# Selfish SOB Hub **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [September 6, 2005, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/selfish-sob-hub/320424 "2005-09-06T22:23:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Cheesesteak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheesesteak/32/3694_2.png) [@Cheesesteak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheesesteak)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/selfish-sob-hub/320424/61 "2005-09-08T15:50:50Z")
I really love the part where YOUR psychological issues are to be respected and HIS psychological issues are to be ridiculed. The guy has a problem with sex, stemming from a past bad experience. It’s not that he’s struggling with self esteem issues, and reacting poorly, he’s just selfish. Honestly, it’s a two way street. You want him to respect you and your issues, why not try respecting him and his issues too? You haven’t mentioned anything here about discussing the issue with him, and why it bothers you. ---
**Author:** ![CarnalK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnalk/32/486_2.png) [@CarnalK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CarnalK)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/selfish-sob-hub/320424/62 "2005-09-08T15:55:12Z")
Perhaps there’s some medication hubby could take to lower his sexual anxiety. ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/selfish-sob-hub/320424/63 "2005-09-08T16:01:47Z")
> [@RSSchen](#): > > So, yes, his request for me to go off my meds that are doing positive things for me (and him, by trickle-down theory) is a thoroughly selfish request. I certainly had the impression from your OP that the meds were a one shot deal to help with the PPD. Since it appears that the meds will be permanent, you’re going to have to help your husband learn to deal with it, and you’re going to have to learn to deal with his issues. Or not. Do you guys talk about this, or just take pot-shots at each other? ---
**Author:** ![Revtim](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/revtim/32/1042_2.png) [@Revtim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Revtim)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/selfish-sob-hub/320424/64 "2005-09-08T16:20:01Z")
> [@CarnalK](#): > > Perhaps there’s some medication hubby could take to lower his sexual anxiety. Reminds me of how Paxil is prescribed for social anxiety, and one of the side effects is impotence. Some poor guy takes it and finally overcomes his anxiety enough to hook up with a woman, and it’s wet-noodle-ville. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/selfish-sob-hub/320424/65 "2005-09-08T16:25:08Z")
> [@Revtim](#): > > Reminds me of how Paxil is prescribed for social anxiety, and one of the side effects is impotence. Some poor guy takes it and finally overcomes his anxiety enough to hook up with a woman, and it’s wet-noodle-ville. Actually, the form of impotence I experienced under Paxil was just the opposite. I had plenty of machinery but climax just wouldn’t come. With practice I was able to work through the problem over time. I wonder if the OP might use a similar technique? ---
**Author:** ![Excalibre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@Excalibre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Excalibre)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/selfish-sob-hub/320424/66 "2005-09-08T16:30:39Z")
> [@Inigo Montoya](#): > > Actually, the form of impotence I experienced under Paxil was just the opposite. I had plenty of machinery but climax just wouldn’t come. With practice I was able to work through the problem over time. I wonder if the OP might use a similar technique? Depending on the woman, of course, experiences will differ. But from things I’ve read, it’s common for the SSRIs to _completely_ shut down a woman sexually. As in, sex becomes sort of incomprehensible. Obviously the OP isn’t quite that bad off, but I think the problem is usually much more profound in women. ---
**Author:** ![Daithi\_Lacha](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/daithi_lacha/32/5430_2.png) [@Daithi\_Lacha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Daithi_Lacha)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/selfish-sob-hub/320424/67 "2005-09-08T17:26:50Z")
> [@Miller](#): > > Pit good health, low cholesterol, and dental insurance. Pit fixed interest mortgage repayments. Pit a starter home. Pit your friends. Pit leisurewear and matching luggage. Pit DIY and wondering who the fuck you are on a Sunday morning. Pit sitting on that couch watching mind-numbing, spirit-crushing game shows, stuffing fucking junk food into your mouth. Pit rotting away at the end of it all, pishing your last in a miserable home, nothing more than an embarrassment to the selfish, fucked up brats you spawned to replace yourself. Pit your future. Pit life… But why would I want to do a thing like that? I chose not to Pit life. I chose to pit somethin’ else… Classic. Absolutely classic. Kudos. ---
**Author:** ![Revtim](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/revtim/32/1042_2.png) [@Revtim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Revtim)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/selfish-sob-hub/320424/68 "2005-09-08T19:22:19Z")
> [@Inigo Montoya](#): > > Actually, the form of impotence I experienced under Paxil was just the opposite. I had plenty of machinery but climax just wouldn’t come. With practice I was able to work through the problem over time. I wonder if the OP might use a similar technique? Yeah, me too, as I mentioned before. But that would still be depressing for the hypothetical guy who uses Paxil to overcome social anxiety, wouldn’t it? He finally hooks up, but can’t bust a nut no matter how long he tries. ---
**Author:** ![Rufus\_Pfukke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/53a042/32.png) [@Rufus\_Pfukke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rufus_Pfukke)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/selfish-sob-hub/320424/69 "2005-09-08T20:54:25Z")
This thread is more evidence that women take what men say and distort into something that offends them. ---
**Author:** ![Rufus\_Pfukke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/53a042/32.png) [@Rufus\_Pfukke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rufus_Pfukke)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 8:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/selfish-sob-hub/320424/70 "2005-09-08T20:55:36Z")
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