# Sending a card to an old friend - need help **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 17, 2008, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sending-a-card-to-an-old-friend-need-help/477561 "2008-12-17T14:53:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Lionne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Lionne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lionne)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2008, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sending-a-card-to-an-old-friend-need-help/477561/1 "2008-12-17T14:53:55Z")
A former friend of mine suffered a stroke 2 days ago. She just gave birth to her first child a week prior and now she’s in the hospital. Her husband is taking care of their little girl with help from her family. I haven’t spoken to either of them in over 3 years, but I’d like to send a card to let them know I’m thinking about them. We were friends for several years, but we had a huge falling out and it’s been unresolved ever since. I’m not looking to renew the friendship, just to send some good thoughts their way. But I don’t know exactly what to say in my card, and I’m here for suggestions. Just saying “Thinking of you, hope everything works out” is pretty bare…and I suck with cards anyway, even birthday ones, so I’m at a loss. What would you write? ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2008, 2:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sending-a-card-to-an-old-friend-need-help/477561/2 "2008-12-17T14:56:55Z")
“I’m so sorry to hear of everything you are going through. You are in my thoughts at this difficult time.” ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2008, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sending-a-card-to-an-old-friend-need-help/477561/3 "2008-12-17T15:00:50Z")
Yeah, what **gigi** said is fine. In this case I truly believe “it’s the thought that counts.” Your friend can choose to interpret the message however she wants - and I’m pretty sure it’ll be a favorable response. ---
**Author:** ![Lionne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Lionne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lionne)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2008, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sending-a-card-to-an-old-friend-need-help/477561/4 "2008-12-18T17:29:05Z")
OK, guess I will go with that. Thanks!