# Separate hotel beds for couples **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 13, 2018, 12:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266 "2018-09-13T12:43:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Novelty\_Bobble](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Novelty\_Bobble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Novelty_Bobble)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/41 "2018-09-13T21:54:43Z")
> [@Inigo\_Montoya](#): > > Data point of 1: We both had (and ended) really, _really_ horrible marriages before we got together. \<[TMI deleted]\> And now we both just take tremendous mental comfort if we have physical contact, especially in the middle of the night. It more than offsets an awkward sleeping arrangement. I don’t know about anyone else but I find that rather sweet. No snark, I think it’s rather lovely that something so simple gives you pleasure. As for us, we’ve been together over 30 years and in the throes of teenage passion we’d have squished into one bed (or the bathroom for a laugh…or…anywhere really) for fun and games and a relaxing cuddling perhaps but always sleep in as much room as we can get. I think the real key for this is that you both want the same thing. That way tranquility lies. Inigo & co. like it snuggly we like space, as couples, each of those decisions works. At home we have a large-ish bed and the best thing we ever did? separate quilts. Honestly, it is a revelation. ---
**Author:** ![campp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@campp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/campp)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/42 "2018-09-13T21:57:36Z")
We usually ask for dual beds, and they’re usually both queens. She likes to watch TV a while, and I crash. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/43 "2018-09-13T22:01:30Z")
I think it’s nice too, Inigo. But, I need wide open space. I like to 2 quilt idea, I may start that. ---
**Author:** ![Fear\_Itself](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fear_itself/32/19637_2.png) [@Fear\_Itself](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fear_Itself)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 10:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/44 "2018-09-13T22:06:58Z")
At home we share a queen-size bed with two good sized dogs, so if we check into a hotel with two beds, even king-size, we both jump at the chance for that much real estate all to ourselves. It’s one of the luxuries of travel. ---
**Author:** ![brainstall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@brainstall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brainstall)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/45 "2018-09-13T22:44:59Z")
> [@Novelty\_Bobble](#): > > At home we have a large-ish bed and the best thing we ever did? separate quilts. Honestly, it is a revelation. So much yes to this!! He’s a furnace and sleeps under a thin quilt. I get cold at night (when I’m not burning up, yay menopause!) and want lots of covers. In a hotel with twin beds, we’d sleep separately. Once upon a time, we could have snuggled together in a twin, but we are now far too well fed and have too many aches and pains to be crammed together. We might cuddle for a bit in one bed, but once he starts snoring, I’ll be off to my own bed. ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2018, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/46 "2018-09-13T23:24:59Z")
We sleep in a king-size bed at home, and these days, we really need that much space to sleep in the same bed: even with the bedroom at 70 degrees, she can barely stand a sheet over her, while I’m under a few blankets, so there’s this pile in the middle of the bed where the blankets stop. On the road, we’d be in separate beds even if the room had a pair of queen beds. ---
**Author:** ![madmonk28](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madmonk28/32/20811_2.png) [@madmonk28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madmonk28)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2018, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/47 "2018-09-14T00:27:49Z")
Sleep in the same bed and put the luggage in the other bed, it’s actually kind of convenient. ---
**Author:** ![mistymage](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mistymage/32/459_2.png) [@mistymage](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mistymage)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2018, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/48 "2018-09-14T01:11:03Z")
Sleep separate. Sex in one bed, leave him with the wet spot and switch the next night so I get the wet spot bed (if there is a next night 🙂 ). It’s only happened to us once and the beds were doubles but here at home he can take up a whole California King by himself just with his arms and legs. ---
**Author:** ![kanicbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/5f8ce5/32.png) [@kanicbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kanicbird)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2018, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/49 "2018-09-14T01:26:15Z")
Push together if reasonable to do so, sleep separately if not. ---
**Author:** ![zombywoof](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/9e8a1a/32.png) [@zombywoof](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zombywoof)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2018, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/50 "2018-09-14T01:34:21Z")
> [@madmonk28](#): > > put the luggage in the other bed, it’s actually kind of convenient. Especially for the [bed bugs](https://www.popsci.com/how-to-avoid-bringing-bed-bugs-home-from-vacation). ---
**Author:** ![kopek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kopek/32/337_2.png) [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2018, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/51 "2018-09-14T04:59:09Z")
A lot of our motel stays together are from amusement park visits and we visit parks like Sherman visited Georgia. And at the end of the day we are beat, bruised and prefer to have our own beds anyway. We’re past the age of motel sex being automatic and since we have always slept in the same bed at home its a bit of a novelty for us. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2018, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/52 "2018-09-14T14:30:43Z")
I had this in Japan where the only room available for a girlfriend and I had two twin beds. The relationship was new so the beds went together. It was a pain in the ass because there was a nightstand with the phone and light between the beds. Now, not likely to go to that much work. ---
**Author:** ![TRC4941](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trc4941/32/6792_2.png) [@TRC4941](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TRC4941)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2018, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/53 "2018-09-14T14:51:34Z")
I also have never seen a twin bed in a hotel room. There would be no way I could sleep with my husband in a twin bed. Isn’t a twin bed just a single bed like a kid’s bed? I’m wondering if the OP is talking about a double bed which is still way too small for 2 people. We started out our married life in a queen bed 36 years ago. About 15 years ago we went to a king-sized bed. That was wonderful, but it has now changed again where he sleeps in the king and I sleep in a double bed in my own room! We do our “activities” in the big king bed but I always retire to my own piece of heaven upstairs to sleep. It’s the best thing we’ve ever done. I can’t handle his snoring and I get up at least once a night for a potty break. On the rare occasion that we have to sleep together, neither of us sleeps very well. His snoring wakes me up and he keeps waking up because he’s afraid his snoring is waking me up! ---
**Author:** ![kenobi\_65](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kenobi_65/32/13178_2.png) [@kenobi\_65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenobi_65)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2018, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/54 "2018-09-14T15:17:21Z")
> [@TRC4941](#): > > I also have never seen a twin bed in a hotel room. There would be no way I could sleep with my husband in a twin bed. Isn’t a twin bed just a single bed like a kid’s bed? I’m wondering if the OP is talking about a double bed which is still way too small for 2 people. Assuming [standard US bed sizes](https://www.us-mattress.com/mattress-size-information.html): A twin is 38" wide (and, yes, that’s the typical size for beds in children’s rooms). A double, or “full”, is 53" wide. My supposition is that this is the standard in most U.S. hotel rooms with two beds. A queen is 60" wide. A king is 76" wide. (A California King is 4" narrower, but also 4" longer.) I concur with you, and several other posters, that actual twin beds in U.S. hotel rooms seem to be fairly rare, except for rooms that specifically have beds intended for kids (such as at family resorts). I’ve seen twin-sized beds (or similar) in budget hotels in Europe, as well as at bed-and-breakfasts in Ireland. ---
**Author:** ![BetsQ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/fbc32d/32.png) [@BetsQ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BetsQ)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2018, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/55 "2018-09-14T15:33:32Z")
We stayed in a hotel room with twin beds for about two weeks shortly after we got married. We just slept in separate beds. Given the layout of the room, pushing them together wouldn’t have been easy and sharing would have been really uncomfortable. ---
**Author:** ![susan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/susan/32/17537_2.png) [@susan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/susan)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2018, 4:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/56 "2018-09-14T16:07:37Z")
Depends. Some rooms are so small that a larger bed blocks bathroom access for one person. That’s a no-go. Some are too hot and I’m on medication that causes bad hot flashes. Better not to share what with the blankets-on, blankets-off deal. ETA: TRC4941, A hotel room for two would have two twin beds. It’s quite frequent in other countries. On cruise ships, the beds usually can be pushed together or separated. When separate, there’s space between them, often providing the only access to the window. ---
**Author:** ![laurieb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/51bf81/32.png) [@laurieb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/laurieb)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2018, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266/57 "2018-09-14T17:36:36Z")
Being completely honest, 9/10 we’ll sleep in the same bed, even if there are two. We just like to be together. 🙂 The only time I remember we didn’t was on a trip to Nashville. We went out to eat at this awesome buffet, and yours truly ate WAY too much that night and had a _very_ bad case of gas. I just told him, “it won’t be pleasant if we sleep in the same bed.” 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/separate-hotel-beds-for-couples/821266.md?page=2)