# Sex with an Ex **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 11, 2008, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-with-an-ex/433199 "2008-01-11T23:40:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2008, 3:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-with-an-ex/433199/21 "2008-01-12T15:10:39Z")
My God! Hell no. ---
**Author:** ![Fugazi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/f08c70/32.png) [@Fugazi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fugazi)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2008, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-with-an-ex/433199/22 "2008-01-12T15:47:37Z")
My wife and I were separated for about 11 months. Due to many circumstances, and the fact she’s an idiot, she had to move back in with me for a few months (Please Og, let it only be a few months!) She’s tried it a couple of times. Ain’t no way I’m going down that path, she’ll start to think her living arrangements are permanent. Even if circumstances were different and I could have no strings sex, I’d still say no. Too much has happened. A blow job might be in order though. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Musicat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/musicat/32/20189_2.png) [@Musicat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Musicat)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2008, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-with-an-ex/433199/23 "2008-01-12T15:53:46Z")
Heck, why not? I’ve done it (X-GFs, not X-YFs). One of the more enjoyable encounters was meeting up with a former steady from high school 20 years later. We fooled around a lot in school, but 20 years of growing can teach you a lot. It was interesting and enjoyable to see what we each had learned. Looking back, we were innocent babes in the woods in high school and we laughed about it. ---
**Author:** ![BMalion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e274bd/32.png) [@BMalion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BMalion)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2008, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-with-an-ex/433199/24 "2008-01-12T16:15:28Z")
No, the straightjacket she has on would get in the way. ---
**Author:** ![whiterabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/cab0a1/32.png) [@whiterabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whiterabbit)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2008, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-with-an-ex/433199/25 "2008-01-12T17:09:11Z")
One ex-fiance, one ex-live-with-boyfriend, and hell no. Especially no to the ex fiance. I hope he never gets to have sex again with anybody, actually. Why, yes, it was a horrible nasty breakup. It would still mess with my head way too bad with the ex-boyfriend, and it’s been a year since we broke up. ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2008, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-with-an-ex/433199/26 "2008-01-12T18:01:52Z")
I wouldn’t get that close to my ex under any circumstances; the woman is a demon from Hell and would probably rip my throat out with her fangs. ---
**Author:** ![Mona\_Lisa\_Simpson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ce7236/32.png) [@Mona\_Lisa\_Simpson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mona_Lisa_Simpson)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2008, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-with-an-ex/433199/27 "2008-01-12T18:53:13Z")
Hmm, my first boyfriend, not a doubt. We were 18 when we got together, we “invented” sex, so yeah, if the chance occured, you bet. Other ex’s not so much, although if I could get knocked up again by my son’s father, (not quite ex husband, been separated for 4 years w/o contact) sure… that would be cool. But that might involve talking to the ex, and since that never worked…better leave that one alone. The most recent ex boyfriend, well I dumped him because we had a lousy sex life… and he had no interest in fixing things… so no. The thought that he ever touched me is enough to break out the javex, actually. Other not so serious over the years boyfriends… maybe, but they don’t really fit the OP’s comment about “had to love the person” My current one…yikes…if we break up I will probably become a stalker and chase him for sex repeatedly. ---
**Author:** ![BMalion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e274bd/32.png) [@BMalion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BMalion)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2008, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-with-an-ex/433199/28 "2008-01-12T18:55:16Z")
[QUOTE=LouisB] I wouldn’t get that close to my ex under any circumstances; the woman is a demon from Hell and would probably rip my throat out with her fangs. [/QUOTE] So ditto. hey, I think I found a picture of [her!](http://www.cerberuscreations.com/images/theneed.jpg) ---
**Author:** ![UltraVires](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ecccb3/32.png) [@UltraVires](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UltraVires)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2008, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-with-an-ex/433199/29 "2008-01-12T19:20:09Z")
Since no one has mentioned it, I must be the puritan here. The fact that she is currently married, rocky or not, makes it an entirely different scenario in my opinion. If she is single, and you are single, that’s one thing. You should let her sort out her second marriage in the proper way (stay or leave) without your outside influence. There is only the leftover love that she would be feeling, confusing her situation more. Rare is the woman who has “ex-sex” with no strings attached, and no left over feelings. She might not tell you, but she has them… ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2008, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-with-an-ex/433199/30 "2008-01-12T19:50:17Z")
[QUOTE=Hockey Monkey] With \*my \* ex…no way in hell. I mean that in a specific person kinda way. If somebody else were my ex, I might give it some thought. But with him? Nuh uh. [/QUOTE] That’s how I feel. I’m sure I’d have sex with _an_ ex if it were desirable, but I have no desire to sleep with any of _my_ exes. ---
**Author:** ![gravitycrash](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/977dab/32.png) [@gravitycrash](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gravitycrash)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2008, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-with-an-ex/433199/31 "2008-01-12T20:21:48Z")
I see what you are saying and I have thought about that. I just think it was a strange comment to make. Actually I have met her husband and he seems like a real nice guy. And we had a few beers together. poor bastard. ---
**Author:** ![Azfang](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ebca7d/32.png) [@Azfang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Azfang)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2008, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-with-an-ex/433199/32 "2008-01-13T01:27:05Z")
I’ve only had the one (not terribly serious) girlfriend, and she broke up with me because she decided she was a lesbian. So, uh, entirely amicable, no hard feelings, and she’s still hot. If she’d go for it? Yeah. Hell yeah. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex-with-an-ex/433199.md?page=1)