# SDMB poster Shodan put his hands on his own adopted child **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [November 16, 2018, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-poster-shodan-put-his-hands-on-his-own-adopted-child/824639 "2018-11-16T19:39:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2018, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-poster-shodan-put-his-hands-on-his-own-adopted-child/824639/81 "2018-11-20T13:34:20Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > Look at the start of this thread. Multiple posters didn’t understand the OP. Some were even so bold as to attack Lance for not making sense. All because they didn’t click that link and find out what he was talking about. I think your theory is wrong. I’m not gonna get into an endless back-and-forth with you, but your imagination about why people criticized Lance does not come across as plausible. > [@](#): > > At first I was going to be condescending about it > … > So I made a nice, friendly post for them, rather than being an ass about it. Dude, you may not realize this, but you STILL came across as condescending. If that wasn’t your intent, you need to pay much closer attention to how you’re coming across. > [@](#): > > Just didn’t expect it to be a poster I respected. You can respond to that surprise in two ways: 1. You can adjust your respect for me; 2. You can think, “Well, if someone I respect is telling me this, maybe I should pay attention.” Up to you. My advice is, don’t be so confident in your reading of other poster’s motivations and comprehension, read a lot more than you type, and conclude that your corrections of other folks’ behavior is not productive. If you don’t want to take my advice, spiffy keen; as I said, I’m not interested in a back-and-forth. ---
**Author:** ![Lance\_Turbo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lance_turbo/32/6156_2.png) [@Lance\_Turbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lance_Turbo)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2018, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-poster-shodan-put-his-hands-on-his-own-adopted-child/824639/82 "2018-11-20T20:44:53Z")
> [@Sunny\_Daze](#): > > **BigT** it was a bad OP. Sure we could have clicked on the link (I did, actually), but a little effort is always nice. In many forums, it’s a requirement even. Here, in the Pit, **Lance** got about what he should have expected. I’ve gotten much more than I expected and I appreciate it. I know it seems like I’m being disingenuous, but I really mean it when I think people for posting to this thread. So far this thread has smashed my expectations and exceeded my goals by more than I could have imagined. Thanks again to all who have participated. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2018, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-poster-shodan-put-his-hands-on-his-own-adopted-child/824639/83 "2018-11-20T21:53:02Z")
> [@running\_coach](#): > > What do you think the “T” stands for? Don’t look at me. ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2018, 10:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-poster-shodan-put-his-hands-on-his-own-adopted-child/824639/84 "2018-11-20T22:59:33Z")
> [@Lance\_Turbo](#): > > I’ve gotten much more than I expected and I appreciate it. > > I know it seems like I’m being disingenuous, but I really mean it when I think people for posting to this thread. So far this thread has smashed my expectations and exceeded my goals by more than I could have imagined. Thanks again to all who have participated. I’m on a list now, aren’t I. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2018, 12:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-poster-shodan-put-his-hands-on-his-own-adopted-child/824639/85 "2018-11-21T12:47:20Z")
> [@iiandyiiii](#): > > Just to add to the pile on, if anyone wasn’t aware, **Shodan** thinks it’s appropriate to consider some black people as n\*\*\*\*\*s: **Shodan** is a piece of shit. I also questioned him in that thread. He deliberately trolls as well, but I think he is a racist asshole. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2018, 2:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-poster-shodan-put-his-hands-on-his-own-adopted-child/824639/86 "2018-11-21T14:08:42Z")
Okay, good. Now, **Shodan** , tell **TokyoBayer** how that makes you feel. Say it like this: “when I hear you say that I’m a piece of shit who deliberately trolls but is also a racist asshole, it makes me feel…” Okay, now, face each other. **TokyoBayer** , what is something positive that you can share about your relationship? **Shodan** , I’ll ask you again, please don’t roll your eyes. This will only work if you both commit yourself to the process. ---
**Author:** ![Lance\_Turbo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lance_turbo/32/6156_2.png) [@Lance\_Turbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lance_Turbo)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2018, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-poster-shodan-put-his-hands-on-his-own-adopted-child/824639/87 "2018-11-21T15:39:16Z")
> [@Sunny\_Daze](#): > > I’m on a list now, aren’t I. ☹ It’s a good list. ---
**Author:** ![Cleophus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e57/32.png) [@Cleophus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cleophus)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2018, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-poster-shodan-put-his-hands-on-his-own-adopted-child/824639/88 "2018-11-22T21:48:27Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > Do you have some sort of personal problem with me? Because I have no beef with you. I defend you when people are unfair to you, and generally respect what you have to say, even when we disagree (which is actually not all that often). This doesn’t mean anything. You being nice to a poster on your own accord doesn’t entitle you to preferential treatment from them. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sdmb-poster-shodan-put-his-hands-on-his-own-adopted-child/824639.md?page=4)