I’ve decided that trying NOT to get on the scale every day is futile. When I was weighing in at Weight Watchers, I’d weigh myself ‘unofficially’ at home all the time, but it didn’t really count. I think I saw someone doing weekly averages in earlier threads, and I quite like that idea. I’m hovering at the low end of my recently normal range, which is good.
Other random, pointless observations: I’ve been having a lot of trouble getting enough calories in when I’m eating well (even with some treats included.) I’m not eating well all the time, and I’m okay with that. I haven’t managed to get workouts into my routine per se, but since I have to be up on campus three days per week and there’s no other way to get there than walking, well, I have an automatic 30-40 min walking 3x per week built in.
Getting ready for my long weekend (I don’t work Fridays and Monday’s a holiday) of 4 solid exercise days. My parents are here, so I’m going to kick my dad’s butt and take him snowshoeing for 2-3 hours at a time, and also do some xc skiing. Thank goodness we don’t have the freezing temps. It’s supposed to be clear with highs of 25-35 all week, which is positively balmy.
I hope to have held steady when I weigh in on Monday, considering the usual slight food increase with guests around.
Sometimes a weight loss works as advertised. I went to the doc a bout 4 months ago and she said I was diabetic and wanted to start drugs. I said ,"No way; I hate drugs. So i lost a little over 30 lbs. The sugar test this week was 90. Weight loss worked perfectly. Normal is between 80 and 120.
I am seething with resentment. And I know it is unreasonable. Really, I know it.
But WHY did my husband decide he needed Chinese food tonight? For that matter, WHY did he decide to make pizza the other night? Or bake cookies with the kids last night?
Are we sensing a pattern here?
I ate some grilled veggies for dinner and tried to eat an egg but it was gross and I was mad and so I just went into the other room and cried for a while.
I know I can’t expect him to change his eating to my new eating plan if he doesn’t want to. But I end up thinking of him as mean and, really, he’s not a mean person.
That part is so hard, Lorene - you have my sympathies. It’s miserable cooking and smelling great things you can’t eat. It hasn’t been as difficult for me because I don’t have kids so some of the things that we do to manage it wouldn’t work for you, but I did find a few things that made it easier. Chinese food can be very low calorie and delicious if you leave out the rice, noodles and fried stuff. You can eat a whole lot of mu shu for not a lot of calories. I make a lot of it at home and serve his over rice or noodles and eat mine without the extra carbs. When he wants pizza I eat one slice. It’s not great but it’s not exactly a binge either. When he barbecues steak or pork he grills fish or chicken for me instead. He can’t bake so I have no solution for the cookies. I’d cry too.
Thanks for the empathy, Karyn. I know I was not being reasonable, and there are a whole lot of other factors that go into it. At this point, my husband probably has more weight to lose than I do and, underneath it all, I am mad at him for not taking better care of his health.
Today is a better day. I went to the gym and ran 2.5 miles then took a BOSU BootCamp class. I’m going to treat myself to some dark chocolate later, I think.
Bless you, lorene! That would be SO hard for me. I’m lucky I’m living away at uni now, in a house with 2 girls (which isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, I’m the only one that ever cleans properly, and I’m the only guy), and i cook for myself and the girls only really cook oven food or just pasta and cheese.
Have you told him to try not tempting you? My girlfriends mum is so bad for trying to get me to eat more, it really annoys me!
If you feel it’s getting too much though, indulge every once in a while (no more than once per week, or it’ll creep up to twice per week and so on…) but figure out a daily calorie intake, and work it into that intake. When you have Chinese, maybe try to cut down on the noodles and eat more beansprouts with it? It’ll still taste as good, it’ll look like you’re eating a lot, but more of the meal will be veggies, so the calorie intake will be lower.
I weigh myself more than i should probably, but only count the reading on a Friday.
Before X-mas i was 14 stone 10 pounds, over X-mas, whilst i was away from uni (and my own indulgent cooking) and also at work, a combination of walking 7+ miles a work day and mums proper portion sizes got me down to 14 stone 7 as of weds the 7th.
Yesterday’s weight was 14 stone 4.4
Also got my body fat % down from 27.7% to 26.9%, and muscle percentage from 34% to 35.5%.
The weight routine works great, few different types of excercises, do a weight you know you’ll struggle to do more than 10 reps with, and continue to muscle failure. It’s working well, my biceps and forearm muscles are feeling a lot firmer after just one week.
Currently benching 15kg at 4/4 cadence, failure at 12 reps, so i think it’s time to buy a more weights!
I’m gonna try posting in this thread at least once a week, so I’ve got some kind of log, plus hopefully we’ll all be able to give each other encouragement!
I have, however, lost 58 pounds over the last 18 months. 22 of those pounds have been in the last three months.
I’m back into regular (not plus size) clothes and my husband’s jeans are almost too big for me now. But…
I have body dysmorphic disorder (I have been bulimic since I was 12 even though I was skinny and popular :rolleyes: ). I gained weight after my husband and I got married because he didn’t want to find me dead in the bathroom (the bulimia). So I mostly quit the bulimia. Mostly. I’ll never be okay with food.
So the point of all of this is I can’t see what I really look like. Even with all the weight I’ve lost I still “look” huge when I look in the mirror. I get positive reinforcement from everyone around me (without asking for it), but inside I can’t shake what I see in the mirror. And, no, seeing pictures of myself doesn’t help either.
Yes, I see a psychiatrist regularly mainly for other things, etc. Have any of you dealt with this and how did you get over it?
If you’re seeing a psychiatrist, M&S, then I think you’re already working on your issues. I can’t help you with how you see yourself, because that’s a huge area outside my experience. Good luck…you’ll get there.
I’m the same way and it really is a problem. No matter how thin I get, I still see a fat person. It got so bad by the end of losing 100 pounds that I collapsed and ended up in the hospital because I was eating less than 500 calories a day. In my mind I wasn’t anywhere near thin enough to be called anorexic but everyone starts somewhere, I guess. The psychologists did a few things in the hospital to help me get some perspective but it took a while. At first I could stand in front of a mirror next to someone the same height that weighed more than me and wore a larger size than I did and I still saw them as much thinner. They had her try on my clothes to prove to me that they wouldn’t fit her but I decided that she was just built differently. By the time that I left the hospital they had convinced me that my perceptions were all messed up and that I wasn’t fat anymore. It didn’t really change what I see, but the difference is now I know that I’m wrong and need reality checks from my partner and others, and I never let myself go below 1200 calories a day. It’s really rough sometimes because I want to live on lettuce and get it over with.
I have the same problem. I’m in a size 12 (some brands) but I’m still a fat girl regardless of what people say to me. I don’t know when it’ll go away, I don’t know that it ever will. I’m only about five pounds overweight (according to WW and BMI scales) so how is it possible that I’m still so fat?
I know now that I’m not fat and I can separate what I know from what I see, but what I see is always fatter than I am at any given moment. One day I was walking down the hallway and saw a tall, thin woman out of the corner of my eye and thought “I wish that I could get down to that size”. I turned around to look and what I had seen was my reflection in the glass window. My jaw dropped at first but I walked around with a goofy grin all day thinking 'That’s me!".
It was interesting that the same thing happened when I put 15 pounds of it back on over 4 years. I didn’t see it in the mirror. Maybe it was because it was such a gradual change and I never had to buy new clothes.
I like the both the ginger/sesame and balsamic vinegar light dressings from Newman’s Own. If you have Safeway where you live they have a store brand of Pear/Sesame dressing that great. There’s also a brand here called Litehouse that has good ones. All of them are about 30-40 calories for 2 tablespoons.
I’m relieved I’m not the only one who feels this way. I’ve apparently lost 30 lbs this year and I don’t feel much thinner. I haven’t weighed this little since junior high. I still think my stomach sticks out too much. I have objective measurements that prove I am not nearly as overweight as I used to be (just 10 lbs according to BMI) and my size 10 pants are getting too big, but damn it, I just see fat girl.
Angelic, that’s absolutely fine. A pound a week is the right amount to lose if you want to keep it off. Despite what they say on Biggest Loser, slow and steady wins the race!
