# Sexual fantasies/fetishes that you would never carry out in real life **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 7, 2013, 6:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061 "2013-04-07T06:56:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![MichaelEmouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/michaelemouse/32/101_2.png) [@MichaelEmouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MichaelEmouse)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2013, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/61 "2013-04-09T20:00:55Z")
> [@Silver\_Tyger](#): > > Hey now. I have some standards. Which are? C’mon, you’re willing to talk about this! I can’t really relate to transformation as a kink but it is an intellectual interest of mine, at least since I started watching David Cronenberg’s movies. So, what’s the darker stuff? ---
**Author:** ![simster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/simster/32/1047_2.png) [@simster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/simster)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2013, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/62 "2013-04-09T20:01:53Z")
> [@Silver\_Tyger](#): > > Hey now. I have some standards. Damn - ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Tyger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/fbc32d/32.png) [@Silver\_Tyger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Tyger)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2013, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/63 "2013-04-09T20:09:01Z")
> [@MichaelEmouse](#): > > Which are? C’mon, you’re willing to talk about this! > > I can’t really relate to transformation as a kink but it is an intellectual interest of mine, at least since I started watching David Cronenberg’s movies. So, what’s the darker stuff? I can’t think of an example right now. I’ll have watched or read something and it’ll inspire something. I tell myself all sorts of stories, most of which aren’t erotic or don’t start that way or they’ll start that way and turn into something else. ---
**Author:** ![Trinopus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/2bfe46/32.png) [@Trinopus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trinopus)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2013, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/64 "2013-04-09T22:09:15Z")
> [@MichaelEmouse](#): > > . . . I can’t really relate to transformation as a kink but it is an intellectual interest of mine, at least since I started watching David Cronenberg’s movies. So, what’s the darker stuff? To obey the “two click” rule… [http://www.nagasden.com/rubberbrushroot.html](http://www.nagasden.com/rubberbrushroot.html) **Warning…heavy.** The schtick is that there is a magic latex paintbrush that you can use to (temporarily) cut off your arms or legs (amputee fantasy) or… Well, or. Worse. Much worse. I mean it: **WARNING**. Damn heavy. Frankly, a little nauseating. (Think of Dr. Suess’ “Oobleck”, or Professor Brainard’s “Flubber,” put to imaginative sexual purposes…) Artist is Darin Brown, and he’s pretty good. A bit stylized. Also, warning, most of his web site is subscription-for-pay, but the link here is free stuff. ---
**Author:** ![janis\_and\_c0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janis_and_c0/32/21_2.png) [@janis\_and\_c0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/janis_and_c0)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2013, 11:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/65 "2013-04-09T23:12:58Z")
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**Author:** ![janis\_and\_c0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janis_and_c0/32/21_2.png) [@janis\_and\_c0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/janis_and_c0)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2013, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/66 "2013-04-09T23:15:20Z")
Just wanted to say good for you, \*\*Qin Shi Huangdi \*\* to follow your convictions. I hope you find a worthy partner someday! ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2013, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/67 "2013-04-09T23:21:59Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > How cute. I think it’s pretty fucking cool. I tried it … didn’t make it, anyone who does has my respect. ---
**Author:** ![Trinopus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/2bfe46/32.png) [@Trinopus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trinopus)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2013, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/68 "2013-04-10T01:38:11Z")
I sorta made it… I’m 56, a virgin…and no marriage prospects whatsoever. This is a big part of why my fantasy life is so rich! ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2013, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/69 "2013-04-10T01:40:22Z")
> [@PandaBear77](#): > > I think it’s pretty fucking cool. I tried it … didn’t make it, anyone who does has my respect. How old is he, 15? I’m just saying, he may grow up and his world view may change. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2013, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/70 "2013-04-10T01:46:18Z")
I won’t be impressed even then. Not everything difficult is worthwhile. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2013, 10:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/71 "2013-04-10T10:19:20Z")
Personally, I don’t understand how there’s any value in self-denial. If you want to wait until marriage, fine, but I don’t see how it’s “better” than not waiting. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2013, 10:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/72 "2013-04-10T10:31:16Z")
> [@olivesmarch4th](#): > > This is really, really common in women. For evidence all you have to do is pick up the nearest romance novel. It varies by culture. British romances tend to be of the “nobody ever touches” variety; American ones can make a reader wonder if anybody ever enters a relationship willingly; Spanish ones are consensual; there is an Italian writer who’s made a mine by writing “bad boy” novels where the Romeo’s behavior would have gotten him brained if he’d tried that shit with any of the girls in my HS class. In American teen movies, you’d think a car is the best place to have sex, followed by an unknown’s bed in a frathouse; Spanish and British ones involve beds in private houses. ---
**Author:** ![Teuton](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/teuton/32/3864_2.png) [@Teuton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Teuton)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2013, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/73 "2013-04-10T16:40:07Z")
There’s a bit of a difference between those fantasies that you actually can’t carry out because they aren’t reasonably possible (like the furry or transformation ones discussed above) and the ones that you can do but that you wouldn’t. There’s an overlap, certainly - I wonder how many who identify as furry would actually be interested in an actual real-life example - but it’s not total. I know a few furries who would, frankly, be right up for it. Anyway, given that the thread is about ones that you wouldn’t carry out, not that you can’t, I have to admit to some rape and power fantasies, generally in a revenge style, that I’d consider utterly unthinkable to actually do. ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/74 "2013-04-11T00:13:06Z")
Like hell I’m going to tell youse guys 😃 > [@Trinopus](#): > > How about: sex with a really hot precocious 17 year old? Same problem. You just need to relocate to a different state, y’know? Most of them, AoC is 16. Good luck getting a really hot precocious 17 y/o to give you the time of day, though, unless you just sold five million records 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/75 "2013-04-11T00:57:44Z")
Fantasies have the flavor of heaven, the scent of flowers, and the sound of angels voices. Reality? Not so much. That, and… that person in front of you? They are your partner, your friend. They know how to make your coffee just-right… just like you know how to make theirs (and do so w/o thinking). You love discussing things with them from politics to finances, you appreciate being with them, and you Don’t want to mess things up. The lovemaking is great, but they are the person you just can’t be without. Fantasies are fun, but That person? Once in your arms, you Never want to lose them… ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/76 "2013-04-11T01:06:21Z")
> [@Count\_Blucher](#): > > Fantasies have the flavor of heaven, the scent of flowers, and the sound of angels voices. > > Reality? Not so much. > > That, and… that person in front of you? They are your partner, your friend. They know how to make your coffee just-right… just like you know how to make theirs (and do so w/o thinking). You love discussing things with them from politics to finances, > you appreciate being with them, and you Don’t want to mess things up. The lovemaking is great, but they are the person you just can’t be without. Fantasies are fun, but That person? > > Once in your arms, you Never want to lose them… Way to threadshit, buddy… ---
**Author:** ![Wesley\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wesley_clark/32/20581_2.png) [@Wesley\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wesley_Clark)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/77 "2013-04-11T01:13:27Z")
> [@olivesmarch4th](#): > > This is really, really common in women. For evidence all you have to do is pick up the nearest romance novel. > > I’m not generally one for evolutionary biology, but with this one I’d have to say it’s primal. Though I think cultural taboos for women to not be so openly wanton also plays into it. > > Psychologically I’m really into the dominance/submission thing, but I don’t really see that playing out in real life. My husband is an extraordinarily gentle person and I don’t even think he could fake being a disciplinarian. Writing about it is enough for me. You know, I know you are married and I’m worried this sounds bad but I didn’t think you could say something to make yourself sound more appealing as a girlfriend and there you go and say something like that. Good for you, your husband is lucky. As for me, I don’t want to talk about my fantasies, but I knew a girl who didn’t want to use a safe word when we role played. I didn’t feel comfortable with that and didn’t do it, but I guess for her not having one was a huge turn on. ---
**Author:** ![Der\_Trihs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/der_trihs/32/233_2.png) [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/78 "2013-04-11T01:18:19Z")
> [@MichaelEmouse](#): > > Which are? C’mon, you’re willing to talk about this! > > I can’t really relate to transformation as a kink but it is an intellectual interest of mine, at least since I started watching David Cronenberg’s movies. So, what’s the darker stuff? Various random dark transformation stuff I’ve come across (not all of which I find appealing): People being turned into a mannequin, statue or inflatable sex doll, still conscious. Forcible transformation into a robot. Sometimes with fairly graphic descriptions of the victims internal organs being sucked out and replaced. Forcible transformation into an animal or near animal, with the mind as well as the body changed. Being transformed into a part demon, with associated mental corruption. Being turned into various types of furniture. Being turned into a living pillow. Being turned into a living toilet or garbage disposal. Being turned into a massively disproportional living factory for milk or semen. Being turned into a limbless sex toy. Being grafted into a monster and slowly absorbed into it, either totally or being reduced to an appendage. Being turned into a self aware sex organ attached to someone else. Being consumed from the inside by “c-snakes” that wear the victim’s outer shell as a puppet. Being turned into a mind controlled creature of living latex. The disembodied, still living and aware head of a woman being used as a soccer ball. Being turned into an insectoid creature and mentally subsumed into some “hive”. Being turned into a slug. Being turned into a “[honeypot](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honeypot_ant)”. Being dissolved into semen, on occasion self aware semen. Being forcibly reduced to an infant or child. Being turned into a wine barrel. Being turned into a component of a vacuum cleaner. Being turned into an anthropic mushroom. “Bimbofication”, which is much as it sounds like; often overlaps with erotic mind control. Getting turned into some mass of writhing tentacle penises, vaginas and breasts. Specific examples would be Jack L. Chalker and his tendency for the forcible transforming his characters; the various contributors to “Legends Of Belial”; Naga’s Den (some, not all; **Trinopus** ’ link is part of it); much of Arania’s Art Gallery; many stories in The Legacy of Timeless Beauty Archive (stories of being turned into statues, robots, mannequins, etc); an online writer named Von Krieger; and Sebastian Blackcat’s Magick Shoppe. A simply search should get you most or all of these, I didn’t want to directly link for obvious reasons. > [@Trinopus](#): > > To obey the “two click” rule… > > [http://www.nagasden.com/rubberbrushroot.html](http://www.nagasden.com/rubberbrushroot.html) > > **Warning…heavy.** The schtick is that there is a magic latex paintbrush that you can use to (temporarily) cut off your arms or legs (amputee fantasy) or… Well, or. Worse. Much worse. I mean it: **WARNING**. Damn heavy. Frankly, a little nauseating. (Think of Dr. Suess’ “Oobleck”, or Professor Brainard’s “Flubber,” put to imaginative sexual purposes…) I’ve actually seen the (for lack of a better phrase) magical non-traumatic amputation fantasy pop up a fair number of places, especially in recent years. Sometimes done erotically, sometimes nastily, and sometimes more erotic horror (which _is_ a genre; check the website Literotica). ---
**Author:** ![the\_O](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/eada6e/32.png) [@the\_O](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/the_O)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 1:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/79 "2013-04-11T01:33:26Z")
I didn’t even know that ‘penectomy’ was a word, let alone something to do for fun. As some people do… ---
**Author:** ![drewtwo99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d07c76/32.png) [@drewtwo99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewtwo99)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 9:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061/80 "2013-04-11T09:12:49Z")
> [@Teuton](#): > > There’s a bit of a difference between those fantasies that you actually can’t carry out because they aren’t reasonably possible (like the furry or transformation ones discussed above) and the ones that you can do but that you wouldn’t. There’s an overlap, certainly - I wonder how many who identify as furry would actually be interested in an actual real-life example - but it’s not total. I know a few furries who would, frankly, be right up for it. I don’t personally identify as a furry (I don’t role play, I don’t have a “fursona”, etc) but I do like drawn furry porn from time to time. And given the chance (and I’ve had the chance) I would not dress up as an animal or wear little animal things and have sex that way. I like it in artwork but not in real life. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-fantasies-fetishes-that-you-would-never-carry-out-in-real-life/655061.md?page=5)