# Sex Toy Poll (TMI, duh!) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 5, 2003, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052 "2003-12-05T00:06:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![plnnr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2003, 5:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/21 "2003-12-05T17:31:22Z")
Your husband and I are brothers in …well, arms isn’t the right word…brothers in phalli? We have what we like to call “The Bag of Tricks.” Contents: 7" realistic vibrator 5" bullet shaped vibe (have to be careful, it doesn’t flare at the bottom and we don’t want any FOEs (foreign object extractions). Handcuffs (both metal and fur with velcro snaps) A couple of satin restraints About 8’ of nylon rope Blindfolds paintbrushes a couple of feathers 2 cock rings (one leather, one stainless steel) Eros lube (expensive, but worth it) We don’t use it all the time, but every now and then it is fun. Depends entirely on the mood. Oh, and “No, I’m not intimidated.” ---
**Author:** ![Is\_This\_All\_There\_Is](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/a87d85/32.png) [@Is\_This\_All\_There\_Is](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Is_This_All_There_Is)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2003, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/22 "2003-12-05T17:47:47Z")
I am curious about the men who have responded. Have any of the men who bought toys for their wives/girlfriends/lovers ever ended up with the toy being used on them? As a gay man, toys are common in my relationship and are used on a regular basis. I am just curious how many men in this topic have used them personally. ITATI ---
**Author:** ![Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ac8455/32.png) [@Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bippy_the_Beardless)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2003, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/23 "2003-12-05T18:57:26Z")
My girlfriend never found a use for a cock ring herself. Though she appreciated when I wore one. Tens units can be used alone or with your partner, but passing a current between yourself and your partner can be dangerous if you are not very careful. (the current isn’t dangerous unless it goes through your heart, and even then it is only slightly dangerous if you are healthy). And to correct my earlier message the Japanese finger tip vibrator is the FUKUOKU 9000 or the FUKUOKU Power Pack (which I have, and sometimes wear one on each hand as accessories to my Cyber-Goth look at the right sort of clubs) (sorry Fucko 200 came from memory, they don’t have the name on them, only on the packaging which has long since been thrown out.) ---
**Author:** ![MrTuffPaws](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f475e1/32.png) [@MrTuffPaws](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrTuffPaws)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2003, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/24 "2003-12-05T19:41:48Z")
The only toy that gets use is the Hataichi Magic wand, and that is only for her personal relaxations. Any other toys that have made it into the bed room have been tossed into drawers and forgotten due to general whining every time I suggest them. They are considered a waste of money now, and some of them were fucking expensive. Maybe a sculpture project or something can at least use them to some greater effect. ---
**Author:** ![liirogue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dbc845/32.png) [@liirogue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/liirogue)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2003, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/25 "2003-12-05T20:03:28Z")
I usually play by myself. Time for just hubby and I is at a premium, and like **Tomcat** ’s wife, I can take 20 minutes, easily, to orgasm. So my two favorite toys are 1. the shower head. It’s one of those hand-held, adjustable stream ones, and works wonders 2. Hitachi Magic Wand. Somewhat expensive (about $50, I think) and kinda loud, but I can not recommend this enough! Not to mention it can double as a back massager. When hubby and I are together, we occaisonally use things like a blindfold, and arms/ankles straps. ---
**Author:** ![moi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@moi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moi)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2003, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/26 "2003-12-05T21:01:46Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by scott evil \* > **…again, not a “toy,” but a weight bench that can be put to excellent use in bondage scenes** _ **Holy crap!** _ Why haven’t I thought of this? That damn thing is comin’ in from outta the garage… Many thanks, **scott evil**. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![plnnr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2003, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/27 "2003-12-05T21:18:01Z")
“I am just curious how many men in this topic have used them personally.” Of course. Why let her have all the fun? ---
**Author:** ![SanguineSpider](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@SanguineSpider](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanguineSpider)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2003, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/28 "2003-12-05T21:19:52Z")
I don’t know too many fellows who find a sex toy threatening. :rolleyes: That sounded as if I know TOO many fellows in THAT way! OOPS! I meant, from what I’ve heard and seen working in several porn stores, guys find them to be a turn on because they get to use them on their SO’s. Get her off and you’re guaranteed to get off, too, type of thing. Unless the girl needs a big, BIG dildo… guys don’t really have to worry. If a guy\* is\* threatened then he isn’t a good lover and needs to learn some more about female sexuality. Toys aren’t a replacement (ok, well, sometimes they are… if the couple is apart or there isn’t a relationship and it’s safer than a rent-a-ho), they are a perk for both partners! Toys are fun, toys are sexy. My SO just got me one (soft rubber dildo vibe). _Let the games begin!_ ---
**Author:** ![dorkusmalorkusmafia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dorkusmalorkusmafia/32/7266_2.png) [@dorkusmalorkusmafia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dorkusmalorkusmafia)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2003, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/29 "2003-12-05T21:26:16Z")
> [@](#): > > I want to get a harness before Pride next year. The man-bra of the leather community! Nothing to add. I just think harnesses look silly. ---
**Author:** ![shannablu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8baadc/32.png) [@shannablu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shannablu)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2003, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/30 "2003-12-05T22:29:58Z")
Although I have had a “Butterfly” vibrator for quite some time, my SO and I have just started to get into other toys. We have started with a 5" vibrator and now my SO wants to get me a bigger one, which I have no problems with 😉 . We also like to use feathers, silk ties, and blinfolds. We have found that flowers feel great when run lightly over the body. We have tried daisies and roses. ---
**Author:** ![scott\_evil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@scott\_evil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scott_evil)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2003, 4:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/31 "2003-12-06T04:07:50Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by dorkusmalorkusmafia \* > \*\*The man-bra of the leather community! > > Nothing to add. I just think harnesses look silly. \*\* There are different kinds. Like I’d wear something that made me look silly. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Evil\_Captor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f17d59/32.png) [@Evil\_Captor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_Captor)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2003, 4:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/32 "2003-12-06T04:24:27Z")
If you worry about looking silly during sex, you’re never gonna get it on. Always remember the incredulous thought of every kid as soon as he or she learns about sex: “He’s gonna stick his WHAT in my WHAT? That is so GROSS! Eeeew!” or “I’m supposed to stick my WHAT in her WHAT? No way, that’s ridiculous.” Sometimes, as mature adults, we forget how fundamentally silly-looking the sex act is. ---
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2003, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/33 "2003-12-06T04:50:51Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by bughunter \* > \*\* I think I’m gonna buy another one soon, this time one I can… err… strap to myself…_\* [This](http://www.intimatesynergy.com/go/d/pproduct_description.php/c/sc/skSE-0046-14/sidafc28686ee2ad7456879df65895ec2a8/) is what you want. I cannot recommend it highly enough. ---
**Author:** ![SanguineSpider](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@SanguineSpider](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanguineSpider)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2003, 6:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/34 "2003-12-06T06:45:19Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Lynne\_kilii \* > \*\*My boyfriend and I have gone to Fascinations, the local non-trashy sex shop around these parts… \*\* LOCAL, eh? The one on Bell RD? I’ve worked for two of the three locations in Phoenix. Small world, huh? And I bring you all this: [http://www.ebaumsworld.com/vibwarning.html](http://www.ebaumsworld.com/vibwarning.html) ---
**Author:** ![wendyrules](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/85e7bf/32.png) [@wendyrules](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wendyrules)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2003, 7:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/35 "2003-12-06T07:38:33Z")
Has anyone ever tried the humble cucumber?!!! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![AussieGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/898d66/32.png) [@AussieGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AussieGuy)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2003, 7:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/36 "2003-12-06T07:40:22Z")
IS NOTHING FUCKING PRIVATE ANYMORE???: ---
**Author:** ![MrTuffPaws](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f475e1/32.png) [@MrTuffPaws](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrTuffPaws)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2003, 7:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/37 "2003-12-06T07:54:42Z")
Cucumber? yes, and you should try some gourds. Really, some have a very good shape. ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2003, 1:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/38 "2003-12-06T13:48:25Z")
Well, we’ve had a couple of very standard toys for a number of years now (two dildos, one small one large), and one very slim anal penetrator that usually gets used on him, but sometimes on me. However. . .in the past couple of years, my sex drive has declined, and it’s become more difficult to reach orgasm (I’ve reached that lovely stage of life known as menopause), so this week or next we’re going to invest in another toy or two, to kind of help things along. We’re going to buy a glove that looks like a weigh-lifters glove, but it has a vibrating finger tip on each finger; we’ll both have fun with it. I don’t think that a satisfying sexual relationship is **the** most important part of marriage, but it’s pretty high on the list! ---
**Author:** ![Lynne\_kilii](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d26b3c/32.png) [@Lynne\_kilii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lynne_kilii)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2003, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/39 "2003-12-06T17:34:58Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by SanguineSpider \* > \*\*LOCAL, eh? The one on Bell RD? I’ve worked for two of the three locations in Phoenix. Small world, huh? > \*\* Sorry. One of the two Denver stores. But, all in all, still a small world. ---
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2003, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052/40 "2003-12-06T18:40:58Z")
Ok, odd question. My lady likes her toy, but only in conjunction with me. When she uses it (or I use it on her) she really really really likes it. However, anytime I mention it, in any context outside of sex, she gets embarassed, or even mad at me. She’s gone back and forth on getting a new one forever. Anyone got any advice? Anyone? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-toy-poll-tmi-duh/217052.md?page=3)