# Sexual assault isn't funny

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-assault-isnt-funny/799424>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [October 21, 2017, 11:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-assault-isnt-funny/799424 "2017-10-21T11:23:35Z")\
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**Author:** ![sabernode](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@sabernode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sabernode)\
**Post date:** [October 26, 2017, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-assault-isnt-funny/799424/61 "2017-10-26T03:07:10Z")

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Just to give you all an update, I talked to my friend yesterday about the incident. He said that he’s doing fine for three months now since he started doing online therapy. He said he was having nightmares before about future attacks. But now he’s in control of his [anxiety](https://www.betterhelp.com) and emotions. I hope he’ll get past this because he is really a nice guy. He doesn’t deserve it at all.

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**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\
**Post date:** [October 26, 2017, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-assault-isnt-funny/799424/62 "2017-10-26T18:12:18Z")

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That makes sense – he is working through it and finally feels comfortable saying it out loud to his friends. I’m glad you are there for him and thanks for the update.

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**Author:** ![Urbanredneck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ea5d25/32.png) [@Urbanredneck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urbanredneck)\
**Post date:** [October 26, 2017, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-assault-isnt-funny/799424/63 "2017-10-26T20:34:40Z")

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> [@AHunter3](#):
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> I think that is probably true.
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> There are also 14 year old girls who would not be traumatized by having an affair with a married 35 year old teacher. There are adult women who don’t experience their rape as emotionally traumatic, just a shitty disgusting thing that happened. There are orphaned people who felt a sense of profound relief when their parents died.
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> We tend to avoid tossing those possibilities out there when someone is discussing a traumatic experience with similar particulars because it sounds prescriptive if we do: “Well, I know some people would not be particularly messed up by that, so why should this one be so hurt by it?”

The same way as many an adult woman looking back at when they were 15 would say they would have loved being sexual with their 30 year old coach. Adult men get hit on by teen girls all the time. They just have to say no.

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