# Sexual problem **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 9, 2015, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269 "2015-02-09T23:29:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Gonzori](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/d07c76/32.png) [@Gonzori](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gonzori)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2015, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/1 "2015-02-09T23:29:12Z")
Hi there. Lately i have been having some problems in the bed department. Sometimes i can’t get hard, and really often when i do manage to get hard it’s for a really short time and it’s really getting me down… So i decided to try out with some herbs but wanted to ask from some opinions first. So what are your opinions on them? ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2015, 11:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/2 "2015-02-09T23:50:14Z")
Have you seen a doctor? ---
**Author:** ![Sicks\_Ate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/258eb7/32.png) [@Sicks\_Ate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sicks_Ate)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 12:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/3 "2015-02-10T00:34:27Z")
With another person, or by yourself? ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/4 "2015-02-10T00:37:07Z")
Herbs are useless. Sexual dysfunction needs a doctor’s exam. ---
**Author:** ![Sir\_T-Cups](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Sir\_T-Cups](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sir_T-Cups)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 12:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/5 "2015-02-10T00:41:24Z")
Go to a doctor. It might even be a problem you never thought about like ADD. Can’t keep him up if I wonder why I had to do that assignment today instead of friday and holy crap I said ass is ass even a cuss word… ---
**Author:** ![GrumpyBunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bc8723/32.png) [@GrumpyBunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrumpyBunny)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 12:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/6 "2015-02-10T00:51:41Z")
My opinion on herbs? They’re good for cooking. For a problem with sexual dysfunction, I prefer to see a physician. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 1:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/7 "2015-02-10T01:21:47Z")
What’s Herb [say](http://www.delish.com/cm/delish/images/1p/bk-where-is-herb.jpg)? Do you like [Herb](http://oddculture.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/11/burger_king_herb.jpg)? ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/8 "2015-02-10T01:42:33Z")
**Mod Hat On** Medical questions belong in IMHO. I’ll move it there. ---
**Author:** ![TBG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c89c15/32.png) [@TBG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TBG)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 1:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/9 "2015-02-10T01:45:14Z")
That’s what viagra’s for. ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/10 "2015-02-10T01:53:28Z")
How old are you? Any other medical problems or conditions? Anything in your emotional state that would interfere with sexual functions such as depression or anxiety? The only herb that might enhance your sexual pleasure/function is marijuana. That’s still illegal in most states, though, and results vary wildly. If I were you I’d see a doctor, one with whom you can speak openly and candidly about your sex life. ---
**Author:** ![simster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/simster/32/1047_2.png) [@simster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/simster)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 1:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/11 "2015-02-10T01:55:16Z")
hey - the guy came here looking for the ‘straight dope’. Go see a doctor. ---
**Author:** ![Sicks\_Ate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/258eb7/32.png) [@Sicks\_Ate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sicks_Ate)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/12 "2015-02-10T02:09:57Z")
A lot of erection issues are 100% mental. See a doctor if you have any possible medical issues, but it’s more likely that there’s something in your head that’s causing it. ETA mindfulness can help a lot. This book has a great section on it : > **[9781579547370 - Great Sex A Man's Guide to the Secret Principles of...](http://www.biblio.com/book/great-sex-mans-guide-secret-principles/d/747691732?aid=frg&utm_source=google&utm_medium=product&utm_campaign=feed-details&gclid=CKKk_Iyn1sMCFTQF7AodqHYA1A)** > > Great Sex: A Man's Guide to the Secret Principles of Total-Body Sex by Michael Castleman. Rodale Books, 2004-01-03. Hardcover. Good.... ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 4:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/13 "2015-02-10T04:37:16Z")
In some cases - like mine - the person can learn to take the “problem” and turn it into a blessing in disguise. ---
**Author:** ![edwardcoast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/cab0a1/32.png) [@edwardcoast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/edwardcoast)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 6:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/14 "2015-02-10T06:25:03Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > In some cases - like mine - the person can learn to take the “problem” and turn it into a blessing in disguise. OK, I’ll ask. How can having a sexual dysfunction be considered a blessing in disguise? ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 7:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/15 "2015-02-10T07:17:09Z")
After my divorce at 40 years old I figured out it wouldn’t work with a new woman unless I dated her several times first. It would work enough to penetrate but maybe only last for a couple of minutes before dying out and having to start over. Somehow I managed to work with it and it had very little effect on my dating. A couple of cans of V8 juice every day a few days in advance seemed to make it peppier. It also encouraged me not to be changing woman every night. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 11:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/16 "2015-02-10T11:42:08Z")
> [@edwardcoast](#): > > OK, I’ll ask. How can having a sexual dysfunction be considered a blessing in disguise? Well, if you’re not thinking about sex every five minutes, that gives you all that extra time to think about solutions towards curing cancer, global warming, and world piece. Vaginas are like crack to us men. Once we get started, we just can’t stop thinking about them. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 12:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/17 "2015-02-10T12:26:46Z")
Before I even read the OP, I checked the join date. Thought for sure it would be February. But no, it’s January. I think this one’s for reals folks. Better take him seriously or he’ll leave and you know how hard it is for us to make new friends around here. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 12:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/18 "2015-02-10T12:29:45Z")
If you are in a state where medical marihuana is legal, you might wanna explore it. A little of the blessed herb and I’m harder than chinese algebra. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/19 "2015-02-10T13:34:23Z")
If you seriously wanted our opinion on using ‘herbs’ for your issue, shouldn’t you, at least name which herbs you’re considering? I mean, there are a lot of herbs, right? So, which are you thinking are going to work for you? And where did you hear of them? ---
**Author:** ![yellowjacketcoder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/4bbf92/32.png) [@yellowjacketcoder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yellowjacketcoder)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2015, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269/20 "2015-02-10T13:39:43Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > If you are in a state where medical marihuana is legal, you might wanna explore it. A little of the blessed herb and I’m harder than chinese algebra. What the heck is chinese algebra? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-problem/712269.md?page=2)