# She asked me out, again. We went out, again. And once again... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 3, 2013, 6:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-asked-me-out-again-we-went-out-again-and-once-again/651933 "2013-03-03T18:56:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![YogSothoth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/8edcca/32.png) [@YogSothoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YogSothoth)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2013, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-asked-me-out-again-we-went-out-again-and-once-again/651933/41 "2013-03-07T00:12:56Z")
Don’t let her keep playing you for a fool. Get her to commit to some date, and tell her that if she has to ditch work, be late, and miss deadlines, then that’s what she has to do. You’ll tolerate no more BS. This will either drive her off or make her submit ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2013, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-asked-me-out-again-we-went-out-again-and-once-again/651933/42 "2013-03-07T04:02:06Z")
> [@YogSosoth](#): > > Don’t let her keep playing you for a fool. Get her to commit to some date, and tell her that if she has to ditch work, be late, and miss deadlines, then that’s what she has to do. You’ll tolerate no more BS. This will either drive her off or make her submit And by “submit” you mean…? ---
**Author:** ![YogSothoth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/8edcca/32.png) [@YogSothoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YogSothoth)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2013, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-asked-me-out-again-we-went-out-again-and-once-again/651933/43 "2013-03-08T17:08:15Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > And by “submit” you mean…? Get her to behave in the way the OP wants, which is to be more mindful of other people’s time and feelings. Basically, give her an ultimatum: “Call me back or I’m dropping you”. Seeing how flaky she is, I’d probably hope she doesn’t call back and I can move on. But if I can fix her behavior, I would ---
**Author:** ![kayT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayt/32/3633_2.png) [@kayT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayT)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2013, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-asked-me-out-again-we-went-out-again-and-once-again/651933/44 "2013-03-08T17:25:51Z")
I guess dating is really different than it was back in my day (rapping cane on floor). Two days for an answer doesn’t seem all that long. I don’t think you can assume she’s not interested if she didn’t answer in two days, especially as she has a very busy job. Why on earth should you write someone off “she’s not into you” that fast? Especially since SHE asked HIM out, twice. It’s really possible to be busy for a whole two days. Or, it used to be. Also, I agree with everything **even sven** said. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2013, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-asked-me-out-again-we-went-out-again-and-once-again/651933/45 "2013-03-08T17:27:59Z")
> [@YogSosoth](#): > > Get her to behave in the way the OP wants, which is to be more mindful of other people’s time and feelings. Basically, give her an ultimatum: “Call me back or I’m dropping you”. Seeing how flaky she is, I’d probably hope she doesn’t call back and I can move on. But if I can fix her behavior, I would A little controlling and psychotic, but hey, if it works for you… ---
**Author:** ![ReticulatingSplines](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e274bd/32.png) [@ReticulatingSplines](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ReticulatingSplines)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2013, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-asked-me-out-again-we-went-out-again-and-once-again/651933/46 "2013-03-08T17:46:44Z")
> [@kayT](#): > > I guess dating is really different than it was back in my day (rapping cane on floor). Two days for an answer doesn’t seem all that long. It was a TEXT; odds are she saw it the second it came in and unlike returning a phone call, you can reply to it almost wherever you are. It wasn’t like a telegram. At any rate, the norms are different now. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2013, 12:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-asked-me-out-again-we-went-out-again-and-once-again/651933/47 "2013-03-11T12:23:52Z")
> [@Kepler1571](#): > > You could ask her. > > But that would be treating her like a human being, rather than a puzzle, a prize, or an enchanted forest. And ruin any chances he has, sure. Women do NOT like being put on the spot for things like this. It always winds up with them feeling pressured to go along, while not really feeling it. I’ve done it several times and it’s always failed. Not that I really think you believe this is a good idea, seeing the not-so-hidden insult in your comment. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2013, 12:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-asked-me-out-again-we-went-out-again-and-once-again/651933/48 "2013-03-11T12:25:45Z")
> [@QuickSilver](#): > > A little controlling and psychotic, but hey, if it works for you… People could use a lot more of that, really. We sit and whine about how shitty the world is, but we don’t do our part to try and change it. We make up stupid rules about how rude it is to try improve other people’s lives. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-asked-me-out-again-we-went-out-again-and-once-again/651933.md?page=2)