# Sex after Marriage... but not with your wife! **URL:** \ **Category:** Factual Questions\ **Created:** [September 22, 2007, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-after-marriage-but-not-with-your-wife/420146 "2007-09-22T23:41:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_fight\_the\_hypothetical](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/59ef9b/32.png) [@Don\_t\_fight\_the\_hypothetical](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_fight_the_hypothetical)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2007, 6:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-after-marriage-but-not-with-your-wife/420146/21 "2007-09-23T06:31:48Z")
[QUOTE=Siam Sam] These are NOT Urban Legends, but rather well-documented instances. [/QUOTE] I can has cite pleez. ---
**Author:** ![Boozahol\_Squid\_P.I](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d9b06d/32.png) [@Boozahol\_Squid\_P.I](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boozahol_Squid_P.I)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2007, 6:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-after-marriage-but-not-with-your-wife/420146/22 "2007-09-23T06:33:10Z")
[QUOTE=HazelNutCoffee] It’s illegal in South Korea for both parties (the cheater and the person they were cheating with). I’m not sure exactly what the penalty is - I’d imagine a fine of some sorts. [/QUOTE] Wait, so if I’m in Seoul, and I meet some lovely young thing in a bar, I’ve got a legal responsibility not only to ensure she’s over the age of consent (I assume there’s one there), but also that she’s not hitched to somebody else? What if she took her wedding ring off! Yeesh! ---
**Author:** ![R.P.McMurphy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7993a0/32.png) [@R.P.McMurphy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R.P.McMurphy)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2007, 6:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-after-marriage-but-not-with-your-wife/420146/23 "2007-09-23T06:34:03Z")
If you are in the military it can have a significant impact on your career. [Adultery in the military.](http://usmilitary.about.com/library/milinfo/bladulterydefinition.htm) ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2007, 7:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-after-marriage-but-not-with-your-wife/420146/24 "2007-09-23T07:18:16Z")
[QUOTE=Don’t fight the hypothetical] I can has cite pleez. [/QUOTE] Geez, where has it NOT been reported? But an Agence France-Presse story on it can be found [here.](http://www.taipeitimes.com/News/world/archives/2004/07/08/2003178134) I like this part: _He said his hardest case required bribing an angry wife to confess its location in a septic tank and the hiring of a wrecking crew to retrieve it. “I asked the nurse to clean it up well and warned the patient that he may get septicemia and he said, `do your best and if it gets septicemia I will die with my penis.'” “It was 15 hours between it being chopped off and reattached, which is much longer than the books say it can be done, but I went ahead and to my surprise everything went fine,” he said._ There have been so many local reports in the news here over the years. Google various combinations of penis, Thailand, ducks, balloon and slice, and you’ll come up with quite a few others. And sometimes the tables are turned, as [right here](http://www.mangosauce.com/news/) can be found an entertaining account on the local popular Mango Sauce website of a man who got drunk and sliced up his own penis because his wife refused him sex. About halfway down the page, the one entitled, “August 5, 2004: Numpty Dumpty had a great maul.” Admittedly, this seems to have been a Burmese national, but it happened in Thailand. And I remember other news reports when it happened identifying his wife as Thai, although in this instance the wife was not guilty. As the last sentence of the blurb says, “That’ll teach her!” EDIT: Ah, I see now that you can go straight to that one Mango Sauce story [here.](http://www.mangosauce.com/news/numpty_dumpty_maul.php) But checking out the other link above, you’ll get to see other humorous local news, as well. ---
**Author:** ![Boozahol\_Squid\_P.I](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d9b06d/32.png) [@Boozahol\_Squid\_P.I](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boozahol_Squid_P.I)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2007, 5:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-after-marriage-but-not-with-your-wife/420146/25 "2007-09-24T05:38:53Z")
[QUOTE=Spartydog] If you are in the military it can have a significant impact on your career. [Adultery in the military.](http://usmilitary.about.com/library/milinfo/bladulterydefinition.htm) [/QUOTE] > [@The Military Brass](#): > > 1. That the accused wrongfully had sexual intercourse with a certain person; Wrongfully had sexual intercourse? Like… you know… in the stinker? ---
**Author:** ![BrandonR](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/779978/32.png) [@BrandonR](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrandonR)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2007, 1:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-after-marriage-but-not-with-your-wife/420146/26 "2007-09-24T13:03:13Z")
Well _if_ marriage is a legally binding contract, adultery could be considered as severing terms of the contract… Perhaps? ---
**Author:** ![plnnr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2007, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-after-marriage-but-not-with-your-wife/420146/27 "2007-09-24T13:39:27Z")
VA has no-fault divorce. The cause does not come into account when determining spousal or child support. ---
**Author:** ![anson2995](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c77e96/32.png) [@anson2995](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anson2995)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2007, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-after-marriage-but-not-with-your-wife/420146/28 "2007-09-24T16:12:35Z")
[QUOTE=Billdo] In addition, these days an adultery prosecution could quite likely be held unconstitutional under [Lawrence v. Texas](http://caselaw.lp.findlaw.com/scripts/getcase.pl?court=us&vol=000&invol=02-102). the 2003 U.S. Supreme Court case that overturned a gay sodomy prosecution. [/QUOTE] Perhaps, but that case hasn’t prompted such a challenge yet despite the fact that some states [still prosecute people accused of adultery](http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A62581-2004Sep4.html). ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2007, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-after-marriage-but-not-with-your-wife/420146/29 "2007-09-24T16:24:35Z")
[QUOTE=plnnr] VA has no-fault divorce. The cause does not come into account when determining spousal or child support. [/QUOTE] Every State in the U.S. had no-fault divorce and has for a while. From Wiki: > [@](#): > > By late 1983, every state but South Dakota had adopted some form of no-fault divorce (although some forms were not as easy to obtain as that in California). The no-fault revolution was complete when South Dakota finally adopted no-fault divorce in 1985. Somewhat surprisingly (given its reputation as a fairly liberal state politically) the state in which it is hardest to obtain a “no-fault” divorce is New York. To obtain a “no-fault” divorce in that state, both the husband and wife have to sign and notarize a separation agreement for the judge and be separated for a year before no-fault divorce proceedings can ensue. As far as splitting the assets goes, adultery doesn’t enter into it. The 1-800-FLOWERS case, if you actually read the cite, is a different story. In short, hubby and wife separate, hubby starts dating and sends new girlfriend flowers, hubby and wife reconcile and so hubby drops girlfriend, flower company sends thank you card, wife freaks and renews divorce proceedings, hubby sues flower company. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-after-marriage-but-not-with-your-wife/420146.md?page=1)