# Sexual stamina: how much is too much? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 15, 2010, 10:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363 "2010-06-15T22:50:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Duke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e8c25b/32.png) [@Duke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duke)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2010, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/41 "2010-06-16T19:28:19Z")
> [@Toofs](#): > > I can finish almost on que. See? > [@Qadgop the Mercotan](#): > > Que? What? Listen, I want to know who this C. K. Watt is. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2010, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/42 "2010-06-16T19:44:12Z")
> [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](#): > > **Chefguy** just gave the best advice on sex ever written. Not. Kidding. Quay? I guess it’s true when they say sex on the docks truly has no pier. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2010, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/43 "2010-06-16T19:50:11Z")
> [@Asimovian](#): > > Post-mortem orgasm is not all it’s cracked up to be. What the French call _la petite mort_, or “Li’l Mort,” named after an infamous 19th century Parisian brothel patron whose size more than compensated for his stature. ---
**Author:** ![Cluricaun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bb73d2/32.png) [@Cluricaun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cluricaun)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2010, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/44 "2010-06-16T20:22:21Z")
It used to be that I was a cassette guy. I wanted to go as long as one side of a cassette tape that I’d throw on before getting down to business. Then I had to be CD guy, trying to go as long as a CD that I’d start playing. Now with iPods I’m going to have to get a stunt dick or something. Every time I’m in iTunes I laugh at the day count at the bottom of the screen and just laugh and laugh. Six days my eye. ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2010, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/45 "2010-06-16T20:33:06Z")
> [@Cluricaun](#): > > It used to be that I was a cassette guy. That’s why I liked eight tracks. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![markm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9de053/32.png) [@markm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/markm)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2010, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/46 "2010-06-16T20:58:11Z")
It really does depend on the woman. My ex, no matter how long we went, she was complaining that I was ‘too fast’. Even if we went for an hour or more. The girl I’m seeing now, she likes short, she likes long, she just likes it and we play it by ear. As a guy, I know which _I_ prefer, but I’ll let you guess. ---
**Author:** ![PookahMacPhellimey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pookahmacphellimey/32/3175_2.png) [@PookahMacPhellimey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PookahMacPhellimey)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2010, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/47 "2010-06-16T21:17:54Z")
Woman here. I do like the penetration part of sex but if you’re not also stimulating me in other ways at the same time I’m not going to come, ever. I do enjoy the sensation of penetration so I’d prefer some “pumping action”, but as long as you use hands or mouth either before or after you’ve finished I don’t really mind how long or short you thrust. ---
**Author:** ![markm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9de053/32.png) [@markm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/markm)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2010, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/48 "2010-06-16T21:33:31Z")
> [@PookahMacPhellimey](#): > > [snip] I don’t really mind how long or short you thrust. Hey, leave size out of it. We got no control over that!😛 ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2010, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/49 "2010-06-16T21:39:31Z")
> [@CanvasShoes](#): > > It depends entirely upon what he’s doing during that “lasting”. Is he just mindlessly bonking away? Or is he actively and skillfully seeking her pleasure? > > If it’s the first…ummmm..I got news for some poor saps, that ain’t what that old saying means. If it’s the second…DINGDINGDING…winner! I think it’s a bit like when people talk about penis size. Guys start bragging about length and, when it comes down to it, most women are just wondering what’s so great about having their cervix jabbed. I’ve said it before, but this idea that sex=P in V and everything else is ‘foreplay’ or a nice treat is so twisted and bound to lead to disappointment. ---
**Author:** ![Eonwe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eonwe/32/240_2.png) [@Eonwe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eonwe)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2010, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/50 "2010-06-16T21:44:55Z")
> [@Duke](#): > > Listen, I want to know who this C. K. Watt is. It’s all right, he’s from Barcelona. > [@Chefguy](#): > > What’s best is when you have a partner who just likes the intimacy and energy of sexual contact. No pressure, no performance issues, just fun. Yep. Sometimes I last not very long at all, and other times I won’t reach orgasm at all in an evening of sex, and everything in between (though, usually if I want there are some sure-fire ways to make it happen). I’m fine with that, my girlfriend is fine with that, and we have a lot of fun. ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2010, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/51 "2010-06-16T21:45:18Z")
> [@Cat\_Fight](#): > > Guys start bragging about length and, when it comes down to it, most women are just wondering what’s so great about having their cervix jabbed. _Aaaaaaaaaaaa_men. (Also: owowowowow.) ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2010, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/52 "2010-06-16T22:00:39Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > Guys: how long do you feel like you “should” last? Do you make it last longer than it would be natural to because you feel it is expected/wanted? (I’ve heard of guys thinking about baseball or math to keep from climax… if I found out my guy was doing that I’d be incredibly hurt.) I try to last until I feel like I’ve got my money’s worth. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2010, 10:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/53 "2010-06-16T22:18:30Z")
> [@PookahMacPhellimey](#): > > I do enjoy the sensation of penetration so I’d prefer some “pumping action”, but as long as you use hands or mouth either before or after you’ve finished I don’t really mind how long or short you thrust. Indeed, that is the long and short of it. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2010, 11:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/54 "2010-06-16T23:30:51Z")
Did I mention my penis is a foot long? ---
**Author:** ![toofs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/4491bb/32.png) [@toofs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/toofs)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/55 "2010-06-17T02:32:05Z")
Dammit people, I can pop my cue on queue! And I’m a shower! ---
**Author:** ![cgg419](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cgg419/32/2847_2.png) [@cgg419](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cgg419)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 4:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/56 "2010-06-17T16:23:30Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > \*Three \*pumps? In a row? What am I, a machine? That really made me laugh 😃 > [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > Now I’m picturing three random pumps (ideally when she least expects it). 😃 Now I can’t breathe 😃 ---
**Author:** ![ralph124c](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/8797f3/32.png) [@ralph124c](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ralph124c)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/57 "2010-06-17T16:26:12Z")
Sting once claimed to be able to last 6 hours. I don’t know if that is a benefit.😃 ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 4:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/58 "2010-06-17T16:43:56Z")
> [@ralph124c](#): > > Sting once claimed to be able to last 6 hours. > I don’t know if that is a benefit.😃 Marathons like that can be fun, assuming there’s some variation involved. Sure as hell wouldn’t want to do it every day, though. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2010, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/59 "2010-06-18T02:49:10Z")
You guys who are quick . . . wait till you’re older; it’ll last for-fuckin’-\*\*\*ever. * * * ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2010, 3:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363/60 "2010-06-18T03:00:55Z")
> [@Shot\_From\_Guns](#): > > Most women aren’t going to be bothered by a guy who reaches orgasm quickly… \*as long as you make sure they get off, too \*(either before, during, or after). Do you really know what “most women” want, or do you only know what YOU want? As for me, I like a good long fucking. Having an orgasm before or after doesn’t obviate the need for PIV sex. (And no, it’s not because I prefer to have orgasms during, 'cause that’s never happened for me.) It’s not that I’m looking for a guy who goes for hours on end, but I absolutely am bothered if he usually comes quickly. Quick is fine sometimes, but not all the time. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-stamina-how-much-is-too-much/543363.md?page=4)