# Sex, light on or off? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 5, 2000, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215 "2000-12-05T23:57:23Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![slackergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b38774/32.png) [@slackergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slackergirl)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/21 "2000-12-06T02:09:29Z")
Candles good, light from TV ok, daylight fine and dandy, big blaring overhead lights on at night - just sick and wrong - there are some shadows I just don’t need to see. ---
**Author:** ![Medea\_s\_Child](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Medea\_s\_Child](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Medea_s_Child)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/22 "2000-12-06T02:22:26Z")
My preferance? Start mid afternoon ish, continue through late afternoon watching the shadows mellow and lengthen, let the sky turn yellow, then red, then blue, then black. Watch the stars come out and talk of nothings and everything and make love again, and again and again. Until its so dark you just see the shine in thier eyes. If time is a consideration and I can’t have everything… moonlight and a fire. (Candles are all well and good, but campfires are better. Fires that are bigger than me are best.) [sub]Is this TMI?[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Rasa](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rasa/32/3578_2.png) [@Rasa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rasa)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 2:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/23 "2000-12-06T02:28:46Z")
Fluorescent light bad. Candles, fire, etc. good. ---
**Author:** ![cheezit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c57346/32.png) [@cheezit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cheezit)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/24 "2000-12-06T03:33:27Z")
It’s been so long for me, who the hell cares. :D:D Just bring on the lovin’. Actually, as I recall, I like some light so I could see the most beautiful sight in the world – my woman. ===wishing he **had** a woman=== ---
**Author:** ![Cyndar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Cyndar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyndar)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/25 "2000-12-06T03:38:18Z")
Total blackness is best. I can live with candles or really dim lights. Sex during the day would have to be with someone I really, really, trust. ---
**Author:** ![Montfort](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Montfort](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Montfort)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 4:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/26 "2000-12-06T04:24:34Z")
Lights on, definitely. I prefer to have some warning when I’m about to get slapped in the face. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![monkeylucifer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f05b48/32.png) [@monkeylucifer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monkeylucifer)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 4:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/27 "2000-12-06T04:31:02Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by ArchiveGuy \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > Depends on the girl… sometimes all it takes is a paper bag! > > So do you usually tell them that they’re sleeping with the Unknown Comic? \*\* Or a Saints fan?? Lights off early in the relationship…then once they’re no longer scared of the site of me naked, it’s time to have some dim light…candles are nice too. ---
**Author:** ![Anti\_Pro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Anti\_Pro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anti_Pro)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 4:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/28 "2000-12-06T04:31:28Z")
Just SEX would be quite nice, I don’t care if the lights are on OR off. ---
**Author:** ![1967GTO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/1/7ba0ec/32.png) [@1967GTO](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/1967GTO)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 4:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/29 "2000-12-06T04:55:37Z")
It depends. There are quickies, done almost any time and any place – well, nowhere public that is. Never with real bright lights, but sometimes soft ones, though I have attached Christmas lights to a dimmer switch and used those and she just loved it. (Spent some time sitting on top of me, playing with the damn switch too. Neither of us were real sober that night.) A few candles, scented or; Black lights. I like them and not those cheap bulb thingies either or those mini things but the 18 inch ones. Lights that flicker to background music or; Starlight and/or dim fire light. It is so cool to rig up a colored light in a lamp to a dimmer switch and adjust the level for effect (doesn’t work on Black Light) or have, like I do, a colorful selection of 40 watt ‘party’ bulbs ranging from red to green. Then you can change the color depending on the mood. Fun, fun, fun! Those light tubes connected to one are cool and so are neon lights, but they tend to be a bit too bright. ---
**Author:** ![crckrrick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7feea3/32.png) [@crckrrick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/crckrrick)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/30 "2000-12-06T05:08:09Z")
Anytime, anywhere, I can see in the dark anyways, but a little candlight ensures that she can see my amazing physique??? ---
**Author:** ![stifferd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/22d042/32.png) [@stifferd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stifferd)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 5:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/31 "2000-12-06T05:45:50Z")
On. Always on. Unless, of course, the girl your with wants them off… ---
**Author:** ![Random\_Scrub](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/49beb7/32.png) [@Random\_Scrub](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Random_Scrub)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/32 "2000-12-06T05:49:41Z")
Lights on, not glaring, but soft. I can’t imagine sex with the lights off. I keep getting this mental image of “Wait! That’s not my \!” ~Anthony, Just a Random Scrub ---
**Author:** ![Danalan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/76d3ee/32.png) [@Danalan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Danalan)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 5:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/33 "2000-12-06T05:52:48Z")
Doesn’t matter if the light is on or off – my eyes are closed anyway. ---
**Author:** ![Whammo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/8dc957/32.png) [@Whammo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Whammo)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 6:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/34 "2000-12-06T06:22:39Z")
When I’m… you know… …down _there_… I like a heavy overhead light and a doctors reflector strapped to my forehead. …just my preference… I suppose that would make SOME girls uneasy… ---
**Author:** ![Silo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ac91a4/32.png) [@Silo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silo)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 6:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/35 "2000-12-06T06:34:11Z")
Midnight, light on, off, candlelight, in the middle of the day, during a thunderstorm… Anytime and lighting is good for sex. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 6:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/36 "2000-12-06T06:39:42Z")
Back when I liked sex I liked low lighting. ---
**Author:** ![lee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lee/32/7455_2.png) [@lee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lee)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 7:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/37 "2000-12-06T07:06:23Z")
Really bright lights so i can scout out zits better during sex, but I don’t bother to turn on lights when i wake hubby for sex. ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21906_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 12:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/38 "2000-12-06T12:42:04Z")
Mebbe it’s just me, but I don’t generally think about the lighting… Tho the glow of CNN can be a mood killer… ---
**Author:** ![Jonathan\_Chance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jonathan_chance/32/701_2.png) [@Jonathan\_Chance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jonathan_Chance)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 12:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/39 "2000-12-06T12:56:04Z")
Prior to May 4th of this year I was a ‘dim light’ kind of guy. After May 4th and the arrival of the Chancling it’s really wherever we can find the time. Makes it frantic and fun but the lighting really isn’t a factor. ---
**Author:** ![Montfort](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Montfort](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Montfort)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2000, 1:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215/40 "2000-12-06T13:56:07Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Jonathan Chance \* > **Prior to May 4th of this year I was a ‘dim light’ kind of guy.** Ahh, cool. There’s a Chanceling with my birthday (see my sig). I’ve only gotten laid once on 4 May, incidentally, and the lights were on then. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-light-on-or-off/44215.md?page=3)