# Share The Letter You Need To Send To Yourself
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
**Created:** [November 30, 2010, 11:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400 "2010-11-30T11:47:08Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@Hal\_Briston](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hal_Briston)
#### Post date: [November 30, 2010, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/21 "2010-11-30T22:00:14Z")
Hal,
Yes, he’s been your best friend since high school. And yes, he’ll quite likely be dead by his own hand within the next couple of days. But believe it or not, situations do exist where that _really is_ probably for the best. Quit worrying about how people will react when they find out you knew about this ahead of time, and just be there for his family.
You gave your word…suck it up and keep it.
Hal
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### Author:  [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)
#### Post date: [December 1, 2010, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/22 "2010-12-01T01:24:02Z")
> [@Asimovian](#):
>
> Your girlfriend and friends are not going to scream bloody murder should you opt to take an afternoon to read, or do laundry, or watch TV, or do NOTHING. It’s OK, really.
Yes, it is!
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### Author:  [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)
#### Post date: [December 1, 2010, 2:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/23 "2010-12-01T14:05:18Z")
> [@Maastricht](#):
>
> If you work, work. Don’t spoil it by goofing around.
>
> When you are scheduled to goof around, do so. Don’t spoil it by working, or feeling guilty about work you should still do. Goof.
These are all great, but I especially like this. It’s so close to my advice to Wake Up, it’s practically identical.
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### Author:  [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)
#### Post date: [December 1, 2010, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/24 "2010-12-01T14:19:13Z")
Dear **Elendil’s Heir** :
To be blunt, you should procrastinate less. Exercise more. Be more patient with your kids. And on the career front, be hopeful but not unrealistic.
Onward and upward.
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### Author:  [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)
#### Post date: [December 1, 2010, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/25 "2010-12-01T16:32:59Z")
> [@jsgoddess](#):
>
> Yes, it is!
Quiet, you. 🙂
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### Author:  [@KennerTheGreat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KennerTheGreat)
#### Post date: [December 1, 2010, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/26 "2010-12-01T21:38:27Z")
Dear Kenner:
Your kids love you. Really they do. Don’t get so mad at them, even when they disobey you. You know full well you did the same crap to your mom and dad, and they didn’t yell at you half as loud or as often as you do with your kids.
Besides, your little boy will be off to school next year, and the house will be empty during the day. Just hang in there.
Sincerely
Jeremy
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### Author:  [@interface2x](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/interface2x)
#### Post date: [December 2, 2010, 12:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/27 "2010-12-02T00:34:12Z")
Hey me,
Maybe you’ll be less tired in the morning if you just go to bed earlier, jackass.
Love,
me.
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### Author:  [@Nocturne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nocturne)
#### Post date: [December 2, 2010, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/28 "2010-12-02T01:18:34Z")
Dear Nocturne,
There are some people you can’t save, and some people you shouldn’t save. And right now they’re all overlapping. So let them sink or swim on their own.
Love!
Nocturne
P.S. Your posture’s not bad, kid, but do something with your hair.
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### Author:  [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)
#### Post date: [December 2, 2010, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/29 "2010-12-02T01:31:56Z")
E, for Effort.
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### Author:  [@Lobsang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobsang)
#### Post date: [December 2, 2010, 1:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/30 "2010-12-02T01:45:49Z")
Dear Lobsang.
Er… Hi.
Lobsang.
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### Author:  [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)
#### Post date: [December 2, 2010, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/31 "2010-12-02T03:34:40Z")
Younger Rachel,
Please tell someone. Your mother probably won’t believe you now, but tell someone else.
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### Author:  [@moejoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moejoe)
#### Post date: [December 2, 2010, 5:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/32 "2010-12-02T05:35:26Z")
Dear Moejoe,
No person or thing or miracle is going to show up and save you, seriously. You’re going to have to manage it yourself, so get cracking.
P.S. You _can too_ do it. Your superpower is endurance, plus you’re a snappy dresser, and that counts for a lot.
Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions or concerns.
Yours Truly,
-moejoe
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### Author:  [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)
#### Post date: [December 2, 2010, 7:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/33 "2010-12-02T07:20:42Z")
Dear Sunspace,
Quit beating yourself up. Silence that little voice that always puts you down. Yes, even on the boards. You aren’t the monster you believe yourself to be; you do in fact have the capability to nurture and support others–or you wouldn’t be looking forward to meeting Aisha’s new kid.
And you’ve just come through a total remake of your living conditions after the layoff. City-dwelling subway-rider to small-town car owner? And starting a business? You haven’t gone through a change this big since you went to university! And you’re slowly meeting people!
Yes, you have always hemmed and hawed and struggled over things, but then you put your shoulders to the wheel and do it anyways. You did that at age 10, when going to school meant only shame and fear, but you went. And you do that now. The one thing that is a constant in your life is the stubbornness you have that causes you to make yourself over again, and again, until you find whatever you need to be for the current conditions.
Yes, you had problems in perception and social skills, but you know about that now, and you can compensate. And you even had dates last year! With a beautiful woman, even. Life and romance didn’t end at forty. And even though you broke up, there may be other chances in the future.
It’s not over yet, and it’s better than you thought. There’s something to live for.
Take care,
Sunspace
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### Author:  [@congodwarf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/congodwarf)
#### Post date: [December 2, 2010, 9:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/34 "2010-12-02T09:47:44Z")
Dear Congo,
I know you’re tired and sick and in a really bad mood. But, if you’re not going to sleep, you need to get your lazy ass off the SDMB and Facebook and do your homework. It’s not going to do itself, especially after you pass out from sheer exhaustion later in the day.
Regards,
Yourself.
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### Author:  [@Snickers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snickers)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/35 "2010-12-03T21:48:05Z")
Snickers,
Those extra few pounds aren’t going to lose themselves. You’re doing better on the eating, now step that up a bit more. More importantly, start working out more - it’ll only help lots.
Yours,
Snicks
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### Author:  [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 9:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/36 "2010-12-03T21:55:28Z")
> [@moejoe](#):
>
> Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions or concerns.
>
> Yours Truly,
> -moejoe
Ha. This made me smile.
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### Author:  [@Kolga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kolga)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/37 "2010-12-03T21:59:04Z")
Dear Kolga,
Honey, those assignments and papers aren’t going to grade themselves. Yes, some of them suck, but some of them are actually quite good. Regardless of the quality, your students deserve your efforts, and whining at the stack of grading isn’t going to make the grade fairies appear, no matter how much you try to entice them with shiny things.
Your SO also deserves to have you at home in a stable frame of mind and not going in eleventy-zillion directions mentally. This happens every six months (May and December), like clockwork, so figure out a way to get more balanced and less frazzled.
Your friends and family love you - would it kill you to call some of them some time? See above about the balance.
Sleep more. Meditate more. Walk the dog more. It’s okay to not work every single minute of every single day. Regardless of your irrational fears, you are not going to end up a bag lady living under the I-70 viaduct.
Love,
Kolga
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### Author:  [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mean_Mr.Mustard)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 10:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/38 "2010-12-03T22:57:14Z")
Dear Mr. Mustard,
For the love of God, stop writing to me!
I’m YOU, you psycho sonofabitch!
Mr. Mustard
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### Author:  [@Buttercup\_Smith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Buttercup_Smith)
#### Post date: [December 5, 2010, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/39 "2010-12-05T04:00:52Z")
Dear Fed up,
You are a good person. You really do care about everyone you come into contact with. Make
a plan and stick to it regarding being a better boss. Either take the time to train the lead you
were given or take the time to document her inability to learn and get rid of her ass. Take the
time to get a vacation as the job will go on without you for a week. Visit your family for good-
ness sake, they are not going to visit you so if you want to see your brothers and sisters
before they die of old age then do it. Quit smoking, make that dentist appt. and start your
diet. Start saving money. Tell your new boss you need help or less responsibilty. Stop being
a worry wart. Try to smile more and be positive. Your posture could be better. It’s also time
for a haircut. Stop sleeping all weekend. These days are for fun things instead of being a
lazy ass and then feeling as if the weekend was wasted.
Just Do It,
Fed up
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### Author:  [@Incref](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incref)
#### Post date: [January 4, 2011, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/share-the-letter-you-need-to-send-to-yourself/562400/40 "2011-01-04T14:51:47Z")
Dear Incref,
Though it took you a month to work up the courage to come back to this thread it was worth it!
You are not alone and things are looking far brighter after taking your own advice.
Much love,
Incref
PS
This may be the two weeks of holidays talking.
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