# Sex poll: how do you do it? (warning: TMI) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 16, 2003, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351 "2003-02-16T01:53:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![samarm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@samarm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samarm)\ **Post date:** [February 17, 2003, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/41 "2003-02-17T22:03:01Z")
irishgirl said: > [@](#): > > i lie on my side, but twist my back over so that it’s almost flat on the bed. then irish fella kneels in front of me and lifts my upper leg onto his shoulder, curling the other one around the back of his knees. We’ve done this also. I like it because it’s a bit different to the usual, and the sensation is different for me and her because of the angle of penetration. Mermaid said: > [@](#): > > Another position we like is The Lazy Boy–him in the recliner with it all the way back, I can sit on top of him with my feet on the floor. Just lay back in any recliner and you will see what I mean. You know, we’ve never done this! We’ve done it on the couch, but not sitting down in a chair. I think it’s because she would be on top, and neither of us particularly like positions where she is on top. cowgirl said: > [@](#): > > have her lie on her front, with a pillow below her hips (or not) and legs together. Enter from behind. I think it’s actually impossible to penetrate too deeply, but you’re in just the right place for the G-spot … Thanks for the tip. We actually have done it like this. You’re right, her butt cheeks prevent me from entering too deeply. It’s the full on, ass in the air, doggie she doesn’t like. Mandielies said: > [@](#): > > Normally with us, there’s a ton of foreplay (sometimes that’s all we have), but I like being surprised from time to time. Sometimes, we’ll just be lying in bed spooning, and he’ll slip it in. Then I put my upper leg around his back and use my toy. I’ve never had an orgasm during intercourse without electric help. > > The best, though, is when I’m high and he goes down on me! I just can’t keep quiet… My neighbors sure do get a nice show. We haven’t really discussed foreplay in this thread, but I feel we should be allowed to widen the topic to encompass it, as it is so important to lovemaking. Like you, we also enjoy a lot of foreplay. I take charge of this, and she doesn’t mind at all. She will normally just lie down, while I kiss her all over. Then I go down on her - she just loves this, and she will normally orgasm several times from this method. Interesting you should mention electronic help, as that is something I wouldn’t mind incorporating. However she will not have anything to do with sex toys at all. I think she may be a bit old fashioned in her views, as she thinks that sex toys are dirty. Hey, what can you do? ava said: > [@](#): > > 1. Missionary, but with my legs up REALLY high, my knees almost near my face. It goes in really deep that way. Sounds like a great position, but it wouldn’t work for us! I already have to start off slow and take it easy as it is. ---
**Author:** ![tanookie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/48db29/32.png) [@tanookie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanookie)\ **Post date:** [February 17, 2003, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/42 "2003-02-17T23:06:58Z")
I guess if she doesn’t want to get any sex toys then a swing is right out? ---
**Author:** ![samarm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@samarm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samarm)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/43 "2003-02-18T00:48:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by tanookie \* > \*\*I guess if she doesn’t want to get any sex toys then a swing is right out? \*\* I would put money on it. However, I’d love to know what position involves a swing! I’m intrigued, if a little scared. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![The\_Mermaid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@The\_Mermaid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Mermaid)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/44 "2003-02-18T01:07:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by samarm \* > \*\* However, I’d love to know what position involves a swing! I’m intrigued, if a little scared. 🙂 \*\* Maybe you could find a few pointers [here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=44205&highlight=swing) 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Ashtar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ea924/32.png) [@Lord\_Ashtar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Ashtar)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/45 "2003-02-18T01:17:11Z")
I don’t. I see no reason to continue my diseased DNA’s stranglehold on this planet. ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 1:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/46 "2003-02-18T01:19:08Z")
Just to add something nobody else has mentioned yet, we have something very much like [this](http://www.homedics.com/massage/detail.cfm?subcat=108&product=264) in our master bedroom. We don’t use it exclusively for sex; it’s in front of the TV. Occasionally, though, when we’re feeling energetic, this is an excellent variation. She lies back and relaxes, putting her feet on the floor on either side of the chair; I then straddle. The chair acts essentially as a full-body vibrator. Delightful. I think it cost us around $200, but it’s been a few years since we bought it. ---
**Author:** ![Grelby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a5b964/32.png) [@Grelby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grelby)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/47 "2003-02-18T01:26:24Z")
Well, not with a partner yet, but when I want to really have a good time I’ll go out and buy at least 2 cans of whipped cream. And peaches - lots of canned peaches. Then I need to go home and get, uh, ‘prepared’ which tends to take a while. Once I’m ready though, I grab the needlenose pliers and… [sub]what?[/sub] Hmph. Prudes. d&r 😃 ---
**Author:** ![tanookie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/48db29/32.png) [@tanookie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanookie)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 1:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/48 "2003-02-18T01:48:01Z")
> [@](#): > > Maybe you could find a few pointers here Yup that thread talks about the swing we have 🙂 There was quite the discussion this Christmas about why we have this huge eyebolt in the ceiling! ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/49 "2003-02-18T02:23:50Z")
For me, foreplay is better than orgasms. I can have an orgasm by myself, if I want it, but foreplay takes another person. Basically, everything I like about sex is usually categorized under foreplay. I love to kiss, nibble, lick, pinch, stroke pretty much any body part that makes him wriggle. I love giving blowjobs (and getting them too, of course ;)) as well as rimming. I also like bondage and mild S&M provided all the equipment is at hand (getting up and rummaging is a real mood-killer for me). Basically, anything that’s easy and reliable is excellent; anything unnecessarily acrobatic, chancy, yogic, equipment-intensive, risky, costly, or otherwise complex is not. Except in fantasy 😉 ---
**Author:** ![plain\_jane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a9a28c/32.png) [@plain\_jane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plain_jane)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/50 "2003-02-18T03:46:14Z")
[QUOTE] \*Originally posted by MixieArmadillo \* \*\*…Besides, I like to see his face and watch his reactions to what I’m doing to him. Guy orgasm faces are the best 😉 \*\* That is certainly true. Watching your partner climax is great! [QUOTE] \*Originally posted by tanookie \* \*\*You start spooned and then he rolls us both over so we are laying on our backs with me on top. \*\* Hey! That’s actually one position I’ve seen but never done personally. It looks awkward but I want to try it! Not to ask a terribly graphic detail, but how do you move when you’re on your back on top of him? I always wondered about woman-above (sitting) but facing away from partner, too. ---
**Author:** ![samarm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@samarm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samarm)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/51 "2003-02-18T04:56:05Z")
Grelby said > [@](#): > > Well, not with a partner yet, but when I want to really have a good time I’ll go out and buy at least 2 cans of whipped cream. And peaches - lots of canned peaches. Then I need to go home and get, uh, ‘prepared’ which tends to take a while. Once I’m ready though, I grab the needlenose pliers and… Well, now you mention it, food is an area that could be discussed. In fact I’m suprised no one has mentioned it yet. I have never comined sex with food, but I’m sure there are some dopers who have done. tanookie said > [@](#): > > There was quite the discussion this Christmas about why we have this huge eyebolt in the ceiling! Now, you see, this is what I call being _serious_ about your lovemaking… actually refitting a part of your house. Respect. matt\_mcl said > [@](#): > > Basically, everything I like about sex is usually categorized under foreplay. I love to kiss, nibble, lick, pinch, stroke pretty much any body part that makes him wriggle. I hear ya. I love foreplay also, but for me, it is not as good as the actual sex. I do all the nibbling and kissing things, though - it’s a great turn on. > [@](#): > > I also like bondage and mild S&M provided all the equipment is at hand (getting up and rummaging is a real mood-killer for me). I’ve never tried this. To be honest, I am open minded about it, but I’ve never really been attracted to the idea. Also, my GF would not be interested - I can guarantee that! I’m a little ignorant about what S&M involves. Is it about one partner being submissive and the other dominating? Also, you mention rimming. I know what this means, but I wonder if it is only gay guys that do this. Any hetro or lesbian couples do this? One more thing I feel I can share with the group: Sometimes just after lovemaking, she will just lie there and cry. This is only if the lovemaking has been particularly long and passionate. She says it just the orgasms that have been so emotional. She also finds it difficult to walk for a while afterwards. What are your experiences with this? ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 6:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/52 "2003-02-18T06:13:04Z")
> [@](#): > > I’m a little ignorant about what S&M involves. Is it about one partner being submissive and the other dominating? Basically, S&M proper means the consensual inflicting of pain during sex, by any of a variety of means, from one partner (the dom) to the other (the sub). It should of course be noted that in many (most?) couples, the partners change between dom and sub from encounter to encounter. It can range from very mild (spanking) to more baroque (candle wax, clamps, belts and so forth) to what many would regard as extreme. S&M can be pleasurable for a variety of reasons. Often, it is coupled with domination (role-playing, such as master/slave and the like) to establish a psychologically pleasurable mindset - some people get off on dominating, others on being dominated. On the other hand, many people simply enjoy the feeling. I love having my nipples pulled and pinched - it’s intensely physically pleasurable for me, though many would regard it as S&M. Still others get off on an endorphin rush - the evil ex-roommate was able to block out the pain of a flogging altogether and concentrate on the brain chemicals. It was …impressive to watch. Finally, bondage (use of restraints during sex) need not necessarily involve any of the above, though it often (usually?) does. I and the many other dopers who get off on S&M and related fields will be happy to fill you in on anything else you might like to know, or to give you any advice on techniques. > [@](#): > > Also, you mention rimming. I know what this means, but I wonder if it is only gay guys that do this. Nope, not at all! Both women and men have the same kinds of nerve endings in the anus; however, due to taboos and worries about hygiene, many people don’t know how pleasurable anal stimulation can be. For me it’s as much fun as getting a blow job, and I know that many straight men and women have fun with it. It’s no grosser than giving a blowjob provided you wash thoroughly before going for it. See [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rimming](http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rimming) for information on health concerns. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 6:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/53 "2003-02-18T06:17:46Z")
Oops, forgot: > [@](#): > > Sometimes just after lovemaking, she will just lie there and cry. This is only if the lovemaking has been particularly long and passionate Similar things have happened to me. Sometimes I lie there and gasp for a long time - not like choking or wheezing, but more convulsively. I often can’t speak for several seconds after, and I shake or twitch. Once or twice, I’ve started to laugh hysterically. After orgasm, “idiosyncratic reactions are myriad,” as one researcher was quoted in [Cecil’s excellent column on the subject](http://www.straightdope.com/classics/a2_191.html). It may set your mind at ease. ---
**Author:** ![tanookie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/48db29/32.png) [@tanookie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanookie)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 1:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/54 "2003-02-18T13:11:14Z")
Plain\_jane… That position is actually more _work_ for him. I control the depth/angle of penetration but he does all the thrusting… He also does some other things that are wonderful too… The only tough part here is rolling over correctly… We have a sense of humor about these things though! I find the woman on top facing away position a little awkward especially if I lean too far forward. He does like it though 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Grelby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a5b964/32.png) [@Grelby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grelby)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/55 "2003-02-18T16:40:36Z")
Yes indeed, **Samarm** , I was pointing out that food is certainly something that could be discussed. Need I point out that I had my tongue planted firmly in my cheek with that post, though? I think it would be rather difficult to manage that by myself ;). But yes, I was also making that point, if you want to try the food thing, hehehe. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Tone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/71c47a/32.png) [@Tone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tone)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/56 "2003-02-18T17:15:39Z")
The single best possition me and my girlfriend have come across _so to speak_ is as follows… start with the lady on top of you…facing you, then you sit up so you are both face to face… then “this takes a little bit of practice” move a pillow to right where your girlfriends back is going to be when lies back wards… SO as you lay her down onto the pillow it is under the very base of her spine… hence her pelvis and other useful things are raised up… then with the lady’s legs rested over your shoulders you carry on… my my my my my… it doesnt come better than that 🙂 IMO tone. ---
**Author:** ![cowgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8c91f0/32.png) [@cowgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cowgirl)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/57 "2003-02-18T17:28:10Z")
rimming … that was a lovely surprise I once got from a lover … it’s too bad about the taboo ! So many people are queasy about their mouths going on someone’s genitals, how to even begin thinking about the back door ! S&M … can anyone recommend a good starter book for het couples? ---
**Author:** ![Parallax](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bbce88/32.png) [@Parallax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Parallax)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/58 "2003-02-18T17:59:11Z")
The “[Sex News Daily](http://www.sexnewsdaily.com)” newsletter recently had a link to a condom site that had an [animated list of positions](http://www.condoms.au.com/condom_frame2.htm) that might help with some ideas or at least help figure out names for positions used. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Mac\_Rame](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ba0ec/32.png) [@Mac\_Rame](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mac_Rame)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/59 "2003-02-18T22:49:37Z")
Surprised no one has mentioned _Shower Sex_ yet. This is definently a fav for me and the gf. [ol] [li] If the shower doubles as a bathtub, or if it has a sizeable rail to retain the water from spilling into the bathroom, then she places both feet on that ledge with her back against the opposite wall. In that modified isometric press I stand between her legs and support her weight with my hips/legs. A bit athletic a position but it really rubs the right ways.[/li] [li] If the there is no ledge, then she faces the wall and I enter from behind. A bit of a modified doggy position. This one works especially well if you happen to have a variable speed shower head, especially the kind on the extension cord.[/li] [li] I will refrain from making any comments to or about **Opal** here as I understand she is a sweet, innocent lady who wouldn’t get involved in this type of thread.[/li] [/ol] Needless to say we certainly believe in the daily shower. ---
**Author:** ![Parallax](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bbce88/32.png) [@Parallax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Parallax)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2003, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351/60 "2003-02-18T22:58:38Z")
We’ve tried the shower a few times but it doesn’t really work for us - she doesn’t like to get water in her face and it is really hard to move around in a shower without spraying water around. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-how-do-you-do-it-warning-tmi/155351.md?page=4)