# Sexual terms and lack of knowledge. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 26, 2000, 8:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813 "2000-08-26T08:04:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2000, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813/41 "2000-08-29T00:22:52Z")
**BDSM:** Bondage & Discipline Domination & Submission Sado - Masochism Yes folks, it’s a combination of all three pain-related practices. I found that out from the internet, one of the few sex terms I didn’t know a few years ago. ---
**Author:** ![Lizard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@Lizard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lizard)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2000, 12:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813/42 "2000-08-29T00:55:09Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Edwardina \* > \*\ ***Lizard** _shyly raises her hand_ > \*\* There’s nothing shy about you, girl! 😃 > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Edwardina \* > BDSM: > Bondage & Discipline > Domination & Submission > Sado - Masochism > \*\* Actually, some of these words are synonyms, so everything you have said would fit equally well. Discipline = Domination & Submission Bondage _can_ be a part of discipline. > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by pluto_ > I do, however, have a question about a term I’ve heard frequently and understand vaguely but have never heard a definition. What is meant by “mutual masturbation”? I know what “mutual” means and I know what “masturbation” means, but that still leaves a lot of room for interpretation. Does this describe masturbating in each other’s presence, or does it mean giving each other hand-jobs, or something different yet? > \*\* Yup. That’s exactly what it is. God, I hope my mother never stumbles across this board and figures out who I am. Then I’d have to explain how I know all this crap. ---
**Author:** ![Dijon\_Warlock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a9a28c/32.png) [@Dijon\_Warlock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dijon_Warlock)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2000, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813/43 "2000-08-29T02:35:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by GuanoLad \* > **By the way, frottage is usually referring to rubbing against each other to orgasm while fully clothed. i.e. dry-humping. It’s more of a fetish, though, really.** The fetish angle of it, from what I’ve always heard, involves rubbing up against total strangers in crowded places; particularly males “accidentally” rubbing up against female backsides. Always happy to help. ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2000, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813/44 "2000-08-29T02:53:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by GuanoLad \* > \*\ ***BDSM:** > > Bondage & Discipline > Domination & Submission > Sado - Masochism > > Yes folks, it’s a combination of all three pain-related practices. I found that out from the internet, one of the few sex terms I didn’t know a few years ago. > \*\* Actually, NONE of these have to involve pain, and it is only Sado Masochism that generally involves pain. Domination & Submission generally does not involve pain… it involves control. Bondage doesn’t always or generally involve discipline. The entire topic of BDSM isn’t as simple as people think, nor are the people in it what most would imagine. They are generally include the most intelligent people I have ever met. Don’t judge a book by its leather cover… ---
**Author:** ![DRY](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a87d85/32.png) [@DRY](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DRY)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2000, 9:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813/45 "2000-08-30T09:48:23Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by GuanoLad \* > \*\*i.e. dry-humping. > \*\* ARRGGH!! _ **MUST** _ we use this term?? :mad: 😕 [sub] I wouldn’t be so defensive if I were actually getting any! Frottage would probably be a “World-Series-Winning-Walk-Off-Grand-Slam” for me, right about now![/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Dijon\_Warlock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a9a28c/32.png) [@Dijon\_Warlock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dijon_Warlock)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2000, 10:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813/46 "2000-08-30T10:01:26Z")
What?!? You’re _against_ “DRY-humping”? If it makes you feel any better, it ain’t dry if you do it long enough… ::runs away! runs away!:: ---
**Author:** ![DRY](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a87d85/32.png) [@DRY](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DRY)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2000, 10:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813/47 "2000-08-30T10:14:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Dijon Warlock \* > \*\*What?!? You’re _against_ “DRY-humping”? If it makes you feel any better, it ain’t dry if you do it long enough… > > ::runs away! runs away!:: \*\* If I did it long enough, I wouldn’t be “against it”, would I?? On the other hand, if I were “against it”, I’d be “doing it”, wouldn’t I?? [sub] I’m starting to feel like the android Norman, at the end of the Star Trek episode, I, Mudd (“Everything I tell you is a lie”) [/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Dijon\_Warlock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a9a28c/32.png) [@Dijon\_Warlock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dijon_Warlock)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2000, 10:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813/48 "2000-08-30T10:25:55Z")
Yep, yep, ya gotta do it against _something_ or you’d be against doing it… [sub]Now _I’m_ feeling like someone in that other STAR TREK episode: Mudd’s Women. I’m feeling like feeling them against me…ARGH!!![/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c77e96/32.png) [@Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Speaker_for_the_Dead)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2000, 10:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813/49 "2000-10-18T22:50:16Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Necros \* > \*\*So, **Speaker for the Dead** how YOU doin`? > Dang! Bad Necros, bad Necros… \*\* Sorry for the late reply, but I’m doin’ fine 😃 ---
**Author:** ![BigFriendlyGiant](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/dbc845/32.png) [@BigFriendlyGiant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigFriendlyGiant)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2000, 11:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813/50 "2000-10-18T23:03:52Z")
Why is it that a lot of “adults” don’t know a lot of “sexual” terms that most children and teens know today? I think it’s because a lot of adults don’t pay as close attention as teens and children. ---
**Author:** ![Edwardina](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Edwardina](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Edwardina)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2000, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813/51 "2000-10-18T23:07:54Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Lizard \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by Edwardina \* > > \*\ ***Lizard** _shyly raises her hand_ > > \*\* > > There’s nothing shy about you, girl! 😃 > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by Edwardina \* \*\* It’s been awhile, but I just wanted to say: “Thanks for noticing. I think.” ---
**Author:** ![Crash101](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b2d939/32.png) [@Crash101](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crash101)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2000, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813/52 "2000-10-19T02:07:22Z")
I’m only 15 and I guess you’d say I was sheltered as far as my family, but I must say that just about all my sexual knowledge would have come from my friends. I really think parents aren’t comfortable talking about it with their kids, I never got “the talk” either but as of now I’m up to date on most sexual acts/terms 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Medea\_s\_Child](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Medea\_s\_Child](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Medea_s_Child)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2000, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813/53 "2000-10-19T02:52:02Z")
Thank you Hastur. DRY, love, there is an easy fix to your troubles… ---
**Author:** ![DRY](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a87d85/32.png) [@DRY](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DRY)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2000, 6:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813/54 "2000-10-19T06:08:59Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Medea’s Child \* > \*\*DRY, love, there is an easy fix to your troubles… \*\* Once again, I say to thee: _ **PROMISES, PROMISES!!** _ Re the OP, IIRC, I read in one of the People’s Almanacs that Charlie Chaplin was asked whether he’d ever performed oral sex on his wife (or had it performed on him). I believe this was in connection with a divorce proceeding. Anyway, his reply, which scandalized people at the time, was: “Don’t all married couples do that?” :eek: 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Hamadryad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6de8d8/32.png) [@Hamadryad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hamadryad)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2000, 1:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813/55 "2000-10-19T13:00:26Z")
I don’t know how I missed this thread back when it started, but it makes me even MORE insulted that someone on these boards called me a liar when I said that I had explained the meanings of “fellatio,” “cunnilingus,” “voyeurism,” and “exhibitionism” to a bunch of people when I was in high school. It was implied that the people at my school were either backwards hicks with no access (or desire for access) to reading material, or that I was a big liar trying to pretend I had been some sort of adolescent Dr. Ruth. I have nothing to add to the conversation, but DAMN, do I ever feel vindicated. ---
**Author:** ![AWB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/bb73d2/32.png) [@AWB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AWB)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2000, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813/56 "2000-10-19T16:24:45Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by KimKatt \* > \*\*I had to explain to him what was meant by ‘boink.’ > > He is 41. And he is very, very well versed in sexual terminology… but somehow, he had missed that one. \*\* He obviously didn’t watch [Moonlighting](http://us.imdb.com/Title?0088571). There was one scene where David must’ve said ‘boink’ a dozen times to Maddie. Hilarious! ---
**Author:** ![BornDodgy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e19b73/32.png) [@BornDodgy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BornDodgy)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2000, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813/57 "2000-10-19T16:40:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Trout Mask Replica \* > \*\*There was a guy in my eighth-grade class who thought that ‘dildo’ was another word for ‘condom’. \*\* …I know how important sex is […] and I would use a protective dildo. The growing pains of Adrian Mole That book was some funny shit… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-terms-and-lack-of-knowledge/30813.md?page=2)