# shall I ask her out? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 21, 2016, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shall-i-ask-her-out/743824 "2016-01-21T21:01:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Philster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/13edae/32.png) [@Philster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Philster)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2016, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shall-i-ask-her-out/743824/41 "2016-01-22T15:19:41Z")
**I’m out**. Good luck, **shaqil**. Shame on anyone who suggested he just ask her out and not work around the nuances of who this guy is and the circumstances that led to them being socially connected and the nature of that connection/proximity. . ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2016, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shall-i-ask-her-out/743824/42 "2016-01-22T15:29:49Z")
She’d rather go out for a long walk than stick around to chat and have dinner with him. So, no. She’s already not interested. Don’t ask. ---
**Author:** ![Voyager](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voyager/32/133_2.png) [@Voyager](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Voyager)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2016, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shall-i-ask-her-out/743824/43 "2016-01-22T17:25:39Z")
> [@Martian Bigfoot](#): > > Major red flag, IMO. That’s the most boring movie ever made. Well, I’m not going on any dates with you! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![shaqil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5e9695/32.png) [@shaqil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shaqil)\ **Post date:** [January 26, 2016, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shall-i-ask-her-out/743824/44 "2016-01-26T00:10:48Z")
> [@Philster](#): > > **I’m out**. > > Good luck, **shaqil**. > > Shame on anyone who suggested he just ask her out and not work around the nuances of who this guy is and the circumstances that led to them being socially connected and the nature of that connection/proximity. > > . thanks ---
**Author:** ![Omar\_Little](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omar_little/32/269_2.png) [@Omar\_Little](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omar_Little)\ **Post date:** [January 26, 2016, 2:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shall-i-ask-her-out/743824/45 "2016-01-26T14:55:04Z")
Well **shaqil** , what are you going to do or have you done? It’s been almost a week since you opened this thread. What have you decided? ---
**Author:** ![shaqil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5e9695/32.png) [@shaqil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shaqil)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2016, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shall-i-ask-her-out/743824/46 "2016-01-28T21:42:30Z")
> [@Omar\_Little](#): > > Well **shaqil** , what are you going to do or have you done? It’s been almost a week since you opened this thread. What have you decided? Hello Omer, Well she is not around for a while as she has been visiting her family for a few days. I am gonna take things easy and will be just friend with her and will try to go out with her for dinner and would do some other activities together. Lets see how things progress, I fI get any indication that she is also interested in me then I will think to take it further, do you think its sounds okay to you?? ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2016, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shall-i-ask-her-out/743824/47 "2016-01-28T23:56:18Z")
Is she staying there as a permanent roommate, or just an extended visit? ---
**Author:** ![shaqil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5e9695/32.png) [@shaqil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shaqil)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2016, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shall-i-ask-her-out/743824/48 "2016-01-31T19:12:03Z")
[quote=“gigi, post:47, topic:743824”] Is she staying there as a permanent roommate, or just an extended visit?[/QUOT Permanent roommate ---
**Author:** ![Stringbean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Stringbean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stringbean)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2016, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shall-i-ask-her-out/743824/49 "2016-01-31T21:58:05Z")
28 and never had a girlfriend? Yikes… ---
**Author:** ![Urbanredneck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ea5d25/32.png) [@Urbanredneck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urbanredneck)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2016, 11:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shall-i-ask-her-out/743824/50 "2016-02-01T11:50:24Z")
This is part of the reason I dont recommend mixed housing arrangements. The worse thing that could happen is they become a couple, then who pays the rent and all. ---
**Author:** ![Stoneburg](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@Stoneburg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoneburg)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2016, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shall-i-ask-her-out/743824/51 "2016-02-01T13:10:44Z")
One word: Alcohol. ---
**Author:** ![dba\_Fred](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/c37758/32.png) [@dba\_Fred](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dba_Fred)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2016, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shall-i-ask-her-out/743824/52 "2016-02-01T17:23:48Z")
Nobody thought to point the guy to this thread: [Finding Love on Straight Dope](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=19043370)? _Sheesh_ ---
**Author:** ![Charlie\_Wayne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4bbf92/32.png) [@Charlie\_Wayne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Charlie_Wayne)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2016, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shall-i-ask-her-out/743824/53 "2016-02-01T20:12:41Z")
I’m curious about something. The tone of your writing suggests you were sharing an apt with another male and all of a sudden, there were two females who were sharing the same apt with you. It’s as if this just happened and you had no part in it. This sounds very strange to me. Usually, if two males are sharing an apt and two other people want to share it to, they have a discussion about that and each of them gets to say what they want. You make it sound like you just woke up one day and the two females were there. That sounds very strange. It doesn’t sound real. How big is the apt? Is it a one bedroom? If so where do the two males sleep and where do the two females sleep? Something about this setup just doesn’t sound right to me. ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2016, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shall-i-ask-her-out/743824/54 "2016-02-01T22:16:16Z")
> [@shaqil](#): > > Permanent roommate In that case, do not ask her out or it will get very uncomfortable very fast. Just be a friendly roommate. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2016, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shall-i-ask-her-out/743824/55 "2016-02-01T22:28:51Z")
> [@shaqil](#): > > Hello Omer, > Well she is not around for a while as she has been visiting her family for a few days. I am gonna take things easy and will be just friend with her and will try to go out with her for dinner and would do some other activities together. Lets see how things progress, I fI get any indication that she is also interested in me then I will think to take it further, > do you think its sounds okay to you?? I think that’s a very good idea. Particularly since you live together and you really don’t want things to get awkward. > [@Stringbean](#): > > 28 and never had a girlfriend? > > Yikes… Dude, not helping. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shall-i-ask-her-out/743824.md?page=2)