# Separate hotel beds for couples **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 13, 2018, 12:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266 "2018-09-13T12:43:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/21 "2018-09-13T17:22:33Z")
Play in one bed, sleep in two. Married 30 years. Reminds me of the old joke about a married couple, twin beds and a hat. ---
**Author:** ![snowthx](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowthx/32/10660_2.png) [@snowthx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snowthx)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 5:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/22 "2018-09-13T17:24:42Z")
This would not be an issue at all. I am not sure why this would be controversial. Sleep in separate beds. ---
**Author:** ![burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/burpo_the_wonder_mutt/32/365_2.png) [@burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/burpo_the_wonder_mutt)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/23 "2018-09-13T17:33:32Z")
Vacation is about getting my own bed. She gets the one near the AC. :mad: The dogs choose who they bunk with. ---
**Author:** ![CarnalK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnalk/32/486_2.png) [@CarnalK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CarnalK)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/24 "2018-09-13T17:44:54Z")
> [@Alessan](#): > > Separate beds. Our marriage will survive. > [@JohnT](#): > > She will still be my wife when we wake up, and after 31 years if separate hotel beds is a deal breaker it may be that we have larger issues to resolve. 😉 I don’t get why you think that’s the question. It seems a question of preference not what will save your marriage. I also don’t get a couple of these “yay, I get my own bed” responses. Why don’t you use separate beds all the time if it sucks for one of you? ---
**Author:** ![kenobi\_65](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kenobi_65/32/13178_2.png) [@kenobi\_65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenobi_65)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/25 "2018-09-13T17:50:55Z")
> [@CarnalK](#): > > I also don’t get a couple of these “yay, I get my own bed” responses. Why don’t you use separate beds all the time if it sucks for one of you? Why not? Mostly for the same reason that we don’t have a king – our bedroom is barely big enough for a queen bed and a dresser. Two twins would take up even more room. There’d be additional expense, as well, at least for the first time (buying two bedframes / headboards), but it’s mostly about space. ---
**Author:** ![CarnalK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnalk/32/486_2.png) [@CarnalK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CarnalK)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/26 "2018-09-13T17:54:13Z")
> [@kenobi\_65](#): > > Why not? Mostly for the same reason that we don’t have a king – our bedroom is barely big enough for a queen bed and a dresser. Two twins would take up even more room. > > There’d be additional expense, as well, at least for the first time (buying two bedframes / headboards), but it’s mostly about space. You spend a third of your life in bed, sleep is important to your general wellbeing. Having a comfortable sleep should be a decently high level priority. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/27 "2018-09-13T17:59:12Z")
> [@CarnalK](#): > > I don’t get why you think that’s the question. It seems a question of preference not what will save your marriage. I also don’t get a couple of these “yay, I get my own bed” responses. Why don’t you use separate beds all the time if it sucks for one of you? Having you analyze our responses also wasn’t part of the question. ---
**Author:** ![CarnalK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnalk/32/486_2.png) [@CarnalK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CarnalK)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/28 "2018-09-13T18:02:47Z")
> [@JohnT](#): > > Having you analyze our responses also wasn’t part of the question. But I wasn’t responding to the question. You were. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/29 "2018-09-13T18:07:32Z")
Yes. Congratulations on recognizing that. Any other amazing insights you wish to share with us? Anyway, who comes into a thread to ignore the question asked in order to immediately harp on people for the quality of their responses? (Rhetorical: you really don’t have to answer that.) ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/30 "2018-09-13T18:28:06Z")
Something else - change hotels. I refuse to stay in a place so cheap that it has **twin** beds in a room. ---
**Author:** ![kenobi\_65](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kenobi_65/32/13178_2.png) [@kenobi\_65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenobi_65)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/31 "2018-09-13T18:31:43Z")
> [@CarnalK](#): > > You spend a third of your life in bed, sleep is important to your general wellbeing. Having a comfortable sleep should be a decently high level priority. I am, in fact, well aware of this. (I’ll avoid making any snarky comments.) To be clear, it is not that our current sleeping situation is **uncomfortable** , it’s that being able to have more space to ourselves is **more** comfortable. ---
**Author:** ![CarnalK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnalk/32/486_2.png) [@CarnalK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CarnalK)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/32 "2018-09-13T18:47:05Z")
> [@JohnT](#): > > Yes. Congratulations on recognizing that. Any other amazing insights you wish to share with us? > > Anyway, who comes into a thread to ignore the question asked in order to immediately harp on people for the quality of their responses? (Rhetorical: you really don’t have to answer that.) I didn’t ignore the question. I answered the poll\*. Forgive me for discussing something on a message board. \*I voted push together, though I think it’s only once that ever happened. It wasn’t in the interest of saving our marriage, however. It was because that’s how we normally sleep and we’re fairly happy with it that way. ---
**Author:** ![dalej42](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/67e7ee/32.png) [@dalej42](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dalej42)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/33 "2018-09-13T18:58:21Z")
I’m trying to think if I’ve ever seen twin beds in a USA hotel room even at a Motel 6. I’ve seen that configuration on the websites of a few budget hotels in Europe. If I ran across the situation, even with two double beds, I’d opt for the separate bed situation. The situation wouldn’t be acceptable if it was a romantic vacation, but if it is just a place to sleep and shower, then anything would be fine. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/34 "2018-09-13T21:01:34Z")
It’s like the old saw, tall fences make good neighbors. A big bed makes happy partners. To me anyway. My legs, his girth, and a small bed wouldn’t work. ( god, I am poetic today) ---
**Author:** ![Skywatcher](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skywatcher/32/254_2.png) [@Skywatcher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skywatcher)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/35 "2018-09-13T21:06:24Z")
We always sleep separately. She has a tendency to kick & punch in her sleep. ---
**Author:** ![SmellMyWort](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea5d25/32.png) [@SmellMyWort](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmellMyWort)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/36 "2018-09-13T21:11:25Z")
> [@dalej42](#): > > I’m trying to think if I’ve ever seen twin beds in a USA hotel room even at a Motel 6. I’ve seen that configuration on the websites of a few budget hotels in Europe. If I ran across the situation, even with two double beds, I’d opt for the separate bed situation. The situation wouldn’t be acceptable if it was a romantic vacation, but if it is just a place to sleep and shower, then anything would be fine. I’ve never seen it in a hotel, but have stayed at a few VRBOs with groups of friends where one couple gets stuck with a room with two twins. ---
**Author:** ![Alessan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alessan/32/465_2.png) [@Alessan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alessan)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/37 "2018-09-13T21:15:33Z")
> [@CarnalK](#): > > I don’t get why you think that’s the question. It seems a question of preference not what will save your marriage. I also don’t get a couple of these “yay, I get my own bed” responses. Why don’t you use separate beds all the time if it sucks for one of you? Two large people sleeping in one small bed is a hassle. Moving furniture is also a hassle. Best just to avoid the hassle and sleep as is. There’s no reason not to. ---
**Author:** ![Aji\_de\_Gallina](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aji_de_gallina/32/260_2.png) [@Aji\_de\_Gallina](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aji_de_Gallina)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/38 "2018-09-13T21:18:19Z")
If at all possible, we push the beds together. It just feels strange not to sleep next to her. However, since we sleep on a king-size bed at home, we just can find the way to sleep together in anything smaller than double. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/39 "2018-09-13T21:22:35Z")
I don’t understand the urge to sleep together in this situation. Is it because you’ve become so accustomed to sleeping with a warm body next to you, it’s hard to get to sleep with out one? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/40 "2018-09-13T21:40:16Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > I don’t understand the urge to sleep together in this situation. Data point of 1: We both had (and ended) really, _really_ horrible marriages before we got together. \<[TMI deleted]\> And now we both just take tremendous mental comfort if we have physical contact, especially in the middle of the night. It more than offsets an awkward sleeping arrangement. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266.md?page=3)