# (Sexual TMI) So, I'm a PME--suggestions? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 26, 2005, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-tmi-so-im-a-pme-suggestions/301207 "2005-04-26T18:24:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![flood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbe5ce/32.png) [@flood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flood)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2005, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-tmi-so-im-a-pme-suggestions/301207/61 "2005-06-16T15:11:47Z")
We’ve tried that, but the problem is that it takes me a really long time to get off orally, and it’s really tedious for both her and I because I know that her jaw’s becoming sore and I’m nowhere near climax. That doesn’t mean we don’t still do it, but it’s more foreplay to actual intercourse because it turns both her and I on. Hmmm…I seem to be answering my own questions; maybe I just need to unlearn my “skill”. ---
**Author:** ![Martiju](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e8c25b/32.png) [@Martiju](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Martiju)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2005, 1:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-tmi-so-im-a-pme-suggestions/301207/62 "2005-06-20T13:41:26Z")
I guess a whole lot of experimentation and fun foreplay is in order then. You might also try using some ‘pleasure gels’ as they are a good lubrication and prevent soreness for extended play. BTW you certainly don’t come across as the selfish one! Sex should be fun and a two-way thing. I know that now, and the knowledge’s got me over a lot of hang-ups, including PME. ---
**Author:** ![Euthanasiast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Euthanasiast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Euthanasiast)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2005, 5:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-tmi-so-im-a-pme-suggestions/301207/63 "2005-06-20T17:10:19Z")
> [@flood](#): > > Trust me, you’re better off being a PME than having my ability (curse?). I’m able to have multiples (meaning, I’m able to orgasm more than once and maintain an erection each time). My gf reaches orgasm pretty quickly (within about a minute of penetration, even less with oral stimulation) and I’m forced to bring myself to orgasm because she can’t keep going after climaxing once. This puts me an the akward position of having made myself orgasm, yet still left with an erection and a desire for more sex even after she’s done. > > Now, does anyone have any suggestions for THAT\*? > > \*Sorry for the hijack Well, that explains your username. Seriously, this is a non problem (for the OP, I mean). Since you are so fast, get her (if she is cool with it) to get you there first (orally or with her hand or any other creative means), then while you’re recovering for the next round perform all sorts of atrocities on her (oral, hand massaging, kissing slowly everywhere, etc.). Make that bed look like a Johnny Cash song when you’re done! When you’re ready again, the intercourse can begin. You should be able to last awhile now, and you can use that advantage to possibly extract a couple of orgasms out of her. Psst, come here… [whispering]Remember, if she begins to develop a rhythm of movement beneath you, go **against** the grain of it. If she starts to speed up, you slow down a little. If she’s moving to accomodate your ‘in’, move ‘out’. Do not let her govern the rhythm for very long. It’s okay to work together a little, but break it up now and again. Most women will come faster once you get this down. I don’t know why this works, it just does. If she arches a little, make it so you’re on the upstroke a bit. Practice makes perfect here. Get this right and most women will come to climax faster. Then the real fun begins… Just before she is at the point of no return, STOP. Kiss her passionately for about five seconds. then start back up again. You have to listen to her and get the feel of her body language. She’ll let you know if you’re paying attention. Do this a couple of times, but don’t go any further. Two times of this is plenty of good frustration. You’ll just piss her off if you go beyond that. Let her go on the third time. Trust me, she’ll (most women in my experience, that is.) be happy. It is always more intense. You’re welcome.[/whisper] ---
**Author:** ![Euthanasiast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Euthanasiast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Euthanasiast)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2005, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-tmi-so-im-a-pme-suggestions/301207/64 "2005-06-20T17:19:30Z")
Sorry, thought I was Dr. Ruth there for a second. ---
**Author:** ![Bites\_When\_Provoked](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bites_when_provoked/32/18073_2.png) [@Bites\_When\_Provoked](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bites_When_Provoked)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 8:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-tmi-so-im-a-pme-suggestions/301207/65 "2005-06-21T08:42:06Z")
> [@Euthanasiast](#): > > Just before she is at the point of no return, STOP. Kiss her passionately for about five seconds. then start back up again. And if she’s the sort of gal who finds that if she gets interrupted right at that point she can’t reach it again, she’ll be \*really \* irritated. Just something to consider. 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sexual-tmi-so-im-a-pme-suggestions/301207.md?page=3)