# Sex poll: quantity or quality? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 9, 2011, 1:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268 "2011-05-09T13:50:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 1:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/1 "2011-05-09T13:50:09Z")
Heh…sex…poll… Poll coming (snerk) You have the choice of consistently getting to make the beast with two backs once each and every month, or two weeks of marathon rogereing, twice a year…no other choices, assume either session is othewis satisfactory, and that during the downtimes, you are left to your own pornographic devices to scratch the itch. Which do you pick? ---
**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 2:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/2 "2011-05-09T14:15:29Z")
Thanks for bringing back horrible memories of watching _I Heart Huckabees_, by the way. ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/3 "2011-05-09T16:05:28Z")
I missed that movie, care to spoilerbox a reason? (or would that just be too painful? 😃 ) ---
**Author:** ![Yorikke](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yorikke/32/4335_2.png) [@Yorikke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yorikke)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 4:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/4 "2011-05-09T16:50:00Z")
That’s not really “quantity vs. quality,” is it? It’s spread out vs. concentrated. Maybe “mind-blowing sex twice yearly vs. acceptable sex monthly” would fit. Joe ---
**Author:** ![Lemur866](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lemur866/32/434_2.png) [@Lemur866](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lemur866)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/5 "2011-05-09T17:39:59Z")
Wait, once a month is “quantity”? Insert Mandy Patinkin quote here. ---
**Author:** ![Yorikke](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yorikke/32/4335_2.png) [@Yorikke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yorikke)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/6 "2011-05-09T18:00:16Z")
> [@Lemur866](#): > > Wait, once a month is “quantity”? Insert Mandy Patinkin quote here. Well, whatever then. Mind-blowing half-yearly vs. acceptable weekly, or dail, or whatever you please. Joe ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/7 "2011-05-09T18:03:04Z")
Well, flip the premise around. Would you rather not get enough, but get it regularly, or REALLY not get it enough but overload on it when you do? ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/8 "2011-05-09T19:07:19Z")
Yeah, I just flat turned down a FWB offer that would basically be once a month guaranteed, but I would still take once a month over a wild 2 weeks a year (unless I am allowed 12 partners :D). I would much rather spend my time and effort finding someone who is up for a couple times a week and not lay around all month feeling kinda unwanted the rest of the time. ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/9 "2011-05-09T19:16:40Z")
That was [intentionally] not offered. 🙂 We’re talking long-term married folk where one’s got a dead libido, but THIS thread isn’t about that. ---
**Author:** ![Yeticus\_Rex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/a698b9/32.png) [@Yeticus\_Rex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yeticus_Rex)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/10 "2011-05-09T19:33:31Z")
Then I will intentionally not answer the poll. 😉 Long-term married person here. ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/11 "2011-05-09T20:00:45Z")
It was pretty much a poll on the lesser of two evils…nearly nobody would select ‘Never have sex’ and nobody would select anything other than “three sessions a week”, given their druthers. ---
**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2011, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/12 "2011-05-09T20:28:14Z")
> [@Unintentionally\_Blank](#): > > I missed that movie, care to spoilerbox a reason? (or would that just be too painful? 😃 ) No need to spoilerize: it’s [this scene](http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/i_heart_huckabees/trailers/11103026). Which is not in itself bad; it’s the cumulative effect of the whole film. But I digress. I went for quality over quantity, if you’re interested. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2011, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/13 "2011-05-10T01:09:14Z")
As others have pointed out, the OP’s choices are not “quantity or quality,” they’re “rarely or almost never.” ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2011, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/14 "2011-05-10T15:30:02Z")
> [@Unintentionally\_Blank](#): > > Heh…sex…poll… Poll coming (snerk) > > You have the choice of consistently getting to make the beast with two backs once each and every month, or two weeks of marathon rogereing, twice a year…no other choices, assume either session is othewis satisfactory, and that during the downtimes, you are left to your own pornographic devices to scratch the itch. > > Which do you pick? Let’s see: (1) 12 days of sex a year, with sex only once on each of those days, or (2) 28 days of sex a year, with sex more than once a day on many if not most of those days. Option (2) involves 3-4 times as much sex as option (1). It’s a pretty easy choice. ---
**Author:** ![shijinn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cc9497/32.png) [@shijinn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shijinn)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2011, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/15 "2011-05-10T15:36:49Z")
ah… hence quality (1) vs quantity (2). i see. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2011, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/16 "2011-05-10T15:37:56Z")
One from column “A” and one from column “B”. Extra plum sauce. ---
**Author:** ![Darth\_Panda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ee7513/32.png) [@Darth\_Panda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darth_Panda)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2011, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/17 "2011-05-10T15:52:50Z")
Yeah, I read the poll as 12/year vs 100-200/year and didn’t have a tough choice… ---
**Author:** ![Gus\_Gusterson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/85f322/32.png) [@Gus\_Gusterson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gus_Gusterson)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2011, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/18 "2011-05-10T17:00:37Z")
As my wife is well aware, I get very frustrated after two weeks without sex. I wouldn’t be able to go six months between sessions, no matter how often we did it during the two-week window. I would be too miserable to be around and we would probably get divorced. I’ll take the once-a-month option. It’s about what we do right now. It’s the bare minimum I can live with. Any less frequently and I would either cheat or drive my wife insane. ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 2:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/19 "2011-05-12T02:46:25Z")
> [@Gus\_Gusterson](#): > > As my wife is well aware, I get very frustrated after two weeks without sex. I wouldn’t be able to go six months between sessions, no matter how often we did it during the two-week window. I would be too miserable to be around and we would probably get divorced. I’ll take the once-a-month option. It’s about what we do right now. It’s the bare minimum I can live with. Any less frequently and I would either cheat or drive my wife insane. Your honesty here is - admirable. With my husband of 16 yrs: First year: almost daily 2nd : about 3 times/week 3rd: once/week 4th: twice maybe 3 times monthly (frustration slowly setting in) I’ll skip a few years here… Last 2 years of marriage…I could easily count on 2 hands. :smack::mad: It’s not the sole reason of why I left, although I was very frustrated…but it was a big part of it. My libido is alive and well and I don’t believe it will ever go into hiding. Life is too damn short to not enjoy one of its great pleasures with someone who feels the same as you do…🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 2:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268/20 "2011-05-12T02:58:59Z")
Alas, Gus pretty much lives my sexual life. 😕 There is, literally, nothing I’d change about my life except my wife’s libido. With the various timing and rules, it works out to once a month. It’s not BAD…in fact, it’s pretty good…it’s just infrequent. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-poll-quantity-or-quality/581268.md?page=2)