# Seeking advice on daughter's denial issue **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 6, 2017, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/seeking-advice-on-daughters-denial-issue/783894 "2017-04-06T16:31:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 2\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2017, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/seeking-advice-on-daughters-denial-issue/783894/41 "2017-04-11T14:44:03Z")
> [@Athabasca](#): > > Part of the consequence of being in an abusive relationship is isolation, and I will not allow her to be isolated from us when she is in so deep with this asshole boyfriend. Sorry, but we have to remain connected with her at least so that if he tries to hurt her she can come to us for help. You can remain connected, that’s not an issue. But she needs to be out on her own. You need to sit down with her and give her a deadline. This is April. Let’s say six months, so her deadline is October 31. By that time, she needs to find a job and a place to live. Do NOT co-sign her lease. And tell her that if she has not succeeded in finding a job and a place to live, you will pack her bags, put them on the porch and change the locks. You really need to cut her loose. She cannot learn to stand for herself in her current environment. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2017, 3:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/seeking-advice-on-daughters-denial-issue/783894/42 "2017-04-11T15:03:23Z")
> [@Clothahump](#): > > You need to sit down with her and give her a deadline. Did you read through the thread? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/seeking-advice-on-daughters-denial-issue/783894.md?page=2)