# Self reflection doesn't always have to hurt (an MMP Thread) **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Tags:** mmp\ **Created:** [October 15, 2012, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745 "2012-10-15T02:50:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![phouka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c5a1d2/32.png) [@phouka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phouka)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/121 "2012-10-17T01:38:44Z")
> [@Sticks\_and\_Scones](#): > > Sorry to interrupt the whimsy, but today has been one of those days where I just wanted to sit in a corner and cry. I feel like _something_ is wrong, but I don’t know what the something is. And it doesn’t even feel like grief, it’s just something… Hormones? Existential angst? The agonizing epiphany of a fictional character somehow transmitted to this dimension, and you happen to have the biggest antenna in your brain? I know. It’s stupid, and it’s infuriating, and it’s enough to make you scrape your brains out of your skull and stuff some new ones in. Two truths for you, love: - it’s not you. - it will pass. Honest. Just keep breathing. ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/122 "2012-10-17T02:01:31Z")
> [@Sticks\_and\_Scones](#): > > Sorry to interrupt the whimsy, but today has been one of those days where I just wanted to sit in a corner and cry. I feel like _something_ is wrong, but I don’t know what the something is. And it doesn’t even feel like grief, it’s just something… What this after the carrots? ---
**Author:** ![Taomist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@Taomist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taomist)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/123 "2012-10-17T03:06:19Z")
**Sticky** , you can borrow my Little Orange Cat [Murphy](http://s11.postimage.org/x0iwxlsrn/photo.jpg) for a few days; she will keep you so busy you won’t feel sad anymore, I promise! You may have to climb some ladders, though; that pic while she was at LEAST 25-30 feet off the ground, and I still don’t know exactly how she got down. Or up, for that matter; the lowest branch is 12 feet straight up. :eek:😛 Too bad I couldn’t get another shot of her brother in the smaller tree next to it, trying to get over to her to help her down, lol. Or here…you can snuggle with Mouse. He ALWAYS looks sad. [Mouse](http://s9.postimage.org/5mn4iy3rj/Mouse.jpg) ---
**Author:** ![Taters](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/taters/32/2845_2.png) [@Taters](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taters)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/124 "2012-10-17T03:32:43Z")
I am bracing myself for a family conference tomorrow with my Dad’s healthcare team. He is still hospitalized for the stroke he suffered three weeks ago. They put him in an inpatient rehab unit for a short while, but as it turns out, he is too weak and still much too ill for rehab. His stroke is complicated by his still low platelet count, leukemia and heart condition. They had him in the oncology ward for a couple of days and then they moved him to a different unit again. I don’t know what the prognosis is. When I talked to my youngest sister last night, she said they were trying to find a long term care facility that would accept his health insurance, VA, Medicare/Medicaid and could do platelet infusions. He requires these every other day now. My stepmother called during the debate to inform me of the family conference. When I tried to press for more info, she seemed curt and upset and just said that it would be better for all to hear it at the same time from the doctor. Warning bells were going off in my head, however, I don’t want to stress her any further so I’ll just have to wait until tomorrow. I talked to my Dad on the phone last night. He seemed so much worse and sounded like this teeny, tiny frail 100 year old man. He is only in his early 70s. I did watch the debate. I was irritated by it at times, but overall, I was pleased with my candidate’s performance. ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/125 "2012-10-17T03:51:23Z")
> [@April\_R](#): > > When will you be good enough for you? Is there some breaking point where you will accept everything about yourself? What do you believe stands between you and complete happiness? 1. Never 2. Nope 3. Daddy issues. I wasn’t a good enough reason for my father to man up, ditch booze and be a dad. Plus I’ve made some pretty bad mistakes in my life and while I _deeply_ regret them, because what’s done is done I remind myself daily that no matter the good I do now, I’ve fucked up royally and can never fix it. ---
**Author:** ![Seanette](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/seanette/32/9139_2.png) [@Seanette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Seanette)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 8:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/126 "2012-10-17T08:13:32Z")
> [@FairyChatMom](#): > > Home!! Tonight is sketty night! That’s all I’ve got. Tonight was meatloaf, beef rice-a-roni, and peas&carrots. I was feeling rather domestic. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Seanette](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/seanette/32/9139_2.png) [@Seanette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Seanette)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 8:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/127 "2012-10-17T08:15:23Z")
> [@Taomist](#): > > Cleaning-garbage-cat wrangling out of the trees: done. ??? Not sure I’m understanding you, which probably represents a brain failure on my side. 🙂 Still upper 80s here due to hit 90 or 91 Thursday. Good news is that forecasts say we’ll be around 73 by Sunday. I _ **hate** _ hot weather. ---
**Author:** ![Seanette](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/seanette/32/9139_2.png) [@Seanette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Seanette)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 8:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/128 "2012-10-17T08:18:12Z")
> [@Sticks\_and\_Scones](#): > > Sorry to interrupt the whimsy, but today has been one of those days where I just wanted to sit in a corner and cry. I feel like _something_ is wrong, but I don’t know what the something is. And it doesn’t even feel like grief, it’s just something… (offers hugs, brownies, and purring cat) ---
**Author:** ![dogbutler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dogbutler/32/428_2.png) [@dogbutler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dogbutler)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 10:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/129 "2012-10-17T10:03:24Z")
Up, caffeinated, off to irk. ---
**Author:** ![ems](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/cdc98d/32.png) [@ems](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ems)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 10:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/130 "2012-10-17T10:14:29Z")
It is rainy and cooooold here today at my parents. Brrrr. Today is also the only day of vacation where I have no plans so reading and general surfing in the warm heated house it is. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 10:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/131 "2012-10-17T10:21:07Z")
Good Mornin’ Y’all! Up and caffienatin’. _YAWN_ ‘Tis 57 Amurrkin out with a predicted high of 82 and continued dry, dry, dry. We have a forty percent chance of rain tomorrow which means nuttin’. **{{{StickyBuns and Taters}}}**. **StickyBuns** hope you’re feelin’ better today. **Taters** prayers, good thoughts headed out for the family conference today. This is a tough issue to deal with. I know cause been there done that and you just have to hope that the best decision is reached. Feel better everybody with various ick/sickies! **Tao** could Mouse get any keeeeeeeyoooooter! I roasted a poke tenderloin with garlic and **N.O.H.** last night for tonight’s dindin. I went to sleep with da cave smellin’ soooooooo good! Plus, I felt so efficient and domesticated what with the plannin’ ahead and everything. 😃 Now I need more caffiene and rumbly tummy wants to be fed. Then, alas and alack, irk purtification must commence. At least TPTB will get outta my hair today. Even though I wanted 'em here, I am now ready to say bye-bye. Happy Hump Day Y’all! ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21825_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 10:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/132 "2012-10-17T10:32:21Z")
**{{{Taters}}}** I didn’t watch the debate. I don’t watch debates - they just piss me off. I will read some fact-check articles to see how each side is spinning and which side is spinnier… Personally, I feel like these media events are just for show and in the grand scheme of things, they don’t mean much. What pisses me off the most is that most politicians are too concerned about their party “winning”, whatever that means, while the country as a whole continues to lose. \*GRRRRRR \*- no more politics. That’s why I avoid GD… Good morning and Happy Wednesday! I’ve got to finish the beast of a drawing today and on the way home, I need to stop at MVA to get my daughter’s name added to her car title. When she bought it 2 years ago, we traded in a car that was in my name which I had just registered, so the salesguy just transferred the tags, but the new title had to go in my name - I’m the cosigner on her loan, so there’s no shenanigans. Now it’s due for registration again and I’ve done (I hope) the paperwork to get her name on the title also. Then when she trades this one in, it’ll be titled in her name alone. Anyway, I’ll be glad to get this behind me. Other than that, it’s a chilly morning and it’ll be a cool day. Life is good. I need to get to work now. _ **MWAH!!** _ ---
**Author:** ![anyrose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/54ee81/32.png) [@anyrose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anyrose)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 10:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/133 "2012-10-17T10:55:52Z")
my .sig to all **Panda** - {{{{hugs}}}} - it’s never too late to start over. Trust me on this. I’ve started over many many times. I’ll get it right someday. ---
**Author:** ![VunderBob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/839c29/32.png) [@VunderBob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VunderBob)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 11:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/134 "2012-10-17T11:03:51Z")
> [@FairyChatMom](#): > > I don’t watch debates - they just piss me off. I lasted about 30 seconds. Seriously. I’m a bit of a political junkie, too. Blurf. ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 12:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/135 "2012-10-17T12:13:36Z")
I sit here at irk awaitin’ the return of TPTB and hopefully they’re goin’ away. I should be doin’ some stuff but I’m not. I almost feel ashamed. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![kanicbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/5f8ce5/32.png) [@kanicbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kanicbird)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 12:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/136 "2012-10-17T12:41:24Z")
> [@April\_R](#): > > When will you be good enough for you? Is there some breaking point where you will accept everything about yourself? Once I realized or I should say re-realized, that I am God’s child and God is delighted in raising me and watching me grow and progress, and especially when I find my own limitations and call out for help beyond what I can do on my own. > [@](#): > > What do you believe stands between you and complete happiness? This world in it’s current state, the cruelty and evil I see so ingrained and even encoded in law, seeing people who think they are free and are no different then slaves except they don’t know it. To see evil prosper far too often and the good shunned and ostracized. Though I do believe this world will be transformed to a much better place and even how it is God is using all the evil by man, shaping it towards a much greater good. > [@](#): > > My answer: I will never be good enough for myself. I always think there is something I could be doing better or harder or differently. I think this strems from my relationship with my father (shut up Freud). Father issues are a big one. I have separated the man who raised me from my heavenly Father. My earthly one was full of fear, and still seems to be, which was terribly restrictive in what I could do growing up and I missed out on a lot, a very lonely childhood. My heavenly Father sometimes comes through other people, I can recognize the voice of God though them, the voice of my real parents that I now know instinctively and it is a much better father, encouraging me to get out into this world and God will take care of my needs as well as any protection I would need. I have nothing to fear in this world and I should not fear stop me. > [@](#): > > The only way I would probably ever feel proud of myself or happy with myself is if I ever got a sincere, not back handed, compliment from my father. Fat chance. I am the only one who stands between myself and complete happiness, because as much as I have matured and grown as person, I still let the crappy relationship I had with my father growing up, and still have, affect how I feel about myself. Stupid psychology:p I need to ignore much of what my earthly father says, sometimes I need to rebuke him and call him a lier when he says things like no one cares about me - this happened about 2 weeks ago. I know what my real heavenly father says and I know that is only fear talking though my earthly father and fear has no place in my life. ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21825_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 12:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/137 "2012-10-17T12:53:04Z")
Time zones are a pain in the patoot!! The engineer who designed this harness is in Yuma, AZ. He’s not even at work yet and I’ve already sent him 3 emails this morning with questions, and I’m about to send one more. Until I get the answers, I can’t go on. At least not with this project. Fortunately, I’ve got a couple other things I can do to keep myself productive, but I hate having to break stride and realign my brain to other projects - I feel like I lose time when I refocus. Stoopit time zones. 😛 I’m thinking it’s a good time to make a cup of tea… ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 1:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/138 "2012-10-17T13:09:08Z")
> [@FairyChatMom](#): > > I don’t watch debates - they just piss me off. Agreed. And I don’t vote. It just encourages the bastards. Besides, if we could really _change things_ by voting, they wouldn’t let us do it. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cab0a1/32.png) [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 1:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/139 "2012-10-17T13:19:11Z")
Holy cripes, it’s only Wednesday? :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745/140 "2012-10-17T13:20:33Z")
Oh, **Taters** , I’m so sorry. 70 is young and I’m sorry he and your whole family have to go through this. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745.md?page=6) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/self-reflection-doesnt-always-have-to-hurt-an-mmp-thread/637745.md?page=8)