To All:
It’s the presence of the TRIAD which is indicative of the problem child. Like so many “mental” problems of yesteryear, many more things are determined to be caused by imbalance of the chemical neurotransmitters of the brain.
ADD is one of the neurotransmitter problems. It takes a lot of tinkering to get the dose of medication right on the money to help an ADD child. You’re also faced with the fact the kid is GROWING, and then when hormone changes enter the picture, POW.
Chronic bedwetting is also a neurotransmitter problem. Some anti-depressants work for children, others may find a prescriptioin nosespray to be effective.
Now I don’t know if fire-setting and cruelty to animals is a neurotransmitter problem, but the main thing is to be AWARE of the potential.
F’rinstance: my son has ADD, so I know about all the medication-juggling that needs to be done. In addition, ADD is a family problem, on his Daddy’s side of the family. I’ve seen what relatives have gone through, and I was quick to get help when the symptoms appeared. Unfortunately, fire-setting has also appeared in the family, so when my son seemed to show an inordinate interest in fires, matches, lighters, etc, I immediately took him to the local fire station, which has an EXCELLENT fire-prevention intervention for children who may like to play with matches. The intervention specialist told me, “You have a problem here, he LIKES it too much.” We handled it by taking the problem to the physician who was already prescribing medication for the ADD.
The bed-wetting resolved. He didn’t set any more fires. And I was EXTREMELY vigiliant in observing his behavior around our family pets. If I would have had ANY indication of the third leg of the triangle, I would have insisted on hospitalization.
FYI, he’s a very normal, girl-crazy, food-craving, sleep-addicted, computer-hogging, nag-mom-and-dad-cuz-he-wants-to-DRIVE teen.
IMHO, bedwetters aren’t going to be serial killers. Fire-starters aren’t going to be serial killers (although they may take up arson as a hobby, LOL). But if you have a kid doing those two things, and he suddenly starts cutting up the family kitty-cat, DO SOMETHING BEFORE he becomes a serial killer.
~VOW