# Sex shouldn't be so hard to get **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 27, 2016, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-shouldnt-be-so-hard-to-get/764199 "2016-08-27T22:22:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2016, 4:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-shouldnt-be-so-hard-to-get/764199/121 "2016-08-31T04:48:45Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > I had quite a different reaction to that article; I almost felt like I could have written it. I haven’t been quite as hopeless as she has, but pretty damn close. I’ve asked women out, and tried to expand my social circles, and joined clubs, and tried to meet people online, and lost 30 pounds. And none of it seems to matter; it’s like trying to pull yourself up by your bootstraps, but without any bootstraps. And no one I discuss it with ever seems to comprehend how futile it’s all been. Sorry, **Robot** , I have read some of the things you’ve related and I should’ve added a caveat to my above post that I was purely coming at what I wrote from a female perspective. The only thing I might ask, if I were in your position, is if I were aiming at dates beyond my pay grade. There have been a time or two that I’ve been so enamored of a fellow’s awesome personality and his incredible kindness towards me, that I didn’t take into account that he was probably turning local supermodel types away by the droves. Doing that led me to showing interest, then going down in flames because he could have any girl with a great attitude and an incredible body. So, I learned to stay on my own playing field, to good enough success to keep me occupied and happy. Just one thought. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2016, 2:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-shouldnt-be-so-hard-to-get/764199/122 "2016-08-31T14:27:05Z")
> [@faithfool](#): > > Sorry, **Robot** , I have read some of the things you’ve related and I should’ve added a caveat to my above post that I was purely coming at what I wrote from a female perspective. Oh, no apology is necessary. Yes, the tactics that men and women use to find partners are different, and so the tactical advice you might give them is different, too. But the sense of frustrated resignation she expressed is not unique to either gender. ---
**Author:** ![clairobscur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/839c29/32.png) [@clairobscur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/clairobscur)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2016, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-shouldnt-be-so-hard-to-get/764199/123 "2016-08-31T19:39:28Z")
> [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](#): > > Spot on! > > Of course, women explaining men’s thinking and motivation occurs just as often, IMHO. It’s silly either way. I know well a number of women, their personality, their tastes, their motivations, their experiences. I’m equally as qualified to talk about women as a woman is. She’s only more qualified about one woman, herself, out of 3 billions and a half women. What is silly is making generalizations about women or men, regardless of your own gender. People are icredibly different. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2016, 1:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-shouldnt-be-so-hard-to-get/764199/124 "2016-09-01T01:43:16Z")
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**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2016, 4:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-shouldnt-be-so-hard-to-get/764199/125 "2016-09-01T04:26:29Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > Oh, no apology is necessary. Yes, the tactics that men and women use to find partners are different, and so the tactical advice you might give them is different, too. But the sense of frustrated resignation she expressed is not unique to either gender. Now that we can agree on. Thank you for clarifying. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-shouldnt-be-so-hard-to-get/764199.md?page=6)