# Sex - eyes open or closed **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 9, 2011, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298 "2011-05-09T17:43:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![baileygrrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e19b73/32.png) [@baileygrrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/baileygrrrl)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/1 "2011-05-09T17:43:59Z")
I always have my eyes closed during foreplay and intercourse. I guess it just helps me to focus and it seems to make sex much more enjoyable for me. Sometime my husband will say “look at me” while we are in the act, and I have to force myself to do it. I just feels uncomfortable and distracting to me. Was just curious about others experience with this. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/2 "2011-05-09T17:48:16Z")
Sometimes I have to close them because the tactile sensations are very strong and I just can’t be paying attention to so much stuff at the same time. The only time I had anybody remark on it, it was… ehm… special circumstances (the people I’d gone to the club with had left me behind for him to take to his home, he though I’d agreed to it, then I insisted he take me “home”, he did, claimed I had to at least give him a kiss, and I was trembling like a leaf and closed my eyes, he laughed at me for closing my eyes and then he realized it was my first kiss and that I wasn’t jerking him around, I was terrified). ---
**Author:** ![Yeticus\_Rex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/a698b9/32.png) [@Yeticus\_Rex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yeticus_Rex)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 7:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/3 "2011-05-09T19:47:45Z")
My best guess will be that men prefer to keep their eyes open so they can enjoy the visual pleasure of pleasing their partner. I know I do. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/4 "2011-05-09T19:49:13Z")
Both. ---
**Author:** ![Scubaqueen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c0e974/32.png) [@Scubaqueen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scubaqueen)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/5 "2011-05-09T19:57:18Z")
mostly closed - unless i’m up to something where i really need see what i’m doing. 😃 otherwise it’s sensory overload for me. ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/6 "2011-05-09T20:02:44Z")
I am visually stimulated and enjoy watching the woman I am with. I am a big fan of breasts and if they are available to look at, I often watch them. But I like to watch her face and other parts of her as well. If she prefers her eyes closed, I am fine with that. ---
**Author:** ![sevenwood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/6de8d8/32.png) [@sevenwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sevenwood)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/7 "2011-05-09T20:11:09Z")
Eyes open - you have to be careful, or somebody might steal something. Once in the sixties I had my eyes closed and lost my virginity. ---
**Author:** ![appleciders](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85f322/32.png) [@appleciders](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/appleciders)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/8 "2011-05-09T22:09:59Z")
Usually open. I enjoy watching the events. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2011, 1:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/9 "2011-05-10T01:05:20Z")
> [@Scubaqueen](#): > > mostly closed - unless i’m up to something where i really need see what i’m doing. 😃 otherwise it’s sensory overload for me. This. Usually it’s eyes closed in bed, eyes open in the dungeon. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Kobal2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kobal2/32/20_2.png) [@Kobal2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kobal2)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2011, 2:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/10 "2011-05-10T02:19:56Z")
Closed for the most part. I like a woman’s Braille. ---
**Author:** ![Docta\_G](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2bfe46/32.png) [@Docta\_G](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Docta_G)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2011, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/11 "2011-05-10T02:45:06Z")
Yes. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2011, 6:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/12 "2011-05-10T06:56:31Z")
Depends on who I’m with ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2011, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/13 "2011-05-10T15:08:32Z")
Open until I’m about to come (or “cum”, if you prefer), then closed. I think. ---
**Author:** ![kapri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4491bb/32.png) [@kapri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kapri)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2011, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/14 "2011-05-10T15:19:19Z")
Both, but usually open. I like to watch. ---
**Author:** ![Ostrya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/35a633/32.png) [@Ostrya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ostrya)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2011, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/15 "2011-05-10T15:24:23Z")
Open. (I mean, how else am I gonna see what they’re doing?) ---
**Author:** ![Emily\_Litella](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/emily_litella/32/3370_2.png) [@Emily\_Litella](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emily_Litella)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2011, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/16 "2011-05-11T01:57:50Z")
It’s about half and half. I close my eyes when I want to concentrate on sensations and open them when I want to see him or (depending on the position) watch what we’re doing. I like to see him when he’s coming. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2011, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/17 "2011-05-11T02:03:06Z")
Seeing either the inside or outside of a brown paper bag doesn’t do much for me so I just close my eyes and think of Great Britan… ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2011, 2:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/18 "2011-05-11T02:05:11Z")
Closed. Of course, I’m blind as a bat without my glasses anyway so it’s kind of moot. ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2011, 5:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/19 "2011-05-11T05:14:45Z")
Open. I like to keep one eye on the TV. ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2011, 6:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298/20 "2011-05-11T06:19:05Z")
> [@Arrendajo](#): > > Open. I like to keep one eye on the TV. me too 😉 [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-eyes-open-or-closed/581298.md?page=2)