# Sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 29, 2003, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407 "2003-09-29T02:04:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![blasphmer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6de8d8/32.png) [@blasphmer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/blasphmer)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407/1 "2003-09-29T02:04:01Z")
An I donna mean pulling your :wally . Anyways my slutty friends and Blasphmer the Pure :rolleyes: were having a debate the other day. Basically it revolved around Sex. Wheather or not it’ll make me a changed man. By being socially inept and reclusive it protected my virginity into my early twenties:D ☹ 😃 . Wheather or not that’s a good thing ain’t the issue. What it’ll do to me is the question. So, what are your experiences from your pre-sex life to post-sex? Some of the “facts” I heard were: It’ll make dating easier It’ll make you more laid back (poor word choice) It’ll make you focus on SEX and not the petty things of life It’ll increase my socialism (another poor word choice) I’ll be prepared to screw the right woman, the right way, the first time And like Richard Petty says “you have to get one to know how to get one” so after the first screw I’tll be easy to get laid again. So what’s your guys advice? ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407/2 "2003-09-29T02:52:26Z")
A lot of how having sex affects you is dependent on your attitudes towards sex, the context it happens in, and a lot of other factors. One thing I will say with absolute certainty is this: there is no “right way” to screw a woman. Every woman is different; her body, her erogenous zones, her fantasies, her hangups, EVERYTHING. There’s a learning curve to every relationship, regardless of previous experience. ---
**Author:** ![Capcha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/82dd89/32.png) [@Capcha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Capcha)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407/3 "2003-09-29T03:01:16Z")
It’s more like getting a tattoo, or a new car, a first kiss, \_\_\_(fill in the blank). You badly want to experience it, but once you have, it would give you a better realistic perspective of how it is. Imagination is always exaggerated. Or it could be just me. ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 3:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407/4 "2003-09-29T03:20:14Z")
Paraphrasing somebody I’ve forgotten: The people that need it the most are the ones that can’t get it. Best scenario: You have sex for the first time with someone you can have sex with a few more times. In my case, the first time was over too fast, the second time was boring (This is it?), and round about the 7th or 8th time it got really great. ---
**Author:** ![CaptBushido](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@CaptBushido](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CaptBushido)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407/5 "2003-09-29T03:26:13Z")
It’ll increase your socialism? And here I thought people’s romantic and political lives were mutually exclusive… ---
**Author:** ![InternetLegend](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/internetlegend/32/13154_2.png) [@InternetLegend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InternetLegend)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407/6 "2003-09-29T03:47:54Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by CaptBushido \* > \*\*It’ll increase your socialism? And here I thought people’s romantic and political lives were mutually exclusive… \*\* Didn’t you know? The personal is political. ---
**Author:** ![SuperNova](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@SuperNova](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuperNova)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407/7 "2003-09-29T04:57:57Z")
It won’t make you a “changed man.” After you lose it, it’s a remarkably smaller deal than you thought it would be. That said, it’s fun. ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407/8 "2003-09-29T04:59:38Z")
> [@](#): > > It won’t make you a “changed man.” After you lose it, it’s a remarkably smaller deal than you thought it would be. Yeah. You realize that, fun as sex is, it’s not everything. Though finally getting it can be something of a monkey off your back. ---
**Author:** ![3trew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/3/13edae/32.png) [@3trew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/3trew)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407/9 "2003-09-29T05:16:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Marley23 \* > \*\*Though finally getting it can be something of a monkey off your back. \*\* Apparently we went about this different ways… ---
**Author:** ![pervert](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bbe5ce/32.png) [@pervert](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pervert)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 6:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407/10 "2003-09-29T06:27:30Z")
I would like to suggest that you combine CCL’s and UB’s advice. Make sure it is someone who you are VERY comfortable with. Be prepared to explore extensively, and if possible, make sure you have enough time to “perform the activity” several time that first encounter. ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Ashtar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ea924/32.png) [@Lord\_Ashtar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Ashtar)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407/11 "2003-09-29T15:55:40Z")
Yes, please! Aw, c’mon. Someone had to do it! ---
**Author:** ![typhoon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ed8c4c/32.png) [@typhoon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/typhoon)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 8:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407/12 "2003-09-29T20:57:33Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by blasphmer \* > **…after the first screw I’tll be easy to get laid again.** You poor, naïve fool. ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407/13 "2003-09-29T22:04:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by SuperNova \* > **it’s a remarkably smaller deal than you thought it would be** Especially if she points at it and laughs. ---
**Author:** ![CaptBushido](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@CaptBushido](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CaptBushido)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 10:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407/14 "2003-09-29T22:15:00Z")
I do believe this thread inspires corny one-liners like very few can! … and BTW: [quote] Best scenario: You have sex for the first time with someone you can have sex with a few more times. In my case, the first time was over too fast, the second time was boring (This is it?), and round about the 7th or 8th time it got really great.\*\* Yeah, I had the same experience, but it was better the second night! ---
**Author:** ![sunstone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunstone/32/3372_2.png) [@sunstone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sunstone)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2003, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407/15 "2003-09-30T01:22:58Z")
It has everything to do with how the two people feel about each other…and that goes for both the romantic style of sex, and the “let’s be monkeys!” If it isn’t right for you, then you won’t gain in any meaningful way, IMHO. If it is right, the world will be yours! ---
**Author:** ![cuauhtemoc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ecb155/32.png) [@cuauhtemoc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cuauhtemoc)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2003, 1:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407/16 "2003-09-30T13:43:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by blasphmer \* > **Some of the “facts” I heard were: > It’ll make dating easier > It’ll make you more laid back (poor word choice) > It’ll make you focus on SEX and not the petty things of life > It’ll increase my socialism (another poor word choice) > I’ll be prepared to screw the right woman, the right way, the first time** It’ll give you the ability to see through walls and fly like Superman It’ll get you a discount at participating stores and restaurants It’ll wash away all your sins and let you go to heaven when you die ---
**Author:** ![NoGoodNamesLeft](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/8797f3/32.png) [@NoGoodNamesLeft](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NoGoodNamesLeft)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2003, 1:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sex/204407/17 "2003-09-30T13:59:27Z")
Would it be a 'pit to suggest your time would be far better spent with a dictionary and a basic grammar guide than conceptualizing your life after your first ‘screw’.