# Share a bed? Which side do you sleep on? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 6, 2009, 1:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-a-bed-which-side-do-you-sleep-on/516506 "2009-11-06T01:01:56Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![cuberdon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/45deac/32.png) [@cuberdon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cuberdon)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2009, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-a-bed-which-side-do-you-sleep-on/516506/81 "2009-11-09T21:10:16Z")
It seemed obvious to me that the question is asked from the pov of laying on the bed. From that perspective I sleep on the left. In our case, it’s because that’s the side with the reading light and alarm clock. ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2009, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-a-bed-which-side-do-you-sleep-on/516506/82 "2009-11-09T22:22:41Z")
> [@LouiseE](#): > > It seemed obvious to me that the question is asked from the pov of laying on the bed. From that perspective I sleep on the left. In our case, it’s because that’s the side with the reading light and alarm clock. You only have a reading light on _one_ side of your bed? :eek: Seriously, that idea is as foreign to me as the idea of only _one_ of us being able to use the indoor bathroom and the other one having to use the privy, or something. . . We do only have one alarm clock (though admittedly, it’s a “dual” jobbie, where you can set two separate alarms), but it’s never occurred to either of us that you could have just _one_ reading light. ---
**Author:** ![Infovore](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/infovore/32/420_2.png) [@Infovore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Infovore)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2009, 11:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-a-bed-which-side-do-you-sleep-on/516506/83 "2009-11-09T23:09:37Z")
I sleep on the left side, which is closest to the door. Looking back over our sleeping arrangements over the years, I’m always on the left side but who’s closer to the door is irrelevant: sometimes it’s him, sometimes it’s me. I always attributed the bed-side thing to the fact that I’m left handed and he’s right handed, so it’s easier for us to reach things on our respective nightstands. No idea, though, really. It just always seems to happen that way. ---
**Author:** ![Infovore](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/infovore/32/420_2.png) [@Infovore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Infovore)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2009, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-a-bed-which-side-do-you-sleep-on/516506/84 "2009-11-09T23:10:44Z")
> [@Shot\_From\_Guns](#): > > Ah yes, zombie cats do have a love of faces. > > _… What?_ She’s after your braaaaiiinnnnnns, of course. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-a-bed-which-side-do-you-sleep-on/516506/85 "2009-11-10T04:25:27Z")
I have at least a couple of friends who swear the middle is the way to go, sleeping between two ladies. ---
**Author:** ![Hari\_Seldon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hari_seldon/32/5173_2.png) [@Hari\_Seldon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hari_Seldon)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-a-bed-which-side-do-you-sleep-on/516506/86 "2009-11-10T17:59:25Z")
I have slept on the left side for as long as I can remember (I’ve been married 45+ years). But if we are in twin beds with the bed table between, I always take the right hand bed since I am acustomed to having the bed table to my left and she on her right. But even then, if one of us moves over to the other’s bed (even if just to hug a bit) whoever it is will now switch sides, since anything else feels “kinky”. ---
**Author:** ![Ceejaytee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ceejaytee/32/2956_2.png) [@Ceejaytee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ceejaytee)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-a-bed-which-side-do-you-sleep-on/516506/87 "2009-11-10T20:00:31Z")
It’s not really a left/right preference, it’s a “which side is closest to the bathroom” preference. Currently, that’s the left side (I’m female). In our last 2 apartments, I slept on the right. ---
**Author:** ![Random\_Design](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/58f4c7/32.png) [@Random\_Design](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Random_Design)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2009, 1:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-a-bed-which-side-do-you-sleep-on/516506/88 "2009-11-16T13:41:44Z")
switch sides every night. Mostly so we can wear the mattress more evenly, because I’m ~85kg and she’s less than half that. ---
**Author:** ![Teacake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Teacake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Teacake)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2009, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-a-bed-which-side-do-you-sleep-on/516506/89 "2009-11-16T19:54:41Z")
Right side of the bed. Right handed. It has nothing to do with reaching things on the bedside table. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2009, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-a-bed-which-side-do-you-sleep-on/516506/90 "2009-11-16T20:37:52Z")
> [@BigNik](#): > > I sleep nearest the door. If she wants that side, I tend not to be able to get to sleep. Doesn’t matter whether it’s right or left. I remember reading some research that men generally choose the side near the door, and the women the “safest” side farthest from the entrance. ---
**Author:** ![Chopper9760](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/cdc98d/32.png) [@Chopper9760](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chopper9760)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2009, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-a-bed-which-side-do-you-sleep-on/516506/91 "2009-11-17T00:15:28Z")
Female. I’ve slept left and right sides, near as I can tell, the correct side depends upon how the room is arranged. I like having a night table for my laptop, lamp, alarm, .44, back scratcher, lube, whathaveyou. If both sides have adequate furniture, I’d pick closest to the window and furthest from the door. ---
**Author:** ![Mama\_Zappa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/71e660/32.png) [@Mama\_Zappa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mama_Zappa)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2009, 4:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-a-bed-which-side-do-you-sleep-on/516506/92 "2009-11-18T04:42:54Z")
Um, the top? 😉 I put “on the left” because that’s the side closest to the bathroom. As I’m the one most often heading that way during the night, I always grab that side wherever we’re living / staying. At our last house the bath was on the right side of the bed so I slept there. ---
**Author:** ![EvilTOJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee59a6/32.png) [@EvilTOJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EvilTOJ)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2009, 10:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-a-bed-which-side-do-you-sleep-on/516506/93 "2009-11-18T10:10:47Z")
I sleep on the right, so if any monsters break in they eat her first. On the couch though, I always sit on the left as I’m lefthanded and she’s righthanded, and we eat dinner there oftentimes. ---
**Author:** ![chela](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chela/32/21582_2.png) [@chela](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chela)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2009, 12:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-a-bed-which-side-do-you-sleep-on/516506/94 "2009-11-18T12:02:47Z")
Currenntly left side sleeper, the previous 20 odd years I was on the R. Even when traveling I got the RH side. Until we enlarged the bedroom and his stuff remained in the room to the right and my stuff fit in the room to the left. So we switched. The bed size is a queen,i would prefer a king so I don’t have to roll over in situ. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-a-bed-which-side-do-you-sleep-on/516506.md?page=4)