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I haven’t tried it before, but I did just now, adding **Ice Wolf** , who shows in this thread to be currently online. It appears to work as she describes. A question occurs, then: does it show a “buddy” as online even if they’re in stealth mode?

And, as with one’s “Ignore List,” am I not supposed to post who’s on my “Buddy List?”

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**Author:** ![Ice\_Wolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/dfb087/32.png) [@Ice\_Wolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ice_Wolf)\
**Post date:** [October 29, 2003, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-buddy-list/210148/5 "2003-10-29T03:41:53Z")

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Egad! I’m being watched! :eek: 🙂

Thanks for that link, **Berkut**. So, seeing as there _isn’t_ private messaging, the only thing it seems to do is tell you whose light is on and whose is off.

There isn’t a rule or guideline for that, I don’t think, **Ringo**. But, hey – if you started up a thread and said “These people are my buddies, no one else”, wouldn’t that cause more than a bit of a stir? 🙂

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**Author:** ![donkeyoatey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47c2d/32.png) [@donkeyoatey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/donkeyoatey)\
**Post date:** [October 30, 2003, 5:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-buddy-list/210148/6 "2003-10-30T17:35:59Z")

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In the [sticky FAQ](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=106617) Arnold says

> [@](#):
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> Corollary - the same applies to buddy lists. Try and be discreet about who’s on your buddy list, and don’t use it as a tool to irritate / hurt the feelings of other members.

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**Author:** ![Ringo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/779978/32.png) [@Ringo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ringo)\
**Post date:** [October 30, 2003, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-buddy-list/210148/7 "2003-10-30T17:58:52Z")

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Got it.